Doug Phillips Who Crowned Michelle Mother of the Year Resigned at Vision Forum

Another fundamentalist/evangelical leader falls.

Statement of Resignation

With thanksgiving to God for His mercy and love, I have stepped down from the office of president at Vision Forum Ministries and have discontinued my speaking responsibilities.
There has been serious sin in my life for which God has graciously brought me to repentance. I have confessed my sin to my wife and family, my local church, and the board of Vision Forum Ministries.  I engaged in a lengthy, inappropriate relationship with a woman. While we did not “know” each other in a Biblical sense, it was nevertheless inappropriately romantic and affectionate.
There are no words to describe the magnitude of shame I feel, or grief from the injury I caused my beloved bride and children, both of whom have responded to my repentance with what seems a supernatural love and forgiveness. I thought too highly of myself and behaved without proper accountability. I have acted grievously before the Lord, in a destructive manner hypocritical of life messages I hold dear, inappropriate for a leader, abusive of the trust that I was given, and hurtful to family and friends. My church leadership came alongside me with love and admonition, providing counsel, strong direction and accountability. Where I have directly wronged others, I confessed and repented. I am still in the process of trying to seek reconciliation privately with people I have injured, and to be aware of ways in which my own selfishness has hurt family and friends. I am most sensitive to the fact that my actions have dishonored the living God and been shameful to the name of Jesus Christ, my only hope and Savior.
This is a time when my repentance needs to be proven, and I need to lead a quiet life focusing on my family and serving as a foot soldier, not a ministry leader. Though I am broken over my failures, I am grateful to be able to spend more time with my family, nurturing my wife and children and preparing my older sons and daughters for life. So, for these reasons I want to let my friends know that I have stepped down as a board member and as president of Vision Forum Ministries. The Board will be making provision for the management of the ministry during this time. To the friends of this ministry, I ask for your forgiveness, and hope that you will pray for the Phillips family at this time, and for the men who will be responsible for shepherding the work of Vision Forum Ministries in the future.
Doug Phillips

24 comments:

zebracrossing said...

First of all...this makes me sad. Second of all...I am not surprised. It goes to show that even with all the holy guidelines on modesty and strict courtship rules...even the patriarch of patriarch can't follow them. If a middle aged 'christian' father can fall into temptation...how does anyone who runs in this quiverful circle...expect the rules to work for young, unmarried and sexually primed teens and young adults? I do believe that it is better to save sex for marriage...but all the other rules and nonsense that makes this a cult - DON'T WORK. I think this has great implications coming...more fall out and many more lives affected.
Last of all, this resignation is self centered and arrogant. Shame.

Nancy said...

Rumor has it that it was a former nanny who shall remain nameless to protect her identity. Her daddy worked for Dougie (the Tool) in one of his warehouses, so there was a definite socio-economic gap, as well as the employer/employee thing, not to mention the male as spiritual leader crap that these people believe in. All of that spells doom for a young woman who wants to say something. I can totally see this scenario playing out. I also hope that if this is true, she leaves that cult and speaks out regarding all of the forms of abuse she was subjected to and how hard it is to say no in that situation.

If you haven't caught on, I believe there was a Clintonian situation going on here; no intercourse, but likely plenty of other things that save Phillips from the stain of a divorce (in their world, only permissible in the event of adultery). The way that statement is worded makes it crystal clear that he wants the world to know he didn't have sex with that woman.

Another source who will be posting a report later today (I'll post a link once the full article is up) says that the books at VF will also be pored over...possible embezzlement?

zebracrossing said...

When you start searching...you find a lot about this cultish group. I hope the Duggars can escape scandal...I really do. Maybe that's why JB is always smooching on Michelle. Trying not to be tempted. Here is a link that describes the Baby conference Vision Forum promoted (Michelle is crowned mother of the year). Is this where they picked up the Adoption mantra? http://www.visionforumministries.org/events/bc/001/

Willow said...

