Tuesday, November 16, Duggar Daddy on Duty

While Michelle and Josie pay a visit to the pediatrician, Jim Bob takes Josiah out on the open road to practice driving before his DMV test. Later, Jim Bob is on daddy-duty all by himself looking after both Jordyn and Josie.

50 comments:

pumpkin said...

Why is it such a big deal to watch a father taking care of his own kids?

I wish the Duggars (and by extenstion "TV Land") would stop referring to it as "babysitting" when a man takes care of his own children.

Jessica said...

Because it's a man with 19 kids parenting some of them for the first time in his life? :P

Reality TV Junkie said...

Why is it such a big deal to watch a father taking care of his own kids?
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It's not. It's reality TV. That's what we are supposed to see if it's real, right?

Karen said...

this blurb didn't. "Daddy duty" is different then babysitting - very different connotation (at least in the south)
Personnaly I think they are running out of Duggar ______ titles ; D

Allison said...

Yeah, I also want to point out that it doesn't say "babysitting" it just says he's watching them alone.

I also think it's strange that people would get upset about having an episode showing Jim Bob watching 2 of his kids and then say "why are we watching this?" but then also complain about "field trips" and other supposed staged activities. You can't want to see the Duggars in their every day life (i.e. Jim Bob occasionally watching his two baby daughters alone) and also not want to watch it because it's boring and typical.

I'd also like to point out that I constantly see Jim Bob carrying Jordyn around the house. He probably holds her more than anyone else, I think.

Reality TV Junkie said...

I love seeing parent/child interaction of the same sex. (Mom and daughter, father and son). Having alone time with your same gender parent is one of (at least in my opinion)the best types of family interactions there are. This will be a great bonding experience for Josiah and Jim Bob, even if it's only going for a drive.

Peace said...

Jordyn shouldn't even be around Josie too much due to slobbery baby germs. It might be fun seeing Jim Bob try to keep the two apart and entertained. He might break a sweat. Jordyn is always fun to watch anyway so I have no complaints.

Anonymous said...

What is the driving age in Arkansas? Isn't it 16 like anywhere else?

Anonymous said...

What? Child care is now suddenly part of The Patriarch's jurisdiction?

"Reality" tv? What a charade.

Iliketheduggars said...

Kids can get their learner's permit in Arkansas at 14.

michelle said...

I would like to see a day where just Michelle is in charge of all the kids. It doesnt seem like she spends much time with them, expect the nursing baby. Or when the "moms" are out.

Anonymous said...

"Why is it such a big deal to watch a father taking care of his own kids?"

It's a big deal to show that Jim Bob does take care of his own kids, because people on Youtube videos, this blog and other blogs and forums have made it a big deal.

There are constant threads about how we want to see Jim Bob and Michelle take care of their kids. Yet, when there is footage shown of them doing so it's either boring or staged.

It's getting to be very clear that the production staff are reading the forums and blogs, so if we make a big deal about something it's going to be shown.

SuzanneDeAZ said...

Why would someone think that he is parenting some of the kids for their first time when you have seen countless shows of him interacting with them and carrying them around?

He even parents them in the middle of the night when his older kids often come and discuss things. Not too many teens interact with their parents that much that they come in the middle of the night to talk. They say that the average child interacts with their parents 5 to 10 min. a day.

Allison said...

As inarticulate as Jim Bob sounds most of the time, I really think he's the better parent. I'm always seeing him carrying around Jordyn or Jennifer, while Michelle just seems to carry around a baby when she's nursing. He's taught at least Jinger and Josiah how to drive, so that's one-on-one time that we never really have seen Michelle do (although I guess this recent bungy-jumping trip could be considered). He's gone on both father-daughter and father-son trips with his kids, which Michelle has never done. When Michelle hosted Anna's baby shower last year, he took the boys out to get them out of the way. It seems like he does quite a bit of "babysitting" and "parenting" before. It's Michelle who seems to be more interested in chatting to the camera.

Anonymous said...

