Michelle's Parentables

I think it may be easier if they are kept together.

September 7, 2012, Helping Kids Through a Crisis

September 14, 2012, Movie Night

September 27, 2012, Cheap Musical Instruments

October 4, 2012, Life, Death, and Bambi Problems

November 13, 2012, The Duggars' Snacking Secrets

November 30, 2012, The Importance of Giving Back

December 7, 2012, Teaching Young Adults About Modesty 

December 14, 2012 Making Birthdays Special

December 28, 2012 Giving Thanks for the New Year

January 4, 2013 Growing Kinds into Adulthood

January 11, 2013 Teaching Your Toddler to Communicate with Sign Language

January 18, 2013 Meal Plans and Involving the Kids

January 25, 2013 A Warm Home on a Budget

February 1, 2013 Favorite Indoor Activities at the Duggar House

February 8, 2013 How the Duggars Share Love on Valentine's Day

March 1, 2013, How the Duggars Got Hooked on Homeschooling

March 8, 2013, How the Duggars Pack for a Trip

March 15, 2013, How Michelle Keeps the Kids Happy While Traveling

March 22, 2013, Michelle Duggar's Snapshot of Japan

March 29, 2013, How the Duggars Celebrate Easter

April 5, 2013, Michelle Duggar's Spring Cleaning Secrets

April 12, 2013, The Duggar Family's Musical Background

April 22, 2013, Michelle Duggar's Advice for First-Time Mom

April 29, 2013, A Day in the Life of Michelle Duggar and Her Kids

May 3, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Taking a Break

May 9, 2013, Celebrating Three Generations of Mothers in the Duggar Family

May 24, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Healthy Changes for the Whole Family

May 31, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Kids Becoming Adults (Jana and Jill and midwifery)

June 10, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Welcoming a new Grandbaby

June 16, 2013, Welcoming a new GrandDuggar

June 21, 2013, Jill and Jana Duggar on Midwifery

June 28, 2013, How Michelle Duggar Deals with Her Daughter's Food Sensitivities

July 2, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Celebrating the Fourth of July

July 12, 2013 Duggars on the Move: How the Family is Getting Ready for Josh and Anna's Relocation

July 26, 2013 Michelle Duggar's Snacks for Kids on the Road

August 2, 2013 Michelle Duggar on Dealing with Difficult Children

August 12, 2013 Michelle Duggar's Favorite Summer Activities for Kids

August 16, 2013 How Michelle Duggar Teaches Her Kids to be Tactful

September 3, 2013 Back to Homeschooling with the Duggars

September 9, 2013 Michelle Duggar on Her Family's Buddy System

September 17, 2013 How Michelle Duggar Spends Her "Me Time"

September 20, 2013 Michelle Duggar on Courtship

September 30, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Why She Chose Modest Dress

October 7, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Teaching Her Daughters About Modesty

October 18, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Raising a Strong-Willed Child

November 1, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Creating Keepsake Boxes

November 8, 2013, Michelle Duggar's Top Tips on Communicating with Your Kids

November 18, 2013, The Duggar Family's Favorite Fall Desserts

November 22, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Giving Thanks

December 6, 2013, Michelle Duggar on Celebrating Birthdays for 19 Kids

December 13, 2013, The Duggars' Favorite Christmas Traditions

February 7, 2014, Michelle Duggar on Raising Twins

February 12, 2014, Michelle Duggar on Celebrating Valentine's Day

March 7, 2014, Michelle Duggar Tells All: Her First Date with Jim Bob

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Alberta Rose said...

Freedom is not the right to do what I want, but the power to do what I ought. And we get that power from God; from grace. So I often remind my kids during those trials that choices are all around us, and that I've seen the benefits that come from choosing to honor, believe and trust."

Every choice I've made that comes from a place of honor, belief and trust has turned out to be a good one. The choices I've made based on outside influences have turned out to lead to pain, bitterness or frustration. The ones where I've turned to God and the Bible have been the ones that have lead to blessing, growth or peace in the midst of chaos.

Seriously? said...

"When I look at the world I sometimes see destruction. I see painful choices that lead to devastating ends. I've told my kids that there's a choice for every decision. And if we are not choosing to seek wise counsel, to turn our heart to God in every decision -- small or big -- then we're going to face the consequences of that."

The usual Duggar-think: The only protection from Life's pain is to a) 'seek counsel' (never having the self esteem to believe you can make your own decisions) and especially
b) The only protection against Life's pain is to be 'holy'. Said another way, when bad things happen to a person, it's a direct result of having made the wrong decision. So, if bad things in life come your way, you did something to bring it on yourself.

Yeah, tell that to those whose children were diagnosed with cancer, to women who were abused by their spouses, to couples who are unable to conceive.

I stand in the belief that Duggars Are Dumb.

Nancy said...

What Michelle has seen is really nothing. She has almost no exposure to the real world outside her bubble of protection. She only hears about things through what Gothard is preaching and what they hear when they speak at the politically-based events.

One thing they DO know is the Tea Party platform and since it tacitly endorses the merging of Church and State, the Duggars speak from this point of view, and it informs their choices.

Add their prayers to that and they come off as its their way of the highway. Given they left mainstream Christianity (and the parts of the outside world that don't profit them financially) years ago, they are woefully out of touch.

There is more than one way to handle tough times (Josie) or grief (enough about Jubilee for crying out loud). The Duggars don't allow for other coping mechanisms, but expect everyone to follow their example (isn't that what evangelicism is all about?). Really, when you think about it, it's all a giant guilt trip; I'm glad I figured this racket out years ago.

Alberta Rose said...

What Michelle has seen is really nothing. She has almost no exposure to the real world outside her bubble of protection. She only hears about things through what Gothard is preaching and what they hear when they speak at the politically-based events.

Michelle is not in a bubble of protection. They do so much volunteer work, seminars, missionary work, and just going to town or city, she knows what is happening. If she didn't, she wouldn't be in demand for blogging, writing or speaking.

sandi said...

Michelle is in a bubble,is the sense that she has never been out there on her own before.She's always had the protection of a man;first her father,then Jim Bob,to take care of her.I've always thought that she wouldn't have dare been so,so quick to snark on working mothers if she'd ever been forced to make it on her own as a mom.In that respect,she really has no personal experience from which to draw,and so I wish the Duggars would think before they draw one of their infamous lines in the sand in regard to the way others do things in life.JMO.

Alberta Rose said...

Michelle is in a bubble,is the sense that she has never been out there on her own before.She's always had the protection of a man;first her father,then Jim Bob,to take care of her.I've always thought that she wouldn't have dare been so,so quick to snark on working mothers if she'd ever been forced to make it on her own as a mom.In that respect,she really has no personal experience from which to draw,and so I wish the Duggars would think before they draw one of their infamous lines in the sand in regard to the way others do things in life.JMO

I don't regard her as drawing lines in the sand. I've seen enough of her attitude to know if we were travelling on a plane together, she'd look beyond the jeans, see the well worn Bible cover and strike up a conversation with me. Michelle Duggar is the first person I've heard comment on Dolly Parton's big heart for charity. She could have drawn a line in the sand about going to Dollywood as being too NIKE; instead she choose to focus on Dolly's singing of Gospel songs and her good works.

Seriously? said...

"I've seen enough of her attitude to know if we were travelling on a plane together, she'd look beyond the jeans, see the well worn Bible cover and strike up a conversation with me."

Yes, and the casual (aka cheap) clothing described coupled with the well worn bible would, in Duggar-think, identify you as acceptably godly and 'one of us' (the holy, chosen ones).

What does one suppose would happen if Michelle was, instead, seated next to a mini-skirted, stiletto'd, tattooed to the max and loaded down with bling, green-highlited hair woman, who opened her "Pro Choice" pamphlet as she awaited the plane's takeoff?

OR, conversely, if a woman wearing a burka, holding her well-worn edition of the Kuran sat next to any of the Duggars?

Do you seriously contend these of such differing cultures and beliefs would be warmly approached in friendship SANS an attempt to evangelize them and 'bring them to Christ'???

Patrice said...

Do you seriously contend these of such differing cultures and beliefs would be warmly approached in friendship SANS an attempt to evangelize them and 'bring them to Christ'???
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I just remember that somewhere along the line, (I am thinking the show with Dolly Parton), Michelle was asked what they do when they meet someone who is not dressed to their standards. Michelle in her baby voice said "Daddy and I pray for them" or some such nonsense. So maybe they will talk to heathens but then there is some serious prayer going on to convert us to the denim skirt/triple polo shirt look that is so desirable to God.

Seriously? said...

Michelle was asked what they do when they meet someone who is not dressed to their standards. Michelle in her baby voice said "Daddy and I pray for them"

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a) "Daddy"?????! (ick)

b) What INCREDIBLE arrogance and self righteousness to assume those of differing beliefs require Duggar PRAYERS. Is it even possible for these people to be any smaller minded/less respectful of others???

Leah said...

Jesus would talk to ANYONE on a plane. Not just someone who reads the Bible a lot. I would hope the Duggars, self-professed evangelicals, would do the same. I don't think it makes them extra good if they speak to people outside of their belief system.

However I agree; Michelle is a nice, friendly person. She could talk to a wall. In fact I'd really enjoy to have a conversation with her. Does that make her an expert parent or someone who knows every answer to life's tough questions? No. Does that mean I have to take every word she says as gospel truth? No! You can love Michelle Duggar and still see that she is deeply flawed, just like the rest of us. She just doesn't want you to know that.

sandi said...

>I don't regard her as drawing lines in the sand. I've seen enough of her attitude to know if we were travelling on a plane together, she'd look beyond the jeans, see the well worn Bible cover and strike up a conversation with me. Michelle Duggar is the first person I've heard comment on Dolly Parton's big heart for charity. She could have drawn a line in the sand about going to Dollywood as being too NIKE; instead she choose to focus on Dolly's singing of Gospel songs and her good works.

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That may be true,but there are plenty of times the Duggars draw lines in the sand between themselves and the rest of society,in regards to their beliefs and the way they do things.I've posted that many times.
But what I was referring to was the snark she used in the letter to Jubilee,about not considering her a career interruptor.That was a direct hit to working moms everywhere,and was uncalled for.JMO.