Is this man's wife the lady who came and visited Michelle and Josie when Josie first came home and the rest of the family was on a trip? Do you guys remember that? I'm pretty sure it was the Vision Forum leader's wife. Did she take Michelle somewhere or just invite her somewhere?

the intrepid barber said...

I wonder if the woman will find the same kind of gracious forgiveness that Doug has. Especially since she probably 'tempted' him somehow. Somehow I doubt it.

Mcl said...

This guy is so full of himself it is not funny. This letter is full of I's. How about a request for prayer for the woman and her family? they will slap him on the wrist and he will return. he should be gone from VF forever. He has proven he should not be a leader and should now focus on his family And just work a normal job. I hope his kids are not continually held to these unrealistic expectations now that daddy has shown his true colors.

zebracrossing said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqdE9_76Rx8

Doug Phillips claiming that millions of people are grateful for Michelle...Mother of the Year

Nancy said...

Here's the article I promised: http://thewartburgwatch.com/2013/11/01/vision-forum-ministries-president-doug-phillips-resigns-due-to-infidelilty/

Nancy said...

If the rumors are correct, the woman will be even more ostracized in this world because she was an unmatried hottie temptress. It's always the woman's fault when men stumble. Duh. *eyeroll*

mythoughtis said...

This is first, a situation about POWER and arrogance. Many leaders (industry, political, religious) seem to fall into the trap of thinking they are entitled to anything they want. They somehow forget normal standards.

The biggest result from this situation will be all the fundy families doubling down on the various chaperone and accountability principles. They will possibly start applying those principles to married people also (as in you can't be in the same room as someone of the opposite gender by yourself, even if it is in the work place). Can you see how this just grows and grows until we hit the level of stupidity that results in burkas and honor killings?

I operate under the theory that I trust my husband until he gives me reason not to..along with the sensible idea that neither of us goes barhopping without each other. When he gives me reason not to trust him, then divorce will occur.

Beth Anne said...

Re:
The biggest result from this situation will be all the fundy families doubling down on the various chaperone and accountability principles.

Goodness, I hope not. That would be scary and unfortunate. I would almost argue that their stringent "accountability" system for unmarrieds contributes to the inability to handle challenging "adult" situations appropriately, i.e., learning to manage temptations on your own. These folks are never given a chance to figure out, hey, I'm dating this woman and really like her, but I'm kind of attracted to this one, too, so what do I do about that?

When you are able to work out such scenarios and deal with such feelings on your own, you build up knowledge, wisdom, and experience you can draw upon when you are older and the stakes are higher - such as when you are MARRIED. I can't remember if it was said on this blog or another, but someone made a great point that people who follow the Gothard/ATI life model are not more "virtuous" if they've never faced and overcome temptation on their own; they are just more over-protected and have never been given the opportunity to stand on their own and face the consequences of their own choices, bad or good.

Nancy said...

Dougie's love affair with power has quite a history. Here's a link to Jen Epstein's bloh. Read her story regarding how her family was bullied by Doug, his wife Beall (yes, she stopped by to visit Michelle and Josie in Little Rock a few years back), and the leadership of Dougie's homechurch (from which he has resigned, but not as president of VF, INC. Big distinction here).

http://jensgems.wordpress.com/category/jens-story-01/

Dar said...

It is unfortunate that these men, in fact all males, in the lives of these young girls, are treated almost like demi-gods. The way Michelle looks adoringly up at JimBob when he speaks his words of wisdom is nauseating. He has a lot of control and power over his family. The young girls won't even cut their hair because the patriarch like long hair.

How are they supposed to handle it when a leader in the religious community makes advances. They would not have a clue. They are so over protected and vulnerable. They have no terms of reference as to how to say "no" in this situation. They would probably be afraid to tell their parents, because they would assume they are somehow guilty. This man is arrogant and selfish. He probably got caught, otherwise, we would not be hearing about it. This is abuse of power and conrol. Shame, shame.

sandi said...

Yes,I can certainly see them going even more overboard with the clothing.What's next? Long sleeves,leggings under all the women's skirts,even head coverings?Perhaps no makeup,the list goes on...

tulip said...