How on earth do they expect Josie not to get sick if they let Jordyn climb all over her and kiss her like she did?

Anonymous said...

Good to know that Michelle, who says "most strangest," is responsible for teaching her children grammar.

Anonymous said...

I honestly thought that the guide on my tv was wrong (as it so often is) when the episode description said Josiah would be driving. Surely he couldn't be old enough to even get a learner's permit? Right? Well I see I was wrong. I knew the Duggars before him seemed to drive kind of young but maybe, because of his height, I was surprised he was already of driving age, well driving age at least in Arkansas. He drove surprisingly well on the empty street to say he is a beginner. Jim Bob has a lot of patience to teach so many young ones to drive.

I am not surprised Josie got a little stomatch bug. Not because the Duugars are filthy people or anything but because there are so many people in the house. Viral bugs can run through a house sometimes twice in one course when you have a large group together. I grew up in a house with lots of sibilings and my family is close knit so when one gets sick we all expect to get sick. We are currently only week two of a cold virus and four out of seven have gotten it in a week! I am glad that Josie immune system is strong enough to handle the viral bug on her own without having a major illness or hospitalization.

MOM IN TEXAS

Anonymous said...

Josiah said he almost hit three people on the way home!?!

hannah said...

will we have a show next week, or just sunday?

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
"Josiah said he almost hit three people on the way home!?!"

He was JOKING! What a cute kid. He seems to be more well spoken and intelligent than his older siblings.

Madigan said...

When Michelle told one of the little boys to leave the room when she was changing Josie's diaper was this because of modesty? If so, does this mean only girls change girls and boys change boys? Also, is it the same for potty training? It's just kind of hard to believe the boys actually have the challenging job of potty training especially since most of the time boys are harder to train.

Even though for the majority of time I don't like Jim Bob, I have to admit there was a little sweetness about the way he was trying to build the Lincoln Log house with Jordyn-Grace. I might be wrong but I think that's one of the very few times I've seen either him or Michelle get on the floor and play with a child in a one-on-one setting. It was nice to see.

Reality TV Junkie said...

Good to know that Michelle, who says "most strangest," is responsible for teaching her children grammar.
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Most people,(heck, even my English teacher!) make grammar mistakes. How many people do you see saying "there's" for plural? A lot. ex)"There's nine chairs." I think that all of society, not just the Duggars, need to check up on their grammar.

Tammy C said...

You are at least fourteen years of age (restricted license).

Josiah turned 14 in August so he is old enough to drive.

msrylee said...

Usually JimBob grates on my last nerve, but I thought it was very nice to see him on the floor with Jordyn. I don't recall a time when Michelle got down on the floor with one of her blessings and played with him/her. JimBob isn't my favourite Duggar, but I think he is more involved than Michelle is with the blessings. He has a long way to go, but at least we see him trying. I also am aware that this is "reality" T.V. and what we see isn't in fact what truly happens in the Duggar household every day.

Anonymous said...

Regarding us never seeing Michelle on the floor playing one on one, I think sometimes we are a bit hard on JimBob and Michelle for their perceived gaps in their parenting skills. When I think back to when my children were young, I realize their were several areas where I fell short due to my own weaknesses. I wasn't good at playing with my kids one on one, but on the other hand I was very good at cuddling and being affectionate with them. My husband was better at playing with them than I was. That is just one example of my particular set of weaknesses and strengths. I think the idea is that hopefully together a husband and wife make a more complete parenting team.

My point is, my children still consider me a loving and good mother (that's what they say anyway!), despite the fact that I fell short in many areas and even perhaps neglected some things entirely. Parents are just people! Becoming a parent doesn't make anyone less imperfect, we just try harder to be adequate for the task, we succeed at some things more than others, and that's just life.

I think Michelle and JimBob are sincere and genuine parents who try as hard as they can and try to parent their very best. I wonder if Michelle's children will be any more detrimentally affected by the flaws in her parenting that we perceive and talk about, children from any other family. I tend to think not, based on the way they all appear to be happy and well-adjusted. Overall, I think they're being raised as well as about anybody.