Beth Anne said...

Oh, I don't know why I keep reading these Parentables columns, because the ideas just don't string together cohesively for me.

I agree with Michelle's recommendation of turning to God in prayer during times of crisis, asking for His wisdom and insights. I think that's a great thing to teach your children, and something I've certainly had to do in both my young and adult life.

But, then she turns around and says: "Freedom is not the right to do what I want, but the power to do what I ought." There's that legalism stuff creeping in again. Who defines what she "ought" to do? I think she's trying to sell us that God should and/or does define her choices, but we've all seen the Gothard laundry lists of do this, don't do that, wear your hair this way, teach your husband grooming habits, etc.

And, I just don't see how telling someone, "Do what you ought to do" gets them through a time of crisis. During the darkest of days, sometimes all you can do is cry out in suffering and lean on others for support. The Duggars seem so worried about doing the "right" thing and acting the "right" way and having the "right" courtship with the "right" person and wearing the "right" clothing, etc....doesn't that just add to the stress? Am I missing something???

sandi said...

Bth Annae,I think it does add to the stress.They aren't being taught to operate grace,by doing the best one can and accepting that no one is perfect.Trying to live inside a box of rules and do's and don'ts just isn't the ty grace they should be living on,IMO.

Rudy Tecat said...

Aren't all the crises lately the result of pregnancy problems? So, Michelle causes the crises and then helps the kids through them. Interesting.

Nancy said...

Movie night! I guess something had to replace broomball once the rink had the gall to start CHARGING for all those people to use their ice every Friday night.

Josh actually had a "goodbye broomball" post on his Instagram. These people are a piece of work; always expecting something for nothing. Given the history, Jim Bob had this attitude before fame; Josh has it BECAUSE of it.

As for the movies, their limited selection is going to get really old, really fast.

Melissa said...

The movie night written on the 14th doesn't sound like Michelle's writing skills.

sarah taylor said...

Beth Anne,
The reason it makes no sense is because the quote is not all there and Michelle is taking it out of context... the actual quote is...

Abraham Lincoln : Freedom is not the right to do what we want, but what we ought. Let us have faith that right makes might and in that faith let us; to the end, dare to do our duty as we understand it.

BTW... When did this whole TV thing start??

Wampascat said...

Are they still watching the super tiny portable TV they keep locked in the closet?I thought it only came out when the blessings watched Jim Bob and Michelle on morning television appearances. Maybe they go to Josh and Anna's. They have a huge TV and a Satellite Dish, but it's only for educational purposes, of course. (rolls eyes)

Leah said...

I'm guessing we will see an episode about movie night soon. Something tells me they've only been doing this for about 3 weeks considering she could only name 3 movies. Why Bambi? Are animal-themed disneys movies considered "ok" in their world? Anything goes as long as there is NO premarital smooching or defrauding cartoon-women wearing pants.


Seriously? said...

Movie night. This seems another one of TLC's tried-&-true planned and acted scenarios. We've seen this same stuff on the Gosselins.

Can you imagine being past about age 10 and being expected to be enthralled with movies like 'Bambi' AT HOME and WITH NO FRIENDS, JUST YOUR SIBLINGS AND PARENTS?

Michelle's Parentables can be easily summed up: "How to Keep Your Offspring Eternal Children, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually.

Pathetic that this is held as some kind of role model we are supposed to want to emulate.

sandi said...

I wonder if Michelle will put little surprises in the popcorn like Kate did.LOL.
I hope the little ones don't get upset and cry for Bambi like some of the Gosselin kids did.

Wampascat said...

Wow! Bambi! I'm sure John David , Jana and the rest of the gang over the age of ten cant'twait for that! I can't even imagine how long the days are for those grown up, trapped, life going nowhere Duggars. I'dlove to see half a dozen of them load up one of the cars and just take off. Now that would be worth watching!

joy anne said...

You can make things fun and special by choosing age-appropriate activities like the movie nights. Something like: "This movie is for Mom & Dad & the big kids to watch. We have a special movie for you (little ones) to watch later." It must be nearly impossible to find good, wholesome family entertainment for the whole age range of kids.

Patrice said...

Or how about "Mom and Dad and the little ones are going to make popcorn and watch Bambi. Everyone age 12 on up, here is some money. Drive yourselves to the Cineplex, each of you pick a movie you want to see and meet out in front at the end. We'll get the little ones to bed like we should have been doing for the last ten years. Have fun! Oh, and drop Gramma off at Marge's house so they can go out to eat and have some good conversation." Oh, what a pipe dream that is.

Beginning to not be a Fan said...

For some reason the newest parentables links you to someones blog, not the parentable. So I went to the Duggars home page and read it there. So annoyed. Do these people believe they are the only ones that know how to shop around for a good deal. Do they not realize how long people have been picking, garage saling, etc.? There is even this really cool thing called Craigs List (enter sarcasm here), where people go to sell and buy all kinds of used things. In fact I just sold my husbands used Clarinet through CL. I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm a little tired of reading/hearing and being imparted with Duggar wisdom. TLC hear our prayers and let these people go.

Sharla said...

The link is updated.

Nancy said...

w/r/t the cheap instruments, you get what you pay for. As someone who played piano and flute for over 10 years each, my ears bleed contemplating the thought of listening to them play. And you can't trust a lot of stuff coming out of pawn shops, especially violins, which are easily faked and the item for which there is the greatest need.

Patti said...

"got a phone call from a piano teacher that knew of our search. They had found..."
A (singular) piano teacher THAT (who)knew of our search...THEY (plural) had found... Great grammar usage, MOTY. Three errors in a small part of one sentence. The SOTDRT lives on!
And yes, Michelle, for the twelve millionth time, we know how clever you are to buy used and save the difference. Only thing is, as someone above said, musical instruments are not the best thing to buy at Goodwill or the pawn shop. However, with the quality of Duggar music, you could probably buy a top class Steinway and a Stradivarius and no doubt it would still sound just as awful.

Melissa said...

Don't even know what to say about the latest "Bambi" post except 'wow.' Is that really Michelle writing this stuff?

tulip said...

Another recipe made with canned crescent rolls...actually, I'm pretty sure this is a recipe I've seen many places, oh, but I guess it's "Michelle's recipe" because of her "secret ingredient"-Mountain Dew? The Duggars have proven they always have to pour something unhealthy over top of everything they bake. Supposedly they do a lot of apple picking? Surprising...they've never had the family-trip-to-the-orchard episode that we've seen with other reality shows. What we have seen, however, was Michelle grab a bag of apples from Walmart to make "homemade" applesauce.

Beth Anne said...

Snacking "secrets?" So, it's some Gothard secret that people can pick and then snack on apples? Wow, how enlightening!

And, when she is talking about the "kids" going to the apple orchards and eagerly eating apples afterward, does she have the adult offspring in mind? Does she expect John David and Jill and Joseph to eagerly hop in the van to partake in something that is typically more exciting for youngsters, or in her mind are they all still small kids?

Melissa said...

The apples/mt dew recipe has been around for awhile. I got that recipe from someone back around 2007 and made it once. It is tasty.
Once again the reference to their love for pickles....

HondaMom said...

That apple dumpling recipe is straight out of Taste of Home magazine.

Wampascat said...

They have all that acreage. They could start their own orchard very easily and do something with all that fallow land. It would take some work and diligence. The Duggars are alwys spouting about how they have fortitude in abundance. Let's see it put to a practical use. They also could raise a huge garden and be able to preserve and can their food. That might be encouraging.

sandi said...

Wampascat,that's what I thought the show was going to be all about when I first started watching.Not on welfare,that many kids=they must be really savvy,right? Wrong! I never dreamed it would be about so much convenience.I thought I might surely learn something from them,instead,I find myself blessed that my own family is well-educated and not so cloistered from the world.JMO.

SmokeyKitty said...

Since when do the Duggars volunteer or serve the community? They have only volunteered when the cameras were on them. Michelle and her family are definitely living in a bubble. They live in a bubble where they are right and everyone else is wrong. This is a woman who left the bedside of her micropreemie to campaign against a business owner who wanted to sell beer at his convenience store. There's nothing more out of touch. I hope the girls rebel and end up whatever the opposite of their mother is.

Miggy said...

So Michelle loved waking up on thanksgiving to the smell of turkey and the delicious pumpkin pies made by her mom. She hopes her kids will have the same memories.

Sorry Michelle. Your kids are going to remember eating the turkey and pumpkin pies cooked by Jana and Jill!

londonbridges said...

Michelle, your blessings are indeed going to remember the delicious aromas of food cooked by the sister-mommies. The blessings will also remember who was with them in the night when they were sick or frightened. Not the Mother of the Year, but their sister-mommies. JMHO as always.

Duggar Fan but Losing Interest said...

Someday soon, one of the little ones is going to slip up and call Jana or Jill "Mommy" and ask who is that lady with the bad poofy hair living in their house?

Leigh Ann said...

I learned to make those apple dumplings over a campfire at Girl Scout camping training. We used generic Sprite, I think, any clear soda works. It's really yummy. And only the boys get to do the flight simulator? (That was in the movie night column.)

tulip said...

Talking about the girls not feeling like they "need" to do any Christmas shopping, etc. ...interesting that this comes out just after Josh posted himself on Instagram at Walmart on Black Friday, and there were comments from some friends saying they were glad they didn't brave that shopping like his sisters. Guess this year the girls/Josh DID feel the "need" to do some shopping...

Elspeth said...

The Duggars really need some new material. Michelle has rehashed that tired teenage girl stuff for a few too many decades now.

Patrice said...

Yes, exactly. We all know it Michelle, your daughters are way more modest and wonderful than our daughters who wear jeans and comfortable shirts, and cut their hair relevant to 2012 and may even sport an evil tattoo. But get this:
No one cares! the ugly denim skirts, double shirts, long outdated scraggly hair is not a look that everyone admires. Quit talking about it already.

Lizzy said...

