Example of the self-righteous rants we receive.

Why is it that people can't just other people alone. Yes they signed up for a reality series which make them in the "Lime" light. But they are only doing it because of their Faith and love for their family. There are SO many other shows that I agree are staged and wrong. But what have the Duggar's really done wrong? The love their kids. They are happy, healthy and loving. I have 5 myself. 2 I gave birth to and 3 from my marriage. I want more. Is that wrong? Why do people think they can dictate a person's life and pull it into a microscope? Just because they are on TV. They are on TV to give their message about God and raising a family with GOD as the focus. This entire country has got way to use to leaving GOD out of everything. Schools, government and REALLY your going to complain a reality show that ONLY shows good morals?? Do ANY of you have teenagers?? I would be blessed to have mine mind and appreciate what they have. Get off the Duggar's....It's so idiotic to break down the facid of their lives as to...I don't think they really clean, or they can't be like that in real life. Give me break! I was raised not far from them, though I have never met them. I only had one sibling but the beliefs they teach their children were taught to my brother and I. Find someone else to pick apart.

41 comments:

nogmamme said...

I wouldn't really call this a "self righteous" rant. Just someone stating their opinion like everyone else on this site.

Clara said...

When you hear your baby has died inside of you, and within a few hours you are releasing statements to the media, that's not because of their faith and certainly not for love of their family. That's just famewhoring plain and simple. Surely TLC would not have said anything to the media if the duggars asked, and who else would have known? The normal thing to do would be to go home and have a few days of private time to deal with this tragedy. But no, the duggars have to go do interviews and update their website!

The other thing they do wrong is they don't even raise their kids anymore! It's all on the older "buddy's". We've seen this clearly on the show. Even precious miracle Josie has been handed off to her sister mom!

So do you think it's "good morals" to show their dying grandfather on tv, to show their struggling premature infant on TV, to film their child who could have had neck or spinal injuries for all they know? With that creep smile Michelle had the whole time while talking about Jason's accident?

And btw, there is nothing wrong with taking god out of schools and the government. That's the way it's supposed to be. Religion is supposed to be personal.

Rainbow68 said...

I do have concerns about their children. Older kids have the responsibility of caring for the younger kids. They are cloistered from the world like most Gothard kids. Many of the Gothard parents have college degrees, yet discourage their kids from getting anything beyone high school educations. Kids are not able to discern God's will for themselves, but have to submit to their parents' "wisdom". You don't leave home unless you're getting married. These are my opinions and they are just as valid as anyone else's. If this means I'm "picking them apart", I guess I'm guilty as charged.

Sharla said...

I call it self-righteous because the person is attacking the opinions of other commenters and saying people should not talk about the Duggars (unless apparently they say good things). That is self-righteousness. The commenter has no problem ripping other commenters apart.

Rainbow68 said...

Oops, sorry. Chill pill taken!

The Roaming Commoner said...

Exactly. My thing about the die hard Duggar defenders is that they all seem to forget that the Duggars gave up their privacy when they decided to parade their family on television for the almighty dollar. How can anyone expect to receive privacy when they shove themselves into America's face?

ennvee said...

And btw, there is nothing wrong with taking god out of schools and the government. That's the way it's supposed to be. Religion is supposed to be personal.

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Yeah, there's this thing called the separation of Church and State so that religious fanatics won't be able to circumvent secular democracy in favor of legalistic theocracy. We have evidence of how well that works...look at Iran. Extremism is extremism; whether Christian or Muslim, their plans to breed until the can outvote the rest of us is laughable (and in a country this large, not realistic).

To the OP, have 50 kids if you want. Just make sure you can afford them and not rely on your kids to buy your groceries or the taxpayers to pay your medical bills when you can't afford to insure your family.

Remember the Duggars are the exception, not the rule, as examples of the followers of Bill Gothard. And if the OP is reading this, do some research about the guy and what he's really teaching. Hint: it's not what Jesus taught.

Nikki said...

This family's matriarch and patriarch are Gothard focused, using God only as a facade to hide behind. They are not God focused.

Friend said...

Ditto to Clara's statement.

tellmetrue said...

wow. that is some really unfortunate spelling and grammar.

imaamy said...

Thanks for what you do Sharla. It was written like a SOTDRT grad:)

Elverna Bradshaw said...

I'm sure the writer of that letter would want religion out of schools (and especially government!!) pretty darn quick if the religion being promoted was Islam.

What a surprise that a Duggar fanatic would have spelling and grammar just as atrocious as theirs.

Anonymous said...

What's so upstanding, decent and moral about selling your kids' anonymity and private lives for cash?