Anonymous said...

We may not see Michelle down on the floor playing with her children a lot because it may be difficult for her to get down. I noticed when they were showing them at the childbirth classes she looked extremely awkward when she was supposed to get down on the floor. When you consider that Michelle is pregnant a good share of the time it may almost always be awkward for her to get down on the floor. I thought I read somewhere that she has back problems which would be another reason. I have arthritis in my back and I seldom get down on the floor to play with a child. I have someone put them on my lap or let them climb up if they are old enough. Just a thought

pottymouth princess said...

@hannah (and anyone who was wondering):

The Duggars' DV videocam (minus the reason they went to DC) episode airs Sunday night. A new episode where they go to the Louisville Sluggar factory. With their appalling lack of baseball knowledge (remember 4 fouls makes a strike?)this should be...interesting.

Donna said...

"When Michelle told one of the little boys to leave the room when she was changing Josie's diaper was this because of modesty? If so, does this mean only girls change girls and boys change boys?"

No, it means that girls change the diapers of both boys and girls and the boys do not change diapers at all because that's "women's work."

Also, Michelle was concerned about a premature infant defrauding one of the little guys.

The guys aren't supposed to see a woman's (girl's) anatomy until after the marriage. But don't worry, Jim Bob will give the infamous "legos" speech before hand so that all goes well on the honeymoon night.

These people are so prim, proper, and modest, except when it comes to showing all of America a woman giving birth on national TV (both vaginally and C-section) talking about her fertility, conception, breastfeeding under a tent, and everything else. Let's not forget the kisses between the two horny parents; God knows that we must be reminded every second of every minute that the show is on about how much they adore each other. The only people I know that are like this are teen-agers and I expect that from them.

The Duggars actually DRAW attention to themselves with their so-called "modesty." Their "modesty" is their marketing schtick. Believe me, people who are truly "modest", don't talk about it, they just do it.

Allison said...

Also, Michelle was concerned about a premature infant defrauding one of the little guys.

The guys aren't supposed to see a woman's (girl's) anatomy until after the marriage. But don't worry, Jim Bob will give the infamous "legos" speech before hand so that all goes well on the honeymoon night.

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I thought that was strange too, but then I thought, maybe she just doesn't want Jackson getting in the way? I mean, she was trying to get Josie ready and out the door, and maybe she just wanted to get Josie changed quickly without Jackson interrupting her. He's a little bundle of energy who clearly demands attention. I'd probably want him out of the room eventually too!

Oh, and it was Josh who came up with "lego" analogy, not Jim Bob. Josh is a classy one. ;)

Anonymous said...

I agree with Donna 10:10 and 10:19. Truly modest, humble people just ARE and they refrain from calling attention to their modest humility.

Ditto making a big hoopty do about being so moral. Ethical people simply treat others as they wish to be treated and do not need to constantly remind others of their 'faith'.

The Duggars do not measure up on my ethics scale. They in their TLC are far too showy about all things supposedly moral.

Anonymous said...

In DuggarThink, are males who display themselves in shorts and/or shirtless,also considered to 'defraud' females?

IF this 'defrauding' concept is applied only to the female gender, I've just found yet another reason I have to laugh at the Duggar brand.

Celestie said...

Its a big room, don't think the kid would get in way. I think it was more to protect Jackson from seeing girl parts. sigh. I also thought it was strange that Joyanna pulled out the chair for her brother, he sat and she stood. And that Michelle talking about baby head size, said I had how many children (guess she forgot the number).

I liked the driving lesson. I think Jim Bob was very patient and careful. I admire him for teaching that many kids to drive. I don't think Jordyn was all that interested in the Lincoln logs, they are probably above her age/ability/level.

Anonymous said...

Actually, I believe it was JBD who came up with the ridiculous premarital "People Are Like Legos" talk.

I'd use a more sophisticated approach for an explanation of human sexuality with my THREE year old.

Sad if Josh can only comprehend sexuality on a Lego level.

a mother said...