"Jim Bob is very open about how men see things and what goes on in their minds."
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Okay, I'm actually one of the few Duggar fans left, but that is way TMI!

Leah said...

Yes, it is TMI. What daughter wants to hear her dad talk about what visually stimulates him sexually? The Duggars may be modest in dress, but they are very sexual people. All of them. So much of their lifestyle revolves around sex. There's such an overemphasis on baby-making, sexual purity, modesty, kissing, defrauding, etc. Jim bob is constantly making sex jokes. The girls decorated their patents' hotel room with rose petals and notes referring to sex. Josh's wedding episode was 90% about the sex they were going to have that night. They have a code word for public settings when someone might be too immodest for them. I grew up in a pretty liberal home, and I promise you I thought about sex WAY less than the duggar children. And it's not the kids' fault. Their sick parents force these thoughts into their heads on a daily basis. I recall an episode where a young Joy was frantically covering low-cut tops on a tiny TV, while the kids watched their parents on The View. Only in the Duggar home would an innocent 20 minute segment of talk show become a danger of defrauding the boys. Prime example of Jim Bob and Michelle forcing sexual thought patterns into their children's minds when they normally wouldn't have been there.

Another thing I've noticed is that Michelle loves to bring up the fact that she used to dress inappropriately as a teen. She said it caused men to stumble. I think she's flattering herself a bit here, but ok. Her main goal, she said, was to attract attention. At age 46(?), she is no different. She's just trying to get that attention in other ways. Remember the time her knees showed while waterskiing and she made them put censor boxes? That's nothing more than attention-seeking behavior. Most of what Michelle does is an attempt for attention. But I'll digress here and end my rant! Sorry, this Duggar modesty paradox gets me really fired up!

sandi said...

I'm guessing Michelle was alluding to the mowing in a bikini incidents,which,if I hear one more time,I thing I will gag! There is nothing wrong with a teenager wearing a bikini,period.And I'm guessing she quit cheerleading because she thought the outfits were too revealing,but I think that is really sad.JMO.

sandi said...

I agree,Leah,and I would be very surprised if my neighbors even have any recollection at all of me mowing in my bikini.I certainly wouldn't expect them to remember it.JMO.

tulip said...

Why oh why then do they "allow" all the girls to wear bare feet in flip flops 24/7? Gothard does not address feet as sexual?-They certainly are to some men out there-and although there are lots of ugly feet, there are men who find the nice feet sexual, therefore stirring up those forbidden thoughts, lol! What about all the make-up with the smoky look eyes, and all the long & flowing, wavy hair. Some of those tops we've seen the girls wear, including Anna, are either pretty low cut, even with the double shirt, or snug across the bust area-there have been times Anna (not pregnant) was "busting" out of her top where one can see her outlining those certain body parts...please!...long, faded denim skirts, and floral print "modest wear" at the pool? Why bother.

Jac&Jil said...

I mean, how twisted is this family? If this isn't cult "speak," I don't know what is.
Michelle says, "Jim Bob is very open about how men see things and what goes on in their minds." Speak for yourself Jim Bob. I think it's very insulting to say that all men are like you - acting/thinking like a horny 13 year old well into your adulthood.

And news flash for Michelle! The "young" adults that you are speaking of (in the picture) - Jana (almost 23), Jill (21), Jessa (20) and Jinger (almost 19) - are already adults and shouldn't have to ask mom if they are dressing appropriately. Their clothing decisions should be entirely their own. Just another example of Michelle and Jim Bob trying to keep their children eternal adolescents. JMO

hello said...

It's sad that adult children are made to ask their parents if their clothing choices are appropriate. I guess it is all part of the "training" process that begins at birth for the Duggar children. I think the Duggars have more to worry about than if one of the girls have clothes that expose their knees or elbows. It doesn't seem like any of the kids are allowed to have any of their own thoughts, feelings or opinions. They are made to think how their parents want them to. I believe that children should be raised to learn to think for themselves and to follow their own dreams and not do everything to please their parents all the time. None of the Duggars are prepared to live in the real world and I feel that is exactly how Jim Boob and Michelle want it. I don't believe the girls will be given a choice of who they marry. I believe Jim Boob will find them suitable "authority figures" to marry once the girls are done raising their parent's many blessings.

Canadian Fan said...

The Duggar women-girls in ultra-modest swimwear probably get more stares than other women do in skimpier wear. There are still a few (not many) but a few modest 1-piece swimsuits you can wear without going to the extreme like the Duggars.

By the time they reach their late teens or early 20s, they should have enough sense to know what is and is not modest. They shouldn't have to ask their parents about every decision.

RJWife said...

You've raised a good point! Honestly, more then anyone, I personally think Jim Bob is a sex addict, and displays many of the behavior traits for it! But, of course, since there the Duggars and perfect, not like we would see him get actual, real (meaning not Gothard approved! Real docs!) therapy, doctors, etc to help him! I think the whole family could use it in lots of areas! A shrink could retire off them!

Patrice said...

Once again, Michelle manages to make it all about her. The kids "choose" to pick out inappropriate crappy used stuff for their singular present, but she had the best birthday of all, showered with tons of gifts and pampering from her kids. Sickening...she deserves it the least of anyone. I would be ashamed to even write about that if I was as inept a mother as she is.

Rudy Tecat said...

Hah hah! The girls like thrift stores and the boys like pawn shops! That's hilarious! Pawn shops are ok, but liquor stores aren't? You have to make an effort to let each child know each child is special? You don't have time to do that every day? Then, you have too many children. Children need affirmation every day, not just once a year (and, certainly not just once a year and have to share that special day with another sibling).

Melissa said...

I hate to admit this, but I agree Patrice- I was thinking the same thing as I read the blog entry- "wow, it must be nice that MICHELLE got such a special birthday, but the kids sometimes share birthday parties or their "big day" is going to a thrift or pawn shop." Even if that is what they enjoy, it's because that's what they've been raised to enjoy (Oh, I can get 5 cheaper items instead of 1 big item). Wow, so Michelle gets a 24 hour birthday party and a huge trip to China where they drag all the kids with them. Just AMAZING (sarcasm inserted here).


I truly hope that they gave Jordyn a special day. It would be nice if Michelle took Jordyn on a special mommy/daughter date- just the TWO of them! But, I seriously doubt it- they reiterate over and over in their book that they hardly ever do stuff like that because they value the family unit over any individual- plus they don't want to teach the kids to be "selfish." UGGH

londonbridges said...

I have a real soft spot for Jordyn. We share a birthday. This blessing has been neglected by her Mother of the Year during her entire life. I will state again, that a woman can carry and deliver a child, but that doesn't make her a real mother. Poor Jordyn and the younger blessings.

Merry Christmas and a healthy happy New Year from Canada! I truly enjoy following and contributing to this blog.

Beth Anne said...

Oh boy, Michelle wrote a very vague parentable on guiding kids to adulthood. The first thing my snarky self noticed was that there is a photo of the 4 oldest girls above the article, whereas her article starts off: "The years between ages 11 and 16 can be especially challenging for children as they begin to become adults."

Ok, maybe she didn't select the photo, but it kind of made me chuckle because they seem to treat the older ones like they ARE younger - does she realize Jana is 23 instead of 16? And, in addition to using the word "encourage" or variations thereof a sickening amount of times, her main point is "openly communicate" and "encourage the kids to come forward."

ummm, I don't know, I am trying to prepare my own kids for adulthood by letting them get their feet wet, experience life outside our house, have interactions with people outside a stringently defined circle, and make independent decisions. I also allow them their own opinions and their privacy...I keep tabs always on what's going on with them, but let them "own" their life and their choices. My kids will DEFINITELY go to college outside the home and probably experience some failures and make mistakes, but they'll be THEIR mistakes to learn from. Ugh, she drives me nuts!

Jac&Jil said...

Whose kids is Michelle talking about? Certainly not her own. Her "adult" children (the four in the picture) haven't accomplished anything yet and are all still at home. When the "adult" children go to college, get degrees, get a job and start supporting themselves, then maybe Michelle can give advice. Until then, Michelle's words mean absolutely nothing.

hello said...

I wouldn't take any parenting advice from Michelle. She doesn't know much about being a parent. She has a baby, takes care of it for a few months and then passes it along to it's sister mom to be raised and then it's on to the next baby. She states that they shouldn't try to fit into a mold because they are who they are going to be. All the kids will end up being who Jim Boob and Michelle tell them to be. They have been trained from birth that there is only one way to live. The girls are taught to get married to an authority figure, have as many babies as possible and don't even think of going to college and/or have a career. The boys are taught to have your own business, find a girl you can be an authority figure to and get your wife pregnant as many times as possible. None of the kids are encouraged to get an education.
If Jim Boob and Michelle didn't decide to pimp out their family to TLC for a paycheck, they would probably still be living in a three bedroom house and would definitely not be traveling around the world. I just hope that a portion of the money has been put aside for each of the kids, but I am sure Jim Boob has brainwashed his kids into thinking it is family money that he would handle.

Olympia said...

The years between ages 11 and 16 can be especially challenging for children as they begin to become adults."

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Shouldn't the artwork match the article? How about a photo of the "blessings" who actually fit into this 11-16 age range? The sister-moms are in limbo, taking care of their sibilings until Daddy decides it's time to pick out a son-in-law for himself.

Nancy said...

The article was about raising teens or whatever. I commented that 3 of the 4 people pictured were not teenagers. I forgot to add that the 4th is a legal adult. Duh.

Michelle at her delusional best.

Nancy said...

Sorry, I meant to add that this article is definitely meant to be in defense of the criticism of both JoyAnna and Josiah's growing pains. Josiah looks like he wants to be anywhere than where he is. Joyless Anna is downright sullen.

I guess the cutoff of 16 is when they consider the children to be adults; a lot of these religious sects don't believe in using the term "teenager." You're either a kid or an adult and in Duggarland, since the episodic shows began, we've seen them pull Jessa, Jinger, Joseph, and now Josiah out of the schoolroom and into full-time servitude to their parents' "ministry."

Rudy Tecat said...