Lindy said...

Cheap shots on a person's grammar is uncalled for. JMHO. The person got her point across, and was probably heated and worked up when she wrote it. That's when I tend to make grammatical mistakes. :)

Delta88 said...

When people sell their souls to the Devil (i.e. nationwide television) because of greed, they don't deserve to be left alone.

The Duggars are no better than Kate+8, the Roloffs, the Kardashians, Snookie or the Desperate Housewives. Just because they wrap themselves in the cloak of religion (and ONLY Christianity---I noticed that Lowes will no longer advertise during American Muslim, due to anti-Muslim sentiment among conservative "pro-family" Christians), they cannot be excused for their fame whoring. They are not inspirational, in the slightest.

When one sells out privacy and modesty and decency, he/she doesn't get a pass. I have every right to comment on Michelle's dangerous, narcissistic behavior, which I would never know or care about if the family raised their litter in Arkansas in private.

If they does not want public commentary, they ought to stay out of the public eye. It's that simple. But the DUggars are far too greedy, and money and pride are much more important than common decency, morality, privacy.

londonbridges said...

Well said to the previous posters. I also think that the Duggars should have asked for privacy from TLC until they were prepared to make a statement. Releasing those statements and updating their family site just a few hours of learning of the death of their unborn child isn't to 'encourage' and 'minister' to the ungodly, it is famewhoring. Nothing more, nothing less.

This is my personal opinion. I'm certain the 'self righteous' ranter with the horrific spelling won't like it any more than the rest of these posts.

Allie said...

If someone chooses to be on tv, they have to accept the good, bad, and ugly that comes along with that. I think the Duggars fully realize that. They know they have "haters", and I really think they couldn't care less about it. So, OP, take a lesson from your beloved duggars. Let it roll off your back.

SGoody said...

I've often wondered why the people writing these negative comments continue watching the show.

Elvira said...

Lindy, that would be cheap shots "are." I find it all funny. The Duggars bring it on themselves. They are being paid to put up with disagreement.

But when someone shows up to "tell us off," then perhaps the way they express themselves is open to critique also.

ennvee said...

I've often wondered why the people writing these negative comments continue watching the show.

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"Know thy enemy." The Duggars, per se, aren't the enemy, but their religious fanatacism, cloaked in a guise of sweetness and light, is dangerous. Especially to mainstream Christians who think these people are for real.

I watch with a critical eye and comment on their exploits because they need to be exposed for the famewhoring frauds (the parents and Josh) that is the REAL impetus for this show being on the air.

SmokeyKitty said...

This person is entitled to their opinion, as are the rest of the people on this site. The fact remains that the Duggars have put their family on the air in exchange for material gain as well as to spread their version of the gospel. They televise births and medical appointments, they exploit the deaths of loved ones and take a fragile child on potentially life threatening trips. They use their daughters as free labor and they deny every one of their children a proper education while filling their heads with fears about the sinners in this world.
We can, and we should, criticize. If only to send the message to other children caught up in fundamentalist families that this is not the only way to live and that they have options. To show them the inequalities they must suffer are noticed by others.

And to add, it really irritates me to see lime in quotes. My inner grammarian is screaming right now.

Seriously? said...

Wow. Just wow.

So, those of us who do not consider ourselves religious are, by definition, less moral than the Duggars and their fans?

Those of us who are more liberal than the Duggars are, again, by definition less ethical than the Duggars?

This country is supposed to be founded on freedom for all, INCLUDING those of no particular religious affiliation.

To those who believe what they see on tv, more power to you. And to Santa and the Easter Bunny.

You are living in The Zone of the Self Righteous if you believe your religion renders you more ethical than those without any particular religious affiliation.

But believe what you want/need to believe. And please keep your religious beliefs and platitudes to yourself and refrain from self righteously trying to 'save' the rest of us.

The only 'saving' we need is from religious zealots who sit in judgment of any and all of a different (muchless NO) religious affiliation.

Hand me the remote, please, surf's up....

Seriously? said...

"there's this thing called the separation of Church and State so that religious fanatics won't be able to circumvent secular democracy in favor of legalistic theocracy. We have evidence of how well that works...look at Iran. Extremism is extremism; whether Christian or Muslim, their plans to breed until the can outvote the rest of us is laughable (and in a country this large, not realistic)."

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Amen from this corner of the choir!!!

Seriously? said...

What Quiverful-types have in voting numbers (from unbridled breeding) they seem to lack in brain power, so, net/net, their plan to outpopulate, outvote 'sinners' is lofty and unrealistic.