Anonymous that talked about parenting weaknesses, thank you for sharing. I completely agree, I am definitely not the one who does most of the playing in our house. My husband loves to play. I do however kiss and cuddle. I hug and listen and patch up skinned knees. I don't think there's anything wrong with Michelle's parenting style. I don't recall my mom EVER playing with me on the floor. However, I can hands down say that she was and is one of the best mothers in the world.

Sharla said...

- 1.558 million viewers
- 1.0/2 HH
- 0.6/1 A18-49

becky said...

"Most people,(heck, even my English teacher!) make grammar mistakes. How many people do you see saying "there's" for plural? A lot. ex)"There's nine chairs." I think that all of society, not just the Duggars, need to check up on their grammar."


I think the problem is that Michelle is the sole person [legally] charged with teaching and reviewing her kids school performance.

She does needs to be the best possible example. Because of her position, she very well should be held to a higher standard than the average person.

Lauren said...

When Michelle told one of the little boys to leave the room when she was changing Josie's diaper was this because of modesty? If so, does this mean only girls change girls and boys change boys? Also, is it the same for potty training? It's just kind of hard to believe the boys actually have the challenging job of potty training especially since most of the time boys are harder to train.

I thought the same thing. I thought it was SUPER strange to ask him to leave. I'm pretty sure the older girls have changed baby boy diapers.. so what's the difference if a little boy observes his sister being changed? I don't get it. My niece and nephew bathe together and nothing is thought of it!

Anonymous said...

"She does needs to be the best possible example. Because of her position, she very well should be held to a higher standard than the average person. "

One thing to keep in mind is that Michelle is using language arts and grammar curriculum to teach her kids the technicalities of proper English. Because a mom is homeschooling doesn't mean she's teaching grammar or anything else just straight out of her head.

My MIL has been an elementary school teacher for 30 years in a small "hick" town. Everyone, and I mean everyone, there uses hick grammar when speaking, except for the schoolteachers, that is! She has been trying in vain to get kids to grow up and use proper grammar, but with no luck, which drives her crazy. So my conclusion there is that even though kids are taught properly with formal curriculum, even at a public school, they are still going to talk like everyone around them does. So Michelle and JimBob's grammar mistakes are probably not affecting their kids any more than parents of public schooled kids are affecting their kids with improper grammar.

Anonymous said...

I have to agree with the comment about JimBob being the better parent. He does seem to be more affectionate and spend more time with his children. I know many will use the excuse that Michelle always has an infant to care for, but if she's able to travel for awards and luncheons, then surely she can spend some time with the rarely shown Joseph or the horde of forgotten boys. And I don't mean just once a year on their birthday,but real quality time.

And yet I also agree with the comment that everyone as parents has flaws. I don't have kids, but I have nieces and nephews and I'll be the first to admit I don't enjoy playing with children so it could be Michelle is stronger as a parent in some aspects and weaker in others.

Modesty Thoughts said...

I liked this episode. I like the "more normal" episodes. It was good seeing JimBob take Josiah out driving--although he did look so young. I wish the editors would have respected Michelle's statement to leave the pillow comment on the editing floor--which they did not. It makes me think that in not too long, my eldest will be driving. Yikes!

I think both JimBob and Michelle have different parenting skills. I think JimBob is, for the most part, more hands on. But then again, that could be how things are edited.

The diaper changing thing didn't bother me as my husband comes from a very conservative culture and they would probably do the same thing. (Yes, diaper changing is women's work for the most part in their culture.) I don't think it has anything to do with "defrauding" the little J-boy... but more about teaching him to respect his sister's modesty. I'll add that in my husband's culture, even brothers of the same sex would not change together in the same room. One would go into the bathroom to change, and then the other one would be. Everybody's modesty is to be respected--it just isn't an opposite sex type thing. In his country, one doesn't even find urinals in the male bathrooms. Every guy goes into his own little stall. (OK, maybe TMI.)

Celestie said...