Ok, which of the children have become solid, balanced adults? Are they hiding someone? Does that mean living at home, taking care of your siblings, sponging off your parents? If so, then they are all solid, balanced adults, I guess. Independence must not factor into the equation.

Alberta Rose said...

Whose kids is Michelle talking about? Certainly not her own. Her "adult" children (the four in the picture) haven't accomplished anything yet and are all still at home. When the "adult" children go to college, get degrees, get a job and start supporting themselves, then maybe Michelle can give advice. Until then, Michelle's words mean absolutely nothing.

Her adult children know how to cook, clean, take care of children, drive a car, manage a household, can play musical instruments, they do volunteer work, one does photography, two are midwife assistants, one works as a retreat counsellor. They don't sit around doing nothing. Where is the encouragement for women like the Duggars and Bates to want to be more in the secular world when the secular world judges them based on education and how much money they make, rather then overall accomplishment and attitude?

Beth Anne said...

Re: "They don't sit around doing nothing."

I agree with you there. They are active, and I don't think anyone is judging the adult Duggar girls, in particular, for being "uneducated" or not making much money. Really, the core frustration for many of us is that they COULD be well educated and self-sufficient in terms of making enough money to support themselves, but their parents have denied them this opportunity. You can defend them by pointing out how they finished high school and do work both part time and doing volunteer work, but the rules of the Duggar household are that the young adults cannot attend a brick-and-mortar college after they get their G.E.D. and that they can only take on work assignments that fall within the Gothard/ATI-approved spectrum.

Adulthood is typically defined as separating from one's parents and one's childhood home by becoming self-sufficient, and it's easier to become self-sufficient by taking on full-time employment and living on one's own, which brings all the inherent responsibilities of cleaning, cooking, etc. you mention, along with managing one's own money, coordinating work schedules, taking care of bills, managing one's own social life, etc.

Even Josh is living in his grandma's house, as arranged by his father, and "works" at a car lot owned by his dad. Since he is out and about so much, as evidenced by his various social media activities, it appears that the hired workers actually do the majority of work at the lot. He gets the "perks" of calling himself a small business owner without actually meriting that title, and the other adult children will not move out of that house until they magically get married. I kind of call that "a failure to launch," whereas Jim Bob and Michelle call it "success."

Elspeth said...

The problem to me is that the Duggars do not permit their adult children to be actual adults. They keep them as bound children. It's an insecurity thing with the Duggar parents that they don't have enough faith in their children that they can control themselves and do what's right unless they stay at home under parental control.

To me that is simply wrong on all counts.

sandi said...

A good example of that is John David..why not let him move into the house he owns,married or not? He doesn't strike me as a wild party-goer,and I would bet that he could be trusted to live the conservative lifestyle he was brought up to believe in.Yet Jim Bob said something to the effect that it wasn't going to happen,and that he thought it was time for him to find a wife.
It reminds me of something Cliff said to Claire on The Cosby Show many yrs ago..he said "We're supposed to get them OUT of the house!" LOL :)

WVGirl said...

By the time I was seventeen, I could also cook (rather complicated recipes), clean, drive a car, manage a household, play a musical instrument, volunteered as a tutor for underprivileged children and in my church, I'd been a camp counselor for my church four times, I'd taken care of newborn babies up until age 12 (I worked summers as a babysitter/nanny), and I'd taken a photography class.

(Did I leave anything out?)

On the other hand, I was also going to a major University and making Dean's list.

Oh, and I grew up in the world that had discussions about whether or not women should cut their hair or wear pants, etc.

The problem with the Duggars is that it's such a stark either/or. But it doesn't have to be -- not even in their own smaller circle of like minded believers. But they act as if it needs to be for their own children. And that's too bad, because there are a lot of us who were raised not all the differently and didn't go on to become terrible non-Christian, defrauded, anti-education people.

Although I do wear pants! :)

Alberta Rose said...

Although I do wear pants! :)

:)I wear jeans when I'm at home. If you saw me in my Drones R'Us work uniform, though, you'd understand why I like to wear skirts to church and since it's church, they are modest. The loophole in Gothardism is if you aren't going to get married, you have to do Godly things. What could be more noble then to be a volunteer firefighter, help bring babies into the world, be a retreat counsellor, help mother and father? They aren't in hurry to get married but they also don't want to leave. Some of my secular co-workers are the same way. They've embraced feminism enough they got a high school diploma and are climbing the ladder at the fast food restaurant but they don't want to worry about car insurance, apartment insurance, paying utilities, buying groceries, paying rent so they continue to live at home.

Alberta Rose said...

I see painful choices that lead to devastating ends.

Yeah, tell that to those whose children were diagnosed with cancer, to women who were abused by their spouses, to couples who are unable to conceive.

Becoming pregnant because you had premarital sex, or becoming brain damaged due to taking drugs, or getting robbed because you got drunk in a bar are the result of making wrong choices. Parents of children who were diagnosed with cancer, people abused by their spouses or people who are unable to conceive did not choose to have those happen.

The Duggars have shown compassion to those who have cancer, not condemnation. My first contact with Michelle Duggar and why she's a part of my life is her support of our cboice to not use fertility drugs but let God be our guide for family size. As for spousal abuse, no TLC reality show involving children has brought that up. There are Bible verses that do declare it's wrong and what to do when it happens.

Beth Anne said...

Re: "They aren't in hurry to get married but they also don't want to leave."

I think that's where many of us would disagree with you....it's not that they don't WANT to leave, it's that they've been taught that they aren't ALLOWED to leave, lest the fall from grace begin.

Sandi gave a great example of John David being a 23-year old adult man and owning a property himself, yet his father basically telling him he will not move out of the family household until he finds a wife. Also, remember Jinger expressing a desire to move to a city, only to be admonished by Jill that she needs to be "content" to stay at home?

It's one thing if these adult children are CHOOSING to stay home because they want to save money, but it is plain as day from both Jim Bob and Michelle's own words via the books and T.V. shows and the research many of us have done into Gothardism that it's not a choice at all.

Patrice said...

Although no one is a perfect parent, I think Michelle is one of the least qualified parents to write an advice column. Maybe her advice would go over well with other "like-minded" folks; there is nothing useful in there for those who are raising children to become independent adults. The Duggars do not want their kids to grow up, be educated or independent. That is the exact opposite of what most people want for their children. The Duggar kids are not allowed to become adults until Jim Bob finds them a spouse and tells them it's ok. Yes, the girls are sufficiently trained in cleaning, cooking, child care and volunteer work. Most of us did all that as teenagers. Life seems to stop for the Duggars once they learn those basic teen skills and then they go no further because they are not allowed to. Rather pathetic, IMO.

Canadian Fan said...

I think the "adult" kids would continue to make good, moral choices even if they were living on their own in the big city, getting an education or working full-time, pursuing their dreams and interacting with non-Gothardites in the real world. Maybe John David doesn't want to get married. Some people are content with the single life. He seems shy and awkward around women.

Jim Bob and Michelle married young and were out on their own making babies, but don't trust their own children not to totally screw up their lives and fall into sin (prison, addictions, babies out of wedlock, etc....) if they were to walk off the Duggar property. A baby bird will never learn how to fly if it is not allowed to leave the nest.

Nancy said...

Wow, I didn't know doing a few recreational drugs or going to a bar and having a few drinks would make one "brain damaged." Talk to me: I apparently got "brain damaged" but managed to work for many years, go back to school, earn a 4.0 GPA (they don't have a Dean's List or cum lade system; you only graduate with honors if you choose to take a year long seminar. As a transfer student, not very feasible).

At any rate, the point my story is: if Christians less conservative than the Duggars believe these misconceptions to be true, then Lord knows what the Duggars are telling their older "children," or as another poster called them, loosely, arrested development adults. Thank heavens my Christian parents practically shoved "work ethic" down my throat. I bought every stitch of clothing and paid for my teenage fun out of money I'd earned. As a result, I was completely self-sufficient by the time I was 18, all being able to wear whatever I wanted, and without a chaperone when I went babysitting or to my job at KFC.

Elspeth said...

Michelle's adult children are woefully, woefully unprepared to live life. As such she's a failure as a parent. If a normal 23 year old isn't ready to be an independent person, then Michelle as not achieved one of the basics of parenting. Parenting produces functional adults not dependent, scared children.

Beth Anne said...

I would also point out that the "norm" in this family is that the children "graduate" from high school between the ages of 16-18. Not sure what criteria are used to determine that they have completed high school, but there you have it. I believe John David and Jana were considered graduates at age 16, and they are now 23 years old. That is 7 years.

I imagine John David can be considered to be working full-time hours, between his towing business and helping clean up lots and properties, though with all the time off campaigning and traveling around filming for TLC, I kind of doubt it. Jana is kind of doing piece-meal work here and there, as an occasional birthing assistant and counselor at Gothard/ATI conferences.

If my own children, 7 years upon finishing their formal schooling, whether that be high school, community college associate degree, or college degree, are still living at home with me and my husband, NEVER having moved out, and do NOT have job situations whereby they can support themselves financially, I would not only be frustrated with them, but would feel they are not living a fully adult life. And, yes I'll say it, I'd be wondering what I did wrong as a parent in terms of guiding them toward adulthood.

SmokeyKitty said...

Alberta Rose said: "Her adult children know how to cook, clean, take care of children, drive a car, manage a household, can play musical instruments, they do volunteer work, one does photography, two are midwife assistants, one works as a retreat counsellor. They don't sit around doing nothing. Where is the encouragement for women like the Duggars and Bates to want to be more in the secular world when the secular world judges them based on education and how much money they make, rather then overall accomplishment and attitude?" Honestly, ALL functional adults can cook, and take care of household duties in addition to working, going to school, having independent lives, social lives etc... I volunteer and am a decent photographer and artist in addition to being an engineer who cooks for herself and her fiance. He cleans and does the dishes, unlike the Duggar boys who won't lift a finger. And he works and goes to grad school etc.... Just because Michelle's children can dump cream of whatever soup on some tater tots and do laundry and dust doesn't make them functional adults. They are nothing but part time housekeepers and baby wranglers. I don't understand how anyone could see the products of the Duggar's parenting as anything but failure.