Seriously? said...

""Know thy enemy." The Duggars, per se, aren't the enemy, but their religious fanatacism, cloaked in a guise of sweetness and light, is dangerous. Especially to mainstream Christians who think these people are for real.

I watch with a critical eye and comment on their exploits because they need to be exposed for the famewhoring frauds (the parents and Josh) that is the REAL impetus for this show being on the air."

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And another AMEN! from the choir for this well-stated insight.

The Roaming Commoner said...

Grammar and spelling (in my opinion) are not the big issue that we're discussing here. The fact remains that the Duggars are exposing what should be the most private and closed moments of their lives to millions of strangers. Maybe they should leave us alone and get their show of of the television? It is not as simple as changing a channel either, not when they are constantly doing other shows, magazine photos, and parading around the country and trips that most of us can only imagine going on.

sandi said...

my thought is that they were asking for privacy at the same time TLC was filming.If that was the case then I find it very hypocritical.

Seriously? said...

Do the Duggars even understand the difference between prosyletizing and pimping, because to these eyes it's all the same in Duggarville - pimp out your fam for $$$ while claiming $ is not the object, Je$u$ is.

Amy (not the cousin) said...

When you hear your baby has died inside of you, and within a few hours you are releasing statements to the media, that's not because of their faith and certainly not for love of their family. That's just famewhoring plain and simple.
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I disagree. Do we know she was at a doctors office? She could have been at one of those 3d ultrasound boutiques, like they have gone to in the past on the show. I have been to one twice before, and there is no confidentiality agreement, meaning they (the business) could have gone to the media, and as a mourning family, it was better to have made thier statement than to get specualtion going and causing invasion of privacy by the press to see if it was true. By announcing it, and telling what happened themselves, they probably got a lot more privacy than had they waited and delt with "annonymus sources".

sandi said...

I would have to agree that I think the early admission of a miscarriage was so that they could get their own story out there first.

Maria said...

I think it's wrong for Michelle's older daughters to be the primary care takers of the babies she continues to bring into the world. The mother of these children are not Jana, Jill, Jessa, Jinger, or Joy Anna.

It is one thing to help out around the house and have chores, and to occasionally baby sit your brother or sister, but to take on these responsibilities every single day is wrong.

Jana, Jill, Jessa, Jinger, and Joy Anna should be able to enjoy their youth.

What was Michelle doing in her youth? She was a cheerleader, she was allowed to date, she was allowed to make choices for herself.

Her daughters are not built in mini mothers. They should be enjoying life, not at home every day acting out the role of a house wife and mother.

Anonymous said...

I have just heard from a reputable source that the Bates family has signed a contract for their own t.v. show.

Jenny O said...

Why is it fanatical Duggar supporters don't know how to spell, punctuate or capitalize properly?

The word is LIMELIGHT and it's unnecessary (and incorrect) to put LIME in quotes. The word can be traced back to the 19th Century, when lighting fixtures that burned lime were used to illuminate theatrical stages. Thus, performers were "in the limelight" when they were on stage. It fits the Duggars perfectly because they are performing an act, pretending to be a very modest, devout, Christian family. In reality, the parents are certainly not modest, seek the limelight, and should be ashamed of their lack of self control (to say the very least).

I have a teenager. Sometimes he is moody, and *gasp!* even smart mouths once in awhile. However, because I didn't beat fear of me into him from a very early age, this is to be expected. It's part of the maturing process, when teens need to form their separate identity from their parents. It can be very difficult for both parent and child. Sorry your teens don't mind you - mine does mind me, it just might take several reminders to make it happen.

I criticize the Duggars and all those that follow Gothard because they are deserving of criticism. But most especially the Duggars, because they (Mr. and Mrs.) are attention seekers, who exercise no self-restraint sexually, and then make their older daughters raise the children they create willy-nilly.

in the "Lime" light? The word you are looking for is "limelight" (and no need to use quotation marks). You might want to Google the root of that word.

"pull it into a microscope"?

Seriously? said...

Well said, Jenny O!!! Standing ovation.

EARLY mornings as I'm preparing to go to work, I've occasionally happened upon Duggar reruns.

It happened this morning and I laughed right out loud as I observed the impossible-to-miss big flat screen in Joshies' teensy tinsy living room. I recalled reading here on DWoP that nearby residents have stated Josh/Anna's house has a satellite dish easily visible. THEN came the piece of the usual Duggar drivel that almost made me choke on my own coffee: Joshie explained that a) he 'won' (?!) the tv at an auction and b) they only use the tv for educational items for McKynzie (or whatever misspelling the Duggars have conferred upon this poor child) - only educational programs that depict good values are allowed.

