Jessa and Ben Engaged?

Rumors are swirling lead by a JessaSewald twitter account that they have gotten engaged.

63 comments:

Alllison said...

All it says is "there are hints that Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald are close to announcing an engagement. Nothing official has been announced yet, but according to reports the couple are very much showing all the signs of a young couple in love and seeing a long future together." That's pretty much what it's been like for the past 6 months. They basically insinuated that Jessa and Ben were going to get married from the get-go, and yet despite courting longer than Jill and Derick, they aren't engaged. I think that says a lot

Anonymous said...

Anyone know of Jessa is engaged? I have seen reports of a possible engagement. Also she has her own personal Instagram and Twitter. And I believe they are legit because the Duggars' official account on both platforms follow her.

Julie said...

Jessa just opened an Instagram account under the name jessaseewald just like Jill did under jiilmdillard, so does that mean they are officially engaged?

Wampascat said...

Yes, Jessa is engaged. She is using his last name on twitter.

Patrice said...

How sad; all these Gothardite "engagements". Normally people meet someone, begin dating (without chaperones, for god sake) hold hands, kiss, and move on to whatever other stages they want to while getting to know each other, and before they make a lifelong commitment. These nut jobs have to apply for a license, have a big wedding, and pretend to live happily ever after just to find out what kissing and hugging feels like. What an insane lifestyle. What if the first kiss is repulsive and other things are much worse? Sorry, there is no divorce in Gothardland; you are stuck with him/her for life!

Anonymous said...

Jessa and Ben are just emotional opposites. Neither one is "wrong", they just don't mesh well together. He will always be seeking a reaction from her, and she will be annoyed and see him as being "needy". It's as plain as day. How will he support her? From what I have seen, Jessa's talents include doing her hair well. Will Jim Bob support them, give them Grandma's house, (I think Jill and Derrick have dibbs on that) to live in? Maybe his father will give them a pre-fab house on JB's family compound..

Anonymous said...

I was thinking that the Duggars might wait to officially announce Jessa and Ben's engagement until after Jill and Derick's wedding. Either to stay as revelant as possible after the media attention dies down after Jill 's wedding or to keep the focus on her. Unless of course she has been engaged for a bit already and is getting married soon after Jill. After all Jill only had 3 month engagement. If Jessa and Ben got engaged in the last month or so, they would be probably getting married pretty soon.

Anonymous said...

We have no idea what they are really like. Can you imagine having cameras follow you on your very first romance ever? Especially at such an advanced age. I think Jessa is just reserved and trying to keep some of their relationship away from our prying eyes, maybe the physical intimacy stuff is scary to her. She probably has little to know clue about any of it, where the rest of the world is bombarded with that stuff all day every day from birth.
I'm thinking Jill seems pretty anxious to get to it already though. A frontal hug before marriage? I mean REALLY,

CannedSoup said...

It will be interesting to see how Jessa and Ben support themselves. If I were a parent of either I would be very concerned---but, having said that, I have to assume they have talked about it among themselves and there is a plan. I have to also think that the parents have talked to each other even though we, the viewers, have not seen those conversations.

Anonymous said...

My outgoing brother married a girl JUST LIKE Jessa in 2001 - very serious, not "excitable," etc.

Our entire family thought it was a really odd match, didn't really care for her, and didn't think it would last. They're actually still together. Perhaps they balance each other out...

I totally understand the comments regarding Ben & Jessa but in their case, maybe there's a lot OFF CAMERA that we don't see.

Judy said...

Well, it's about time!They've been courting far too long already. Another wedding come what, August, or September?

Anonymous said...

Neither Ben or Jessa have been raised to be independent. Ben is too young and needs to support himself on his own first before taking a wife. Jessa needs to do the same. The parents oversee a courtship where all of these facts about financial support, education,etc. should be discussed and weighed. In my mind, Ben is too young and clearly not ready for marriage. I think he only proposed because someone had to tell him it was time for that.

mom in texas said...

Watching Ben and Jessa on last week's episode makes me think they are just going through the motions for show right now but have no intentions of staying the course once they are married. I can definitely seeing them go fundie lite or even more loose. Sometimes Ben and Jessa seem to mock courtship and all its strictness. I can imagine them setting their own rules for living once they are out of the watchful eye of their parents.

Anonymous said...

I think it's a pity that these two young couples are going to get married just to experience a kiss, full hug, etc.....because that is what is happening.

Courtney said...

Maybe my mind is just in the gutter. But I am noticing a lot of sexual tension between the young couples. Just saying...

flowerchild said...

I think Jessa and Ben are in love, but Jessa hates the cameras and everyone acting goofy with them. Like jimbob's goobery questions.

Anonymous said...

Just curious. Wondering why the Duggar girls marry the first guy who comes along. That was the same with Josh when it came to Anna

mom in texas said...

Courtney said...
Maybe my mind is just in the gutter. But I am noticing a lot of sexual tension between the young couples. Just saying...
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I agree. Sometimes the way Ben and Jessa look at one another would be equated to "eye intercourse". I haven't seen as much of it between Jill and Derek yet but Ben and Jessa definitely have at least some physical attraction if not love yet.

Quiana said...