Elspeth said...

Jill is training to be a lay midwife, Jana is working to be a "birth assistant" and Jana is also the one who has lead the Journey to the Heart retreats. So it's only two of the daughters doing anything halfway notable outside the house. Everything else is stuff they should have known and done by age 16.

sandi said...

I think some of the older ones also do the volunteer firefighting,although I'm not sure how many hrs per week they put in(but I really think the girls could find something better to do than hang around a fire station with a bunch of middle-age men).JMO..it seems out of place for them,unless they really enjoy the firefighting aspect of it.
As far as the 'staying home to serve God and family' part of Gotharism,that's just guilty religious control used to keep the adult offspring in their place,until they can be trusted to find the proper spouse and marry.JMO.

sandi said...

What are jessa and Jinger doing,besides Jinger doing the photogrpay,anyone know?

Alberta Rose said...

I don't understand how anyone could see the products of the Duggar's parenting as anything but failure.

The children are productive members of the community, they don't do drugs, they don't drink alcohol, they don't smoke cigarettes, they don't have an out-of-wedlock baby they are asking their parents to help raise, they don't sit around playing video games, they talk respectfully to their parents and their parents are failures? There are parents who would give their eye teeth to have children turn out to be that sort of adult.

Betty said...

The children are productive members of the community, they don't do drugs, they don't drink alcohol, they don't smoke cigarettes, they don't have an out-of-wedlock baby they are asking their parents to help raise, they don't sit around playing video games, they talk respectfully to their parents and their parents are failures? There are parents who would give their eye teeth to have children turn out to be that sort of adult.

Because we brought up adults who did all that and also got college degrees, formed their own lives, have jobs making good salaries, and found their own partners in life. I don't see the Duggarlings as productive members of their community. They aren't out in the community unless it's approved and under the control of their parents. My adult children select their own activities and pursue them without input from me and because I brought them up to be responsible independent adults they do fine at it. There is so much more to have a good adult life and bringing up a solid adult than avoiding cigarettes, bad language, drinking, drugs, and out of wedlock babies.

flowerchild said...

This is a subculture which I feel needs the same respect as any other culture. It is not at all strange for an Indian man or woman to live at home with parents until marriage where the man would bring his wife into the home and they would all work and live as one cohesive family unit. Anthropologically speaking throughout time and acrossed the world this is the norm. So I wouldn't think these children are failures.

WVGirl said...

I don't particularly care that someone stays or goes. But having grown up in that world myself, I do have to stay that for a substantial percentage of the people within it, the REASON for staying is based upon fear. They are simply too afraid of the outside world because they have been taught that not only is the world such a terrible place, but they themselves are such terrible sinners (think of how much Jim Bob and Michelle obsess about their own sexual issues of adolescence) that even a small step outside of the rules will tumble you down a slippery slope into horrible sinful lives.

And as someone who did leave, and who's life did NOT becomes that in any way (and who still believes many of the things that she was taught, actually, although not the actual practices) I find that incredibly sad. Because the Bible tells us over and over that we do not need to live in fear.

One of the phrases spoken over and over in this world is that you can "be a slave for sin or a slave for goodness." And that, to me, is incredible. Because that isn't biblical AT ALL. We aren't slaves to ANYONE because we are children of God. Sometimes I wonder if people like the Duggars actually read their Bibles as a real and genuine book or if they simply read the materials packaged for them by people like Gothard with the proper verses "explained" as they go along.

Patrice said...

"The children are productive members of the community, they don't do drugs, they don't drink alcohol, they don't smoke cigarettes, they don't have an out-of-wedlock baby..."
I respectfully disagree with this type of statement. There are not only two kinds of people: the "perfect" Duggars and everyone else. Most of us have raised successful families far from the Duggar way. Maybe they do have a drink once in a while; maybe they have dated and broken up a couple of times before they found their mate. Maybe they have talked back to us, their parents, but that is all a part of growing up. I would not want my children to meekly nod and agree with every last thing I say, just as I did not agree with all my parents' decisions. I would not trade my kids, faults and all, for any Duggar "child". My kids are living as independent adults, because of AND despite all of their life experiences during adolescence and young adulthood. If I had 20-somethings sitting and waiting for me to find them a mate, agreeing that college and the secular world are horrid, and doing all my housework for me, I would consider that to be an epic fail...big time.

SmokeyKitty said...

Flowerchild, what I would say is that I know quite a few individuals of Indian descent who have lived with their parents in adulthood. BUT, these adults had college degrees and jobs. They worked outside of the home, had friends of their own choosing, and could be trusted to go out into the world where they operated as adults without a spy. The only reason the Duggar girls hang out at the fire station is to monitor the boys because none of the "kids" are allowed to leave the house unsupervised. INternet usage for the ADULTS is supervised. Not one of those kids is trusted to go to Starbucks and sit down with coffee and a magazine on their own. If they decided that they wanted to wear pants it would be a no too. Adults can live at home. Living with your parents is not the issue. Its the inability to have any life independent of the parents and being raised to be such incapable dolts that they cannot be trusted to make even the smallest decision for themselves. And the one that is out of the house has proven that he can't be trusted, Josh Duggar has shown himself via Instagram and Twitter to be an ignorant and lazy good for nothing whose Daddy supports him financially while RD Chapman runs a business as a front to hide the failure. Just because none of the girls got knocked up doesn't make them successes... If not getting preggers or drunk is success then we have two very disparate definitions of what amounts to success.

flowerchild said...

Good point Smokeykitty the Duggar parents are too immeshed in their adult children's lives and not enough in the little ones.

Beth Anne said...

Re: "Not one of those kids is trusted to go to Starbucks and sit down with coffee and a magazine on their own."

That's a great example and shows the absurdity of the situation. What do any of them think would truly happen if, say, Jessa did just that? Do they REALLY think Jessa would suddenly, mid-sip, denounce her Christian heritage and become an avid sinner, just because someone is not acting as an authority figure for her, chaperoning her or keeping her in check? Promoting this idea that someone else ALWAYS needs to keep an eye on the adult Duggar offspring because that's how Christianity is achieved is completely non-Biblical.

It reminds me of when the actress Katie Holmes started her romance with Tom Cruise, who of course "encouraged" her to get into Scientology. For six months or so, Katie was "accompanied" (followed/monitored/judged) by some Scientology leader to make sure she....what? Stayed on track? Spoke only in glowing terms about Scientology? Acting as the leader thought she "should?" All these photos of Katie had this serious, stern-looking woman in the background, and it was just the creepiest thing. And, I might add, acting out of fear rather than out of your own free will is NOT a sign of adulthood.

Rudy Tecat said...

It is a shame that the Duggars believe there are only two options available for their kids: Gothard approved life, and drugs & tattoos and crime.

roddma said...

"Her adult children know how to cook, clean, take care of children, drive a car, manage a household, can play musical instruments, they do volunteer work, one does photography, two are midwife assistants, one works as a retreat counsellor. They don't sit around doing nothing"
What are the older boys doing all day? I have yet to see one of them cook a full meal or clean house. I think Josiah makes cheese biscuits.
Just because Michelle and Jim Bob require the kids to play instruments doens't mean they are tlaneted at it. I am guessing retreat counsellor if for ATI. A lay midwife is an unegistered midwife mor elike na assistant. IMO they are just giving the girls busy work.

Duggar Fan but Losing Interest said...

IMO they are just giving the girls busy work.
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Keeping busy, waiting for Prince Charming to scale the walls of the Duggarville compound and whisk them away on his white steed OR waiting for Daddy to choose a Gothard-approved husband -- whichever comes first.

Stephanie said...

Ugh, when Jana was packing up the kids for the Waller Wedding, she actually THANKED her parents for giving her this so called opportunity.

On another note, a friend of our family is the current Miss Virginia and is on Miss America tonight and we are very excited. Nice Christian girl who goes to William & Mary, Political Science major, speaks fluent Russian, goes on bi-yearly mission trips to Haiti, promise ring wearer and is somewhat vocal about it.

On a side note, has killer abs. Hope she cracks the top 15.

Not all Chrsitans have to be like the Duggars

Rudy Tecat said...

Michelle has a new blog entry up on her website as of today...on how the Duggar Dinners are prepared!

Marites H. said...

How would Michelle know how the dinners are prepared? Her daughters are the ones cooking.

Duggar Fan but Losing Interest said...

I remember one episode with Michelle in the kitchen with one of the sister-moms (Jana, I think) chatting about how life got so busy when she had little ones in the house. Almost sounded like an older woman giving time-saving tips and advice to a young mom with kids of her own.

Cassia said...

I think I'd rather see more of the Bates family than the Duggars, especially with the new romance of Erin and Chad Paine. Cute couple!!

RJWife said...

I'm sorry, but calling your husband, boyfriend, etc is just CREEPY!! Eww!! The only person I ever call DADDY, is my biological father, my DADDY!!

Rudy Tecat said...

Michelle makes it sound like she's doing the kids a favor by involving them in dinner prep...when, in reality, she's just having them do it for her.

roddma said...

"The children are productive members of the community, they don't do drugs, they don't drink alcohol, they don't smoke cigarettes, they don't have an out-of-wedlock baby they are asking their parents to help raise, they don't sit around playing video games, they talk respectfully to their parents and their parents are failures? There are parents who would give their eye teeth to have children turn out to be that sort of adult."
Th Duggar kids are this way because someone is watching their every step. I have seen a few from strict religous homes go the opposite way of their upbringing. If the Duggar kids were trusted to go into the world and avoided all that, then yes maybe it would be something to commend.

Rudy Tecat said...

I didn't do drugs, smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, have an out-of-wedlock baby or play video games, and I was out of my parents' house at age 18. And, I still went to church every Sunday. Maybe the Duggarettes should trust their children more. It is not a given that independence leads to debauchery.

Elspeth said...

Parenting 101 - the most basic part of the job description is producing independent adults. The Duggars have failed. They have no one independent and they now have six or seven who are eighteen or older? Even Josh is living in Grandma's house and pretending to run a car lot owned by his father.

