Photos From the Second Reception

I know we have all been waiting for some wedding photos. This is the best I could do for the time being. These are photos taken by a blogger who attended the second wedding reception in Arkansas.

http://arkansaswatch.blogspot.com/2008/10/josh-and-anna-duggar-arkansas-wedding.html

Also, if you read the blog, you will see how Jim Bob was the one who announced "You may kiss the bride" and the happy couple was told many times to be fruitful!!!

New Episode - "Cheaper By The Duggars" 10/20/08

Watch how the Duggars save money when buying clothing and food, heating their home and even growing their own vegetables. You'll have a new understanding of the word thrifty after watching this episode!

An Abundance of Grandchildren

It was interesting to hear Grandpa Duggar's comments on the last episode about how difficult it was for him to accept Jim Bob and Michelles' choice to have so many children. He also said that Michelle's father had a problem with it as well, but they accepted the decision, but thought they had enough. It made me think about if one of my two daughters decided to go that route (highely unlikely), but how would I deal with such a surfeit of grandchildren?

I think the answer is not very well. I adore my children and want the very best for them. Unfortunately, I get caught in the trap of trying to keep up financial demands of one in high school and one in graduate school. The costs are different from when I was their age, cell phones, cars, the price of gasoline, car insurance and health insurance.

Then there is college. Tuition and housing costs are much more expensive than when I was a student. I didn't know anyone who went out of state, or even to a private college, but today it is very common and the pressure is on for parents. Obviously, I could say no to all these things.

So what do I want for my future grandchildren? I hope to get to know them very well. I hope to be able to spend as much time as possible with them, I hope that I can be a hands-on-grandma and be able to indulge them, not just financially, but in every aspect of their lives. I hope to be able to spend one-on-one time with them whenever feasible. If one of my girls had 10/15/18 children, I don't know how that would be possible.

They would never fit in my house for holiday dinners, and Christmas and birthday presents would be a nightmare. I could never really bond with them all and would probably have to pick a few favorites, which isn't much of a choice. I am sure I would learn to deal with it, but is it something that I would be happy with? Probably not.

New Episode - When Big Families Collide 10-13-08

What's crazier than a family with 17, soon to be 18 kids? How about a family with 16 -- soon to be 17 -- kids coming to visit! Meet the Bates family from Tennessee, who have decided to visit the Duggars in Arkansas. Hosting another mega-family proves to be a challenge for Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar, but as usual around the Duggar home, there's always a plan.

New Episode - Bates vs. Duggars Smackdown 10/13/08

Big families like competition; and by big families, we mean BIG families. The Bates family has 16 --soon to be 17 --children. They traveled all the way from Nashville to visit their friends the Duggars. What do you get when you combine two mega-families, each with a pregnant mom? A total of 33 children and a competitive spirit, not to mention chaos! Watch what happens as the Duggars compete with the Bates in paintball, and dare each other to jump out of an airplane.

J-Baby

The due date of the new Duggar baby girl is somewhere around New Year's Day. Any guesses as to what they will name her? What you would like to see them name her?

Religion Should Be Off-Limits

I was thinking about this as I was washing tonight's dishes (dishwasher broken, no money for a new one) and it occurs to me that some folks have an axe to grind with everything.... they bitch when the Gosselins don't act like Christians, then they bitch that the Duggars act too Christian. They whine about J&K's kids wearing the latest Gymboree, then groan because the Duggars wear second-hand clothes. Kate has a silly haircut; Michelle has no haircut at all and that bothers some folks. I could go on..... however, the religion thing bothers me because no matter what religion they choose, isn't it every American's right to believe the way they want? SO why do others feel they should criticize?? Pick on their clothes or their "courting" or their accents, but I think religion should be off-limits. As long as bashing of a religion is allowed, it leaves an opening for nasty arguments and a whole lotta hate on the blog.

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What Will Become Of The Duggar Children?

The Duggars have always had the ability to stir up a lot of opinions and controversy amongst viewers of their show. On the one hand they seem a nice group of people, polite and cheerful. They obviously are extremely religious and many of their actions and attitudes are formed by their faith. They appear to be a loving family and very devoted to each other. They have put contraception into the hands of God and have 17 very attractive children.

Many viewers have expressed concern about what might be the "darker" side of the Duggars. Do they use physical punishment, and how far do they take it? Is their choice of homeschooling their children a way to separate the children from the outside world? Are they in fact getting a decent education, or any education at all? Are the girls being forced into domestic drudgery at their young ages? Will the children ever have a chance to break away from the "Duggar mold" and experience college, or a life outside the Duggar compound?

So far we are only seeing the eldest child, Josh leave the nest with his marriage to Anna. He isn't moving very far away and is involved in a family business. Seeing that he is only 20 years old, we really do not know if this will always be the case. It is possible that he and Anna may move on later. Or perhaps he will emulate his father and start his own dynasty of children and his own family compound. He seems to be quite an intelligent young man and he may be more ambitious than we suspect. If he starts his own family, he may want to achieve more for his family and that may require leaving the enviornment that he grew up in. Josh's situation was probably predictable to most of us, but there are at this time 16 1/2 children left at home, and their stories may not all be similar.

This is one of the more intriguing aspects of the Duggars, have they trained (or as some would say) punished their children into being brain-washed and having no opinion or options in life except the Duggar decree? Or are they really the loving, happy family that many viewers find them to be. Is it possible that the children will choose this life or to follow upon its principles because they found their childhoods to be so idyllic? If indeed the children are being indoctrinated into the dictates of their parents, there are bound to be a few rebels. You can't fool all of the people all of the time. Of course there can be rebels in any group, we certainly are not all wired the same. I will be interested to see how the story unfolds over the years, it is almost like watching a sociology experiment over time. I do wish them the very best.