I think the girls bathe the boys, change the boys etc, because they are preparing or "practicing" for motherhood, (for years and years and years). Baby boys "stuff' has only a passing resemblance to adult male stuff. So I think they are safe from the defrauding thing.

Anonymous said...

We don't know whether some of those kids can even read properly (given the "monkey starts with the letter J" and some of the books we have seen the kids reading, which are years below grade level). We don't know whether that is the result of lack of proper education or learning disabilities. Some of the kids seem to have speech impediments that have never been addressed.

The Duggars distrust anyone from "the state" or "government" providing anything to their family (except Medicare), so I doubt that they would take advantage of early intervention testing or services, which makes a HUGE difference in the life of a special needs child.

I'd like to be pleasantly surprised, but rather doubt we will be, based on five years of watching the family.

amberlilwood said...

Are any other viewers troubled by the almost cruel mockery of the Duggars by the TLC folks? During this episode several family members were, I thought, made to look foolish when they struggled to answer a question from the rules of the road manual that Josiah was studying. Similar situations come to mind from past shows, going clear back to the ridiculous reenactment of the pottery wheel scene from "Ghost".....or the silly, staged encounter between Josh and Anna on the beach in Florida, or the producers not honoring Michelle's request to edit the whole sitting-on-a-pillow-to-drive comment from the final version of the episode. Granted, the Duggars have consented to let their family be filmed, but holding them up to ridicule seems inappropriate, especially if the family isn't "in" on the joke.

Ohio Buckeye said...

re: The Joke's On The Duggars:

The Duggars claim their show is 'reality', so if their show portrays them as less than the brightest bulbs in the box, then I guess that is the reality - they are not exactly Rhodes scholars, the Duggars.

Any family who signs on to a reality show has no one to blame but themselves if/when they are portrayed as laughable and/or unlikable.

The Duggars might not GET the jokes being made of them, but they are laughing all the way to the bank anyway.

Actually, my opinion is that the Duggars don't mind playing their parts as the scripted brand TLC has created, even if this means their lack of smarts is a source of 'humor' in the show. It all pay$ the $ame.

Anonymous said...

Any family who signs on to a reality show has no one to blame but themselves if/when they are portrayed as laughable and/or unlikable.
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Absolutely. In fact, I might go so far as to say that anyone who agrees to be on a reality tv show should EXPECT that their worst moments can and will be shown, their most humiliating, or painful, or emotional, or embarrassing. Anyone going onto a reality should should plan that their words may be "shown" (voiceover) out of context for whatever effect the producer wants to use it for; and certainly no reality show participant should expect that what is shown in any way resembles their actual reality, personality or beliefs. If it does, that's a bonus.

That's why I think no parent should sign up their child for a reality show - it's one thing to agree to allow yourself to be mocked, publicly embarrassed or mis-represented; but it's quite another to decide your minor child will have to go through as well.

kelsey said...

I thought it was so weird when Michelle asked Jackson to step out. I thought perhaps it was because she knows the little kids don't like to be around when poopy diapers are being changed. I don't know though.. definitely weird. It is downright creepy if she asked him to leave for modesty reasons. There is absolutely no need to even consider sexuality or "defrauding" in a situation like changing baby sister's diaper.

Of course, I could be totally wrong in my interpretation of that scene.

Anonymous said...

Maybe it was a polite way to let the camera crew know it was time to leave or maybe he's sensitive to nasty diapers and Michelle did say a stomach bug was going around.

Anonymous said...

I wasn't paying strict attention but during the re-airing just now did they edit out Michelle's comments about grapes being a "precious commodity that's rationed", something that was discussed on this board.

Anonymous said...

RE: "I wasn't paying strict attention but during the re-airing just now did they edit out Michelle's comments about grapes being a "precious commodity that's rationed", something that was discussed on this board."

I'm on the west coast and just saw a 1230am re-airing and the grapes comment was still in the episode.

msrylee said...

Perhaps the Duggars could substitute grapes in place of the bags of chips, Doritos, etc. They could serve healthier choices by making small changes in their 'food' choices. JMHO.