Beth Anne said...

Re: "The Duggar kids are this way because someone is watching their every step."

Completely agree. It is difficult to smoke, drink, get pregnant, etc. when you are chaperoned and subject to constant judgment/oversight by those who do not trust you to do the "right" thing. Some might call the constant supervision successful parenting, since the Duggar kids do not engage in the aforementioned "sinful" behaviors, but I also agree with the statement that parenting is about producing independent adults, and if these adult offspring are not given the opportunity to truly choose whether or not they want to play video games, try a beer, etc., then they are still being treated as small children. Even Christianity itself is a personal, heart-felt choice that can only occur within one's heart. I personally feel that I truly grew up once I was on my own, deciding what I truly believed and had the freedom to exercise those choices.

Patrice said...

Joseph is the 7th and he just turned 18. So, yes, seven should be either totally independent or beginning to make the break, and none of them are by a long shot.
How can JimBob and Michelle look at their grown offspring and pat themselves on the back for raising "successful" children? Cuz, really it hasn't happened yet and seems unlikely to at any time soon.

hello said...

I don't believe any of the Duggar children are prepared to live on their own. Josh was given the used car lot and doesn't seem to work there too much with all the traveling he does. I believe he is supporting his family on TLC money. None of the girls are prepared for anything except being a wife and mother someday when they are done raising their siblings. They don't seem to be allowed to do anything without a chaperone. I guess Jim Bob and Michelle don't have any faith in how they "trained" their kids. I guess the plan is to keep the kids uneducated and unprepared for the real world so that they don't leave and see that there is a world outside of the Duggar compound.

Susan said...

I would be so disappointed if I had essentially wasted my children's potential by "protecting" them so much that I had stunted them and kept from realizing almost any potential in their lives outside of Gothardism.

Gothard has much to answer for setting up a program to deprive the children of his followers from the opportunities that he and their parents had.

londonbridges said...

I too would be disappointed if I denied my children to flourish and attain THEIR goals. I don't believe I have the right to deny my children the options I myself enjoyed. JMHO.

Alberta Rose said...

Joseph is the 7th and he just turned 18. So, yes, seven should be either totally independent or beginning to make the break, and none of them are by a long shot.
How can JimBob and Michelle look at their grown offspring and pat themselves on the back for raising "successful" children? Cuz, really it hasn't happened yet and seems unlikely to at any time soon.

To me it's about individual parenting choices. I'm not going to judge my young adult co-workers who have chosen to live at home nor will I judge my oldest niece for deciding to keep living at home with her daughter instead of moving in with a 19 year old and her daughter. I've read about "Yoyo" Children, the ones who move out, move back, move out, move back. Far better to let the child stay home until they get married. Also, as someone who got into a whole bunch of trouble because both my parents and I were peer-pressured into thinking the right thing to do was for me to move out, I applaud the Duggars for encouraging their children to stay at home.

Elspeth said...

The co-workers you speak about, however, are making a choice and living their lives. The Duggar children are NOT. They aren't allowed jobs in general and are not allowed the choice of living at home but are required to do so. There is a world of difference there.

sandi said...

I think the whole point is that they should be given a CHOICE,as we all should be in life.My own kids are in college and have been provided with education and opportunity,however,if they chose to stay at home and have a large (or small,medium,etc.) family,we would support that,too.The only thing I would be concerned about is,could the spouse support the family.
It's just that they were given the chance to do what they wanted,and they chose college,on their own,with the background education to get there.I think that's what we are all saying about the Duggars,is that we would like to see them at least have a chance,and choices,not just the given path their parents expect them to follow.JMO.

MandySue said...

sandi said...
I think some of the older ones also do the volunteer firefighting,although I'm not sure how many hrs per week they put in(but I really think the girls could find something better to do than hang around a fire station with a bunch of middle-age men).JMO..it seems out of place for them,unless they really enjoy the firefighting aspect of it.
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The volunteer firefighter/first responders where I live don't hang around a station to be called. They get called on pagers, two way radios, text messages, etc. They respond when they get the call. That's the reason why home insurance is higher in the country, there are no full time fire fighters.

So the girls don't even have the opportunity to hang out with them.

Rudy Tecat said...

That must be one doozy of a tankless water heater to keep that huge family supplied with hot water! And, what was up with a wood-fired water heater? I've never heard of one of those. That must have been awfully difficult to deal with. They must have city gas, right?

sandi said...

Thanks Mandysue,the show gave the impression (due to the girls making the fireskirts and seeking approval of them) that they did hang out at the fire station,waiting on calls.

Jac&Jil said...

Have to agree with Rudy Tecat about the size of the tankless water heater. They can't be heating all the water with just one. And can you imagine being one of the adult children in that house and having to schedule a time for you to take a bath/shower? That had to have been just awful (I think their baths/showers are still scheduled to some extent). I also wonder how often their plumbling gets clogged from all that awful long hair going down the drain.

Here's a link to a really good article about tankless water heaters. It's not as great as Michelle makes it sound and costs lots of money to install and maintain.

http://www.consumerreports.org/cro/appliances/heating-cooling-and-air/water-heaters/tankless-water-heaters/overview/tankless-water-heaters-ov.htm

Ashley said...

I doubt they have access to a gas line. Generally it's cost-prohibitive for the company to extend a line out to the country. Unless there is a commercial/industrial customer who will have enough usage to make it worthwhile, a customer will often have to contribute if they want a line extended. (And the contributions required are thousands if not tens of thousands of dollars - very few residential customers would do this.)

roddma said...

Why do they pretend to be on a budget with a realityy show?

Ty's Mom said...

They have natural gas. I used to work at the gas company that services them. They aren't as out in the "country" as the Duggars and TLC make it seem. They just own a big plot of land. You can easily see their home from the road when you're driving out to the airport.

Rudy Tecat said...

Maybe they can use some of the gas coming out of the landfill across the street

Rudy Tecat said...

Re: keeping the kids occupied inside during the winter: why don't you all just let them read some books?

Canadian Fan said...

I don't think it actually gets cold enough down there to find indoor activities during winter -- as if they are housebound for days at a time b/c of a blizzard and windchill warnings like we do in Canada.

Betty said...

I believe that they have three or four months where for a week or more at a time it could be unpleasant for the kids to be outside hours at a time. True, it isn't nearly as cold as Canada, but that doesn't mean it's balmly or that it isn't snowing, cold raining, or windy.

Patrice said...

I wonder if they have ever tried Scrabble, Monopoly, Yahtzee,Trivial Pursuit (in which they wouldn't know one single answer) or any other games that would teach them some useful skills.
Or how about stocking the family library with some classic books, Michelle, and letting the kids know there is something out there besides the Bible and Gothard tracts?

roddma said...

"I've read about "Yoyo" Children, the ones who move out, move back, move out, move back. Far better to let the child stay home until they get married. Also, as someone who got into a whole bunch of trouble because both my parents and I were peer-pressured into thinking the right thing to do was for me to move out, I applaud the Duggars for encouraging their children to stay at home."

Making mistakes is part of the growing up experience. There is a difference in encouraging them to stay at home and forcing them to stay and have no life of their own which the Duggars are doing the latter. Either choice could be encouraged, not just one. I have no problem with young adults at home. I do have a problem with stifling them from growing into full-fledged adults. As far as 'yo yo kids'anyone can fall on hard times.

\ "...they don't have an out-of-wedlock baby they are asking their parents to help raise"
Deanna had Amy out of wedlock.

Rudy Tecat said...

It would have to be Bible Scrabble ("nebakanezer"=48pts), Springdale Monopoly ("You landed on my used car lot on Highway 71, that'll be $500"), homemade Yahtzee (using Skittles...1s & 2s only), and Duggar Trivial Pursuit ("Which Duggar was the first to play the harp?").

Christian Writer said...

There are many great classics in literature and even Bible-themed games as listed by several other people already. Maybe Jim Bob and Michelle could spend some quality time with their kids rather than let the sister moms take over.

Some hyper fundies discourage reading fiction. I came up against that after getting to know the people at my long-distance fiance's church. Even though Jesus taught the people with stories, writing/reading fiction is wrong because it is fantasy/non-reality.
That was the end of our relationship for this and other reasons. God has someone better in mind for me.

Rudy Tecat said...

Re: The Query Valentine's Day luncheon. "The children dress up in white shirts, black bowties and black dress pants"...don't you mean the boys dress up in pants? Or, do the girls do, too? When is the special luncheon for the children who lost their parents?

Nancy said...

Oh Michelle, Michelle, Michelle. Don't you forget that you (or your ghostwriter) wrote in your own book that Josh went to public Kindergarten before they were accepted into ATI, which has always had a very rigorous application process; back then even slower due to lack of technology...plus I think they sent out someone, maybe even Gothard himself, to do home visits.

Patrice said...

One thing about the "honest" Duggars- their stories do change to fit whatever point they are trying to get across. Next time Michelle writes about home-fooling, she will say that she started teaching phonics to Josh while he was in the womb, and he was born knowing how to read. Just like the floating intestines in Josie, the missing back muscle in Michelle, the changing age of the miscarried jubilee, to raise the sympathy level. Just keep changing the facts until you get the attention you need! Usually the standard for fame-whores.

Sharla said...

Really? How to pack? I'm sure we could all know this already if we've seen three episodes.

Patrice said...

Oh Michelle, you are quite the clever one with your packing skills. Oh wait, she didn't say that SHE did the work...just took notes as she watched her slave-daughters pack. Still, I fell asleep halway through the first paragraph. Move along folks, nothing to be seen here.

Anonymous said...

In the latest blog Jordyn's name is misspelled ("Jordan"). Michelle obviously didn't write it herself.

Leah said...

Ha! Very interesting on the spelling of Jordan. I'm sure Michelle's writing is so pathetic that she has to send in a list of bullet points to some intern at TLC and they write an article out of it. Although that still does not totally explain why Jordan is spelled wrong. Hmmm

Regarding the Duggars changing the facts to best spin their story, the best example (in my opinion) was when Michelle pulled the name "Caleb" out of thin air. We had never heard a name given to her first miscarried pregnancy. But NOW, since Jubilee got a name, I guess the first miscarriage needs a name too.