Talk about DuggarSpeak, DuggarSpin.

I consider the Duggars to be a very sad, very embarrassing American joke. And I know just the place for their big flatscreen, their satellite dish, AND their claimed-ad-nauseum good values....

Annie2 said...

"Do we know she was at a doctors office? She could have been at one of those 3d ultrasound boutiques, like they have gone to in the past on the show. I have been to one twice before, and there is no confidentiality agreement, meaning they (the business) could have gone to the media, and as a mourning family, it was better to have made thier statement than to get specualtion going and causing invasion of privacy by the press to see if it was true. "

HIPAA includes privacy. This would mean that the ultrasound boutiques would NOT be allowed to disclose any information regarding the health of the baby or mother without written consent from the patient.


In regards to the big screen TV in Josh's house... I see it as being a way to rebel from his parents. They only have a little TV and its only brought out on special occasions.

hart&sole said...

Taught to my brother and me.

Ticked off in Texas said...

I personally agree with many of the statements made here. If Jim Bob and Michelle wanted a big family, they should be the mother and father and care for the children they bring into the world, not their daughters! These children are all home-schooled, meaning the only interaction with other children they have is with their own siblings. What is that teaching them? Definitely not how to interact with other members of society. As for the miscarriage, they can have their photos of their baby, but it should have been kept private. She already delivered one premature baby, and now a miscarriage. Do they not think that's a sign that enough is enough? We should all be so lucky as to live in such a magnificent home as the Duggars live in. But did they pay for it, or did the American public pay for it by enabling them by watching their t.v. show? Their laundry room is larger then my entire home! And how do they afford all those sets of expensive washers & dryers, when people I know can't even afford just one set like that? We all still have the old fashioned top loaders! They are making money off their children; bottom line, and it should be against the law! I have no use for the Duggars, Octomom or Kate+8! Gold diggers, every one of them!

hart&sole said...

As the 'proud' owner of a very stylish front loading washing machine, I say to all of you still using the old fashioned top loaders, keep those washers!! !The front loaders are a pain...special detergent, multiple repairs, standing on your head loading and unloading. Not fun! Just because Michelle Duggar owns front loaders does not make them good, and they were probably free to her besides.

RN Mom said...

To the original poster, the Duggars don't wish us to "just leave them alone". This is contrary to the reason for appearing in a reality show. If we leave them alone, no tv show, correct? You see, nothing is one dimensional . When you choose to star in a reality show, you freely give up privacy and accept that there will be bad as well as good. Bad are the opinions of others (such as myself) that question their lifestyles; good is a large payday, as well as a legion of like minded fans on other blogs, fansites, etc. The livelihood of the Duggar family depends upon publicity, which is the inverse of privacy. So they occasionally ask for privacy? Ask yourself a few questions: Would you discuss your menstrual cycle, ovulation and conception dates (ex:Josie's conception on father's day) and then ask for privacy? Would you pull a fragile, dysphagic (unable to speak) old man out of his bed, cut his hair, speak to him like a baby, then air his funeral and ask for privacy? Would you write a book detailing your sexual practices and them ask for privacy? Would you allow the film crew of YOUR show to film your daughter-in-law giving birth to your grandson on a toilet and then ask for privacy? These are but a few examples of the duality of the Duggar's. I truly do not wish ill upon them, perhaps fame has been a tough taskmaster for them. At any rate, we all can occasionally benefit from seeing an outside view of ourselves, if only we choose to look.

hart&sole said...

No one on 19+ is more self-rightous than Josh. On his Instagram he states that his enemy is the ACLU. Odd that fundamentalists choose the group that seeks to defend the Constitution to continually accuse of misconduct. They just do not, or will not, accept the separation of Church and State. Apparently fundamentalists believe Freedom of Religion is limited to agreeing with them, while totally forgetting that diversity has made this country great, aside from the fact that it is the Constitutianal law of the land.

Jane Doe said...

Some people would suggest that people who are upset at the Duggars being criticized could skip a website entirely devoted to doing just that.

I can't believe anyone is so stupid as to not see these people for what they are: attention whores of the worst kind who are so dying to be in the spotlight that virtually no moment is too sacred or private not to be exploited. That in and of itself constitutes a form of child abuse. If gyou have no problem pimping your grief out on national TV, that doesn't mean that your kids are signed on board to that agenda as well. But it's not like their children have any rights that any normal child in America enjoys, so why would they have the right to grieve off camera?

I've never seen their show. I don't watch any TV and I know way, way, way too much about them.