Excuse me, but nowhere in this "official statement" do we ever hear this man apologizing for his deception and lying to the people-the millions of people who have faithfully took guidance from, participated in, and contributed to VF. Yes, at the very END, he asks for forgiveness from the "friends" of the ministry, but no direct apology for anything. I would have expected to hear something along the lines of "I sincerely apologize with the heaviest of hearts for misrepresenting myself and deceiving the millions of you...", etc. Only babbling about hurting his wife & kids, serving as a foot soldier, needing private time with his family, blah, blah. Ugh! IMO, sounds like a very egotistical man spouting a bunch of self-centered nonsense looking to escape to the nearest foxhole, only to make a comeback in a few years, having been "redeemed" and ready to once again take his position shuffling papers & collecting paychecks.

Rudy Tecat said...

If this had happened in the secular society, there would be ones in the "religious" community who would have used this as an indictment against secularism. Instead, is this an indictment against the religious, male-dominated, quiverful, Vision Forum, Duggar-Gothard ultra-conservative bunch? Shouldn't JB take a deep breath and re-think his being linked to these guys?

Nana Sew Dear said...

That's a whole lot of verbage to say "I was lusting after this woman but got caught before we could follow through".

Nancy said...

Jen's Gems took a look at the Ministry's tax records from 2011 and discovered that it took in about $2.5 million in DONATIONS from all those families with 10 people who share one chicken breast for dinner to stretch a buck.

He took about $670,000 of that money and "purchased" a radio show that Vision Forum, Inc. ALREADY OWNED. Guess who is the sole owner of VF, Inc? Doug Phillips. So basically, it looks like he skimmed off the top of his non-profit and pocketed the proceeds.

I have words, but Sharla would reject my post, so I'll leave them to myself. :D

Willow said...

The people of this "mind set" are so sheltered and chaperoned, this is apparently what CAN happen the minute they are near the opposite sex without a chaperone. They have no maturity, no normal thinking process. No self control!! And of course, the women will be blamed. Its just so against normal human nature and SO unnecessary! Normal growing and maturing processes CAN produce relaxed people who do not cheat!! Trying to enforce fidelity at every turn probably produces the opposite effect. Just trying to wrap my head around this issue, as always, with little understanding. Not trying to generalize too much. Its all just so weird (to me).

Beth Anne said...

RE: "Instead, is this an indictment against the religious, male-dominated, quiverful, Vision Forum, Duggar-Gothard ultra-conservative bunch?"

I think it just goes to show that all their rules and checklists of how to live will not lead to a "perfect" life, one without temptation, sin, and redemption. It shows that each one of us is responsible for our decisions, actions, and behaviors and that we need to work these things out on our own. Mr. Phillips did everything "correctly," per the ATI guidelines, but still made a very human mistake. I hope this humbles him in the truest sense of the word and enables him to develop a more genuine faith.

zebracrossing said...

The more I read about Doug Phillips, the angrier I get. Remember the Duggars run with this family. Wonder if they will remain silent. Wonder if they will discuss this with their children.

http://spiritualsoundingboard.com/2013/11/12/doug-phillips-his-power-and-control-using-godly-patriarchy/

pumpkin said...

I read that the San Antonio film festival was cancelled as part of the fallout from this.

I wonder if the Duggars will tell their children WHY they aren't going to San Antonio this year or if they'll gloss over it.

Coleen said...

The VF ministries decided to close and the on-line store is liquidating. I have a feeling there is more to the story. If a leader falls from grace, a ministry can usually regroup and go forward. But VF decided to end everything.

Anonymous said...

At a Homeschool conference, I commented to Doug Phillips that I had been a choir director in a military chapel conducting Army colonels and their wives and children and that the LORD had blessed my ministry. He told me that even though the LORD had blessed the ministry, it was the wrong thing to do because a woman should not be in that position of conducting men. I disagree with that statement; Jesus would not make that statement. I came to the conclusion, after speaking with him, that he was simply wrong.