Nancy said...

It's obvious that these are phone interviews. If Michelle had actually written these things and they'd been properly edited, the word "just" would have been used maybe once.

These things are becoming more lazy and vapid as time progresses.

Sharla said...

Of course, they're of the resurrection Sunday persuasion.

Patrice said...

Nothing says Easter like a personal jar of pickles with a paper cross taped to it!
Wow, we can all learn SO much from the Duggars! NOT.

Willow said...

Wow - Imagine all of us "Heathens" who grew up with Easter baskets, special Easter dresses, egg hunts, etc. getting it wrong!!! I am so glad my sainted Christian mom and grandma did not live to find out taking us to sunrise services and the like was not good enough!! Wow, thank goodness!!

sandi said...

Yesm that is the signature trademark that this cult the Duggars,Bates and the like are involved in..that they are 'too good' for most everything else in regular society.Too good to watch tv...too good to listen to regular radio programming,too good to work for someone else..too good to let their women work ..too good to wear shorts,regular swimwear,or pants for the women...too good to kiss before the wedding...etc.They always have to carve out a notch that makes them appear holier than the rest of society.That includes holidays,too.No Christmas tree...no easter bunny or eggs....etc.Anything they can do to set themselves apart from the rest of the world.They do have to live by that 'higher standard' you know. ::rolling eyes::

Stephanie said...

She only goes out of town for paid appearances or their paid tv show. None are knowledgeable about anything. They are classic control freaks nothing more.

MandySue said...

The older siblings (girls) help the younger ones with their crafts is Michelle's way of saying she didn't do a darn thing with her kids,

Sharla said...

After today's Parentables, I want to know who makes this stuff up.

sandi said...

We know that is not what is seen on the show.Michelle even admitted one of the older girls (Jessa?) was responsible for the homeschooling,for which they use computer programs for the majority of it.Michelle and Jim Bob just appear to supervise everyone.

sandi said...

And I doubt they all get up by 7 am;probably more like 9-10 am,since they stay up so late.jmo.

flowerchild said...

7am yeah right haha that's a lie. They cant roll out of bed for trips or anything on time. Starting school at a later time is fine and so is using computer curriculum. I just hate the lying.

Patrice said...

I wonder if Michelle thinks she is fooling anyone with this made-up crap. If she believes what she says, she is really out there in la-la land.

Rudy Tecat said...

So, what happens after Jessa and Jinger get jobs and can't do the cooking any more? Joy will be the dinner lady, and who will do lunch? What happened to G-d's plan to give them all those girls in a row to help out Mom?

Cassia said...

In a few years (if the sister moms get to "grow up" and move out) it will be the lost girls' turn to cook & care for any howler monkeys still remaining at home.

Faith said...

I found it interesting that in the "Day in the Life" parentable Michelle talks about how the kids love being outside in all kinds of weather. But, on Tuesday's show, when Grandma was trying to entertain all the kids (including the ones old enough to entertain themselves & help with the younger ones) one of the older boys (can't remember who) said that they usually play INSIDE since it's either too hot or too cold outside.

Sharla said...

Michelle on taking a break is truly Michelle blathering about nothing.

sandi said...

"Sleep when the baby sleeps"? is supposed to be a revelation of some sort? Hello Michelle,moms had that one figured out a long time ago,it's nothing new.We don't need you to tell us.

londonbridges said...

Mother of the Year Michelle takes a break when the sister-mommies care for and raise the younger blessings IMHO.

Leigh Ann said...

" Faith said...

I found it interesting that in the "Day in the Life" parentable Michelle talks about how the kids love being outside in all kinds of weather. But, on Tuesday's show, when Grandma was trying to entertain all the kids (including the ones old enough to entertain themselves & help with the younger ones) one of the older boys (can't remember who) said that they usually play INSIDE since it's either too hot or too cold outside."

I noticed that exact thing. They have that huge backyard and that great swing set. It's pretty entertaining inside but you'd think someone would shove all those little kids out the door for a couple of hours every day for everyone's sanity.

mythoughtis said...

All I ever hear Jim Bob talking about his Dad and his growing up years is rude and disparaging. Yet, Michelle says that Mary Duggar and her husband ran a real estate business, and that she either owned or managed the yogurt shop that Michelle worked in as a teenager. That would be while Jim Bob was also a teenager.

So is Jim Bob misremembering his teen years and his parents's financial difficulties?

Rudy Tecat said...

Happy Mothers Day, Mary Duggar. Now, back to the 58 loads of laundry you have to do today.

londonbridges said...

I hope that the sister-mommies were honoured on Mother's Day. After all, they have assumed the responsibility of rearing and teaching the youngest blessings. And while we are told they totally enjoy 'helping' with the youngsters, we know they have no choice in the matter. JMHO.

Wampascat said...

Graciousness towards the cook? Ha!!! Remember how rude they all were at the restaurant in England and sneaking crackers in Japan at their welcome meal? Michelle is so full of crap!

sandi said...

And don't forget Michelle complaining that the fish looked like it still might be alive.If they'd done a little research,they'd have found that while the fish may still have had some movement,it was indeed dead.It's just that some of the reflexive movement doesn't always go away right after the fish is cooked.

Beth Anne said...

Ummm, who does Michelle think she is writing to in her Parentables? 5-year olds? Take the following sentence:

"Around the house, if Mama isn’t here at the moment and somebody has a boo-boo, Jana can fix it."

Ugh, ugh, ugh. I think the last time I spoke like that to anyone was when my youngest was 2-3 years old. Also, I thought it was interesting to see what Michelle said: "I think Jill will continue her studies to get her accredited midwifery license." I think that statement is directed toward those who wonder what path Jill was really on. I think we have had some discussions on this blog about what one needs to do to become a licensed midwife, so I am really curious if this will come to fruition.

And, Michelle, did you ever think that Jana went from being an outgoing, energetic girl to a reserved, quiet adult because she was beat down to be submissive? To spend what has been 7-8 years after getting her G.E.D. being at your beck-and-call as a good stay-at-home daughter, taught never to complain? Notice how the personality of Jana's youth seems to come out when she is out of the clutches of being JimBob and Michelle's dutiful daughter and, instead, is in 'crisis' mode helping take care of problems?

Rudy Tecat said...

Two things struck me:
1) You don't just become an adult by getting a career. There has to be independence involved. When Jana and Jill have moved out of the house and are supporting themselves, then they may be considered adults.
2) What happened to the first responder, volunteer fireman thing?

Patrice said...

It's hard to believe Michelle (or a 2nd grade ghostwriter) even wastes the time or computer space to write this crap. Every sentence is complete BS. Who is this meant for? Who is it supposed to impress, or in Duggar-speak, "inspire" or "bless" or whatever other term they always use that completely slips my mind right now? I wish she would just be honest and say "We plan to keep our adult children at home forever so we don't have to do any work ourselves, ever!" Then maybe I would be "inspired".

Ashley said...

Patrice - They want to "encourage" you. :)

Cassia said...

Midwifery is a much more "acceptable" choice for Gothard's female followers. What would happpen if Jana & Jill came to the fire station and accidently walked into a photo shoot for one of those racy topless muscle-man firefighter calendars? NIKE!

Patrice said...

Oh, thanks! How could I forget "encourage"? I guess it's because I try to forget most of what I see on that nonsensical show! :)

Allison said...

Jill and Jana writes on Michelle's Parentables blog this month about how they are becoming midwives. Looks like Jill is going the legit route, and she explains why it's taking so long (apparently she actually just started last year). http://parentables.howstuffworks.com/family-matters/jill-jana-duggar-midwifery.html

Rudy Tecat said...

Jill's route is, I guess, the legit route, though it is another "distance learning" course.

Leah said...

I think it's so sad that Jana has to do this "birth coach" stuff when it's clear she doesn't really care for it. I feel like shes only doing it because Jill needs a chaperone. Jana even said it makes her parents happy that there's two of them doing this stuff, not just one. What kind of parent would be more happy that their adult children are being monitored rather than fulfilled in their roles? I wish Jana could find something that makes her happy.. The girl seems so down all the time. I hate seeing it. Jill seems really happy with this midwife path, and I'm so happy to see a Duggar girl find joy in something other than a husband and babies and serving her self-centered parents.

Andrea said...

Two things about what Jill apparently wrote:

1) "Back a few years ago, I had the opportunity to attend 12 weeks of childbirth classes with my 14-year-old friend, who was a single mom."

I'd like to know a little more about this situation! How exactly does a girl who is homeschooled become friends with a 14 about to have a baby?!

2) I had been considering attending nursing school for a while, but the timing of it all wasn’t working out."

Jill you don't have a job or any real responsibilities how is it that the timing just wasn't working out?! Is it more like Jim Bob and Michelle didn't want you taking Bio 101 with all it's scary education on evolution?

I just feel so bad for these adult daughters.... Stand up to your parents, demand a portion of the TLC money and leave.

Elvira said...

It looks like Jill could be doing this program:

http://texasmidwiferyschool.com/

sandi said...

I agree,we know Jim Bob and Michelle would never let their kids hang out w girls who got pregnant.They didn't even like private school,bc Jim Bob said something to the effect that the kids there weren't up to his standards.So they decided to homeschool instead.
I've had biology and there was no teaching on evolution,in any of my classes for that matter.The instructors were very neutral and just presented the info as it was.
I ssupect it's more they don't want them around secular ppl,and they would have to see others of the opposite sex during certain procedures that keeps the from allowing nursing school.jmo.

Allison said...

I was actually thinking that they just didn't like the idea of having to go to a *physical* school. Jill does SO MUCH TRAVELING with her family, and I think they didn't like the idea that she'd miss out on the trips in order to stay home to go to school. Nursing school is very intensive and she likely wouldn't be around very much. They spend enough time around non-Christians at this point that I don't think that's the issue, I really do think that they just seem themselves as a unit and the timing of nursing school (all day, every day) doesn't work for their lifestyle. They NEED homeschooling and distance education to keep up with their speaking engagements.

Beth Anne said...

Re: "the timing of nursing school (all day, every day) doesn't work for their lifestyle."

How sad, that Jill had to 'unconsider' going to nursing school because her controlling parents decided all adult daughters must be part of the family unit at all times, going to kiddie parks and other filmable venues so as to heighten the image of one big, happy family. I agree with what someone else said, that JimBob and Michelle are more focused on ensuring appropriate monitoring than on encouraging their offspring to find paths in life that are fulfilling to each one of them. I am happy for Jill that she seems to be on a path she likes, but she would be much farther along in her journey if her parents weren't such snobs about what people/jobs/venues are holy enough for their family and which aren't.

Sorry, but it's true. I am a parent and pray every day for my children to be safe and protected, and I do analyze who they are hanging around with, etc. But, this whole "this isn't good enough for us" mentality is just wrong...Jill would likely have been fine and stayed holy in a regular nursing school with 'regular' folk because of what is in her heart - her love of God. Ugh, these people frustrate me!!!!

sandi said...

Allison,I think that is true, however,I think even if the Duggars did not travel,that Jill would still not be allowed to attend a brick and mortor school.It's the Duggar way of life that (imo) the offspring conform to and that keeps them home and away from the more secular folks,even the ones in private colleges like the Bates young adults attend.jmo.

Rudy Tecat said...

So, what's the use in "training" the children to be adults if they can get the chance be adults?

Rudy Tecat said...

should be "can't get the chance"

Elvira said...

Has the woman never heard of soy or cocoanut yogurt? Not to mention a lot of people who are lactose intolerant can eat yogurt just fine.

Nancy said...

Wow, Michelle can't even spell her own daughter's name (JordYn). Y'all named her, pathetic but totally in line with her non-parenting that that slipped through both her and whomever edits her screeds.

Also, she CAN not ("may" implies choice).

The ignorance is mindboggling.

Ashley said...

I'm pretty sure that Jordyn's name was misspelled the last time she appeared in a Parentable, too. I'm guessing it's an editor (writer?) who doesn't have a clue how to spell the kids names.

Jac&Jil said...

Who is Jill trying kid with her statement, "I had been considering attending nursing school for a while, but the timing of it all wasn’t working out."

In order to go to nursing school, one must apply and be ACCEDPTED into the nursing program. There is no way she has completed the classes required for a nursing program, nor do I believe she has ever applied to a nursing program.

I don't know about you, but I would want to have a midwife attending me who got her education through a computer. But again, her clients are all like-minded like her.

Patrice said...

Ugh! Michelle's posts get dumber and dumber as they go. Jordan? I know she ignores the kid, but she should at least know how to spell her name. "Others may but I may not". First of all, the correct saying would be "can", not "may". Secondly, who sits a three year old down and makes her repeat an idiotic mantra like that? This woman's ignorance about everything just irritates me beyond belief. Many people have lactose intolerance, but yogurt is one thing a lot of people with this syndrome ARE able to eat. Can Josie just try a bite and see what happens? Or does Michelle know there is soy yogurt or other alternatives? And if she can't eat yogurt, why did we see her eating ice cream in a couple of shows? I remember specifically a show where one of the other little girls was sharing an ice cream cone with Josie, and Jill said "The little kids like to share food and they get a lot of colds that way..." even though Jill was the one who told them to share. So two bad things for Josie- ice cream and sibling germs...but now she can't even have a bite of yogurt? I wish they would remember what stories they are fabricating so they can at least keep them straight.

Londonbridges said...

The elder female blessings and Grandma Duggar have the most input with regard to diet choices. It must be very difficult to avoid dairy products. Perhaps Josie could tolerate a bit of yogurt. As has been mentioned here before, lactose intolerants sometimes handle yogurt well. JMHO. Belated Happy Canada Day to my fellow Candians.

Willow said...

All Michelle would really need to do is get advice from her medical professionall/allergist, whatever, as to what Josie should eat or not eat and when to try new things. It would make it so simple. If Jill forgot and gave Josie something she shouldn't have, I hope that doesn't happen often. Thanks Nancy for answering my question about DOMA. I knew what DOMA and prop 8 etc were, I just could not connect it that day for some reason. Thanks for taking the time. Happy 4th to all of you on this blog. You are like my friends!!

Beth Anne said...

Re: All Michelle would really need to do is get advice from her medical professionall/allergist, etc....

But, but, but, that would take away from her time for speaking engagements and appearances in the Today show! (Sarcasm intended.) And, she might actually be forced to engage in some independent research so she gains a well-rounded knowledge of food "sensitivities" versus doing what she always does...go the black-or-white route, i.e., "Josie can't have milk stuff."

Betty said...

My experience with lactose intolerance (about 30 years worth) is that a reasonable person doesn't need to consult more than 10 minutes with a family doctor. Test a small amount of a food, if there's adverse reaction then avoid it, use a substitute, or use the pills. If a larger amount causes a problem, cut back. It isn't rocket science. While the packages say the pills aren't for children under four, her doctor might say as ours did that a half pill was acceptable for a three year old. They even come in chewables.

Stephanie said...

Some of Jill & Jana's comments confirm everything we said, mainly about Jana being Jill's school buddy. Most of what they say is questionable, for instance:
How did Jill befriend a 14 year old sexually active child? Where is this "friend" now? If she has attened over 60 births, wouldn't that more than cover required field experience? She started a program in May 2012 and the program is 3 and a half years? Lastly, a distance learning class based ot of Texas? Some of these stories are fishy. What ever happened to College Plus?

Beth Anne said...

Re: "What ever happened to College Plus?"

They stopped giving the Duggars free t-shirts? Wanted JimBob to open his wallet to pay for their non-accredited courses, versus him just gracing the company with his family's publicity?

Marites H. said...

Someone noted that Jordyn's name was spelled wrong. Maybe these articles (probably not even written by Michelle) are spell-checked. The program wouldn't recognize Jordyn as a word, but would change it to Jordan (since it is the name of both a country & a river).

Nancy said...

If Michelle's articles are proofed, shouldn't there be a reasonable expectation that the editor knows how to spell the names of the children? Especially if this person has edited multiple "articles."

I remember last year's "4th" celebration. They bough illegal fireworks (on camera) about a week early, and set them off in a dry area (IIRC, it looked like dirt and dead grasses) during a burn ban.

Ah hypocrite, thy name is Duggar.

Londonbridges said...

It's very interesting that the Mother of the Year knows her grand babies so well, but her own blessings cry for their sister-mommies for comfort. Michelle and JimBob passed their baby blessings into the care of the oldest girls after weaning them. iMHO Michelle needs to reconnect with all her blessings and be a mom to them.

Patrice said...

No, no, NO, Michelle! No young married couple, not even your spawn, wants their parents/parents in-law at their house all year round!!! Visit when invited! Invite them to your home. ASK if they want a sibling or two to come stay and help out once in awhile. If they decline, then stay home and take care of your own children. And let the older kids begin their own lives too. If you start leading your lives as a normal family, you will only have what, twelve minors left at home to care for? And if you let those twelve go to school to get a real education, you and Jim Bob will have time to be alone, which is what you always want! Please stop with the made-up Parentables. No one admires you or your life-style. No one wants to think of you "loving on" your kids so much you can't let them go. Give it up! And stay out of DC unless you are asked to visit.

Rudy Tecat said...

"Beat a patch"...hmmm...I wonder if this was misspelled just to make the Duggars seem homier, more down-south, or if Michelle (and the folks at TLC) are just ignorant. It doesn't even make any sense.

sandi said...

I found it interesting that Michelle didn't even give a reason as to why they would want one of them at Josh and Anna's place all the time.She didn't say, "because Anna has asked for help in this new season of their lives" or anything of the sort.The reason is left up to the reader to discern.hmm..

Rudy Tecat said...

Anna's going to get a Duggar girl to help her out in Washington for one reason: all of her sisters have babies and lives of their own, while the Duggar Daughters have no lives.

sandi said...

Rudy,I agree,but it also seems the Duggars think a big city=sinful lifestyle.(recall that Jinger just wanted to live closer to Walmart).And that's not necessarily the case.It seems they think Josh and Anna,a married couple w 3 kids,need a chaparone in a big city,lest they fall from their ways.Which I think is ridiculous.jmo.

Lynn Grey said...

At first I wondered why on earth would a couple want an extended family member to live with them all the time. I know I certainly would prefer to have some autonomy, and some alone time with my spouse. But I have to assume that Josh and Anna's relationship is not like that. And that these families really cling together and do very little socializing outside their relatives or ATI friends.

Sharla said...

Really? Snack ideas? Don't moms master that one by the time the first child is one?

Irene said...

I don't know anout US laws, but why are they not wearing any seat belts?

Jac&Jil said...

Duh, Michelle, I think just about everyone knows about taking snacks with you whether you are just running to the store or going on a trip. I also can't believe that TLC would put that inane article on their web site.

You know, I don't think anyone cares about anything the Duggars do any more. They have had more than their 15 minutes of fame. Time for TLC to let them go.

sandi said...

Reruns of Jon and Kate provide more snack ideas than that.When asked how she kept them busy on long trips,Kate would always reply "just pull out the snacks..".

Sharla said...

The latest one could also be known as how to handle evil influences.

Rudy Tecat said...

Gee, Michelle. Difficult children are always other people's children? Your children don't ever misbehave?

Londonbridges said...

I then would draw the conclusion that the younger blessings have learned to sit on counters, diapers and all, dig into food with unwashed hands, stand on counter tops with horribly dirty bare feet, etc., from other children. If unacceptable behaviour is allowed at home and not corrected, it only is reasonable to expect that behaviour while away from home. Michelle, I think you don't have a clue as to what really happens in your own home with regard to behaviours that are disgusting, rude and unhealthy.

The elder blessings were raised and guided by their father and mother, while the youngest ones have not had parental guidance. I don't place blame on the sister-mommies but the parents. JMHO.

Pam said...

LOL, I think I've seen all of Michelle's younger "blessings" engaging in this so called difficult behavior. This woman is delusional and does not know how her own children behave or don't for that matter.

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