I saw some of a flashback in a ep. Didn't Josh and Anna hold hands when they where courting? Are the girls allowed to hold their guys hands?

Anonymous said...

I think that there is something very precious about the courtship and marriage of two young people based on faith and a mutual love that is bigger than just the two of them. They are using their coutship time to flesh out the bigger issues - mutual goals, faith, respect. Agreeing to grow together, stick with one another through good times and bad. The rest of the physicalness will work out - if they have the commitment. Everyone may not agree with how the Duggers have cloistered their children but it's obvious that as a family, they have raised children with character. I wish all of the Duggers much love , successful marriages and lives.

sandi said...

I do wonder if Jessa chose someone younger than she is so that she can feel she has control over the relationship.IOW, she is always going to be the older and wiser one? I guess we'll see.

sandi said...

Re: engagement,I would venture to say that Ben was told to wait until he turned 19 to propose.

Anonymous said...

I agree. You can see it between Jill & Derrick, like they just want to kiss!

Sharon Digiovanni said...

I was happy to see them acting somewhat normal on last nights episode. They are too both young to get married, but Jessa seems happier, a little goofier like someone in love. I think they will be ok together.

Willow said...

I was hoping both couples would live away from Duggar compound - at least a little bit away. Derick has a job at Wal Mart HQ and that means Bentonville. His family lives in Rogers I think. They are close to Duggarville, but at least not IN Duggarville. I was hoping the same for Jessa. I can see Jill and Derick doing just fine but I think Jessa will need/want to be by her family.

Anonymous said...

I definitely see a divorce in their future.He is way too immature and she obviously just tolerates him

Anonymous said...

Courtney, Ben always looks like he wants to jump Jessa's Bones. Its a lust thing with Ben.
With Derick and Jill its love. There is no question about the difference.

Dianne said...

I wonder if Ben and Jessa are ready to get engaged. Isn't Ben just 18 years old? Derrick is 25 years old, I think...........so there's a seven year difference in ages between Ben and Derrick.

Anonymous said...

Ben and Jessa are an interesting couple. I'm sure they share genuine affection for one another but he is more "entranced" by her than anything else. Jessa is a total Rules Girl. She seems to have lots of expectations for the poor guy but not much encouragement. Lovey-dovey just isn't her nature, which is why I think all the courtship rules probably work well for her. She said herself that she wasn't a "touchy feely" person and could wait for all that. (The exact opposite of Jill) If Jessa marries Ben he will be her slave for life. To steal a quote from Ferris Bueller: "She will have given him what he has built up in his mind as the be-all, end-all of human existence."

Anonymous said...

They marry the first person that glances at them because they don't know anyone, and that is what the parents and Gothard expect them to do. They are no educated to do anything else.

Diana. in Maryland. said...

I think Jessa just plays everything close to the chest.. I wonder if SHE will be the one to break away once she's out from under Jim Bob's thumb.

hello said...

They are only allowed to hold hands when they become engaged.

freejoy said...

I totally agree. I like a romatic man but he is just too flowery. When her brother made Ben work instead of hanging around the kitchen it infuriated me. If he wants to help let him.

Judy said...

Ben is way too young to get married and be a father by next year. He just turned 20! How is he going to manage not only a wife, but child after child, at such a youngage? He seems like a very sweet, loving kid, but, well, young.

Allison said...

I definitely see a divorce in their future.He is way too immature and she obviously just tolerates him

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They might allow the end of a courtship but I don't think anyone in Gothardism gets divorced. For some Christian churches it is simply not even allowed except for in cases of abuse and adultery. Jessa would never be allowed to get remarried to anyone in the church.

Anonymous said...

I really love Jessa and Ben together. I think they are mature, despite that he is only 18. They have really taken their time and grown a lot over the past few months, and I admire that because it is unusual in a Duggar-style courtship to be in the courtship phase for this "long." They are under the microscope a lot, and Jim Bob has grilled Ben A LOT on camera. Of course they act more immature than most couples their age, but it is both of their first relationships and if you think of Josh and Anna…I think Jessa and Ben are miles ahead of them in this phase. I hope they continue to court until they are ready for marriage, but I really do think they will work out and get married and be happy together. I wouldn't be surprised if they were already engaged, because of her Twitter and Insta names…if they are then congratulations and I wish nothing but the best for them!!!

Marites H. said...

One of the girls (Jessa, I think) commented about marriage being a big adjustment to sharing a bedroom with all the sisters. If she marries Ben, she'll be sharing a bedroom with a hormonal teenaged boy. I don't think a "not tonight, dear" response is in their vocabulary.

Anonymous said...

When Dim Bulb asks Ben how he will support Jessa I wonder what his answer will be? He fixes car windshields and goes to community college. He probably barely makes enough for his gas and tuition.

Leigh Ann said...

Ben and Jessa are going to have to get married soon because Ben is going to explode if he can't kiss Jessa pretty soon.

"When her brother made Ben work instead of hanging around the kitchen it infuriated me. If he wants to help let him."

I agree. They only see each other on weekends and he was there to spend time with her. I think it was great they made the pie together. He looks like he may be some help after they get married. Yeah, he was more interested in Jessa than the pie but if making a pie was what it took to spend time with her, he was all for it.

Leslie said...

freejoy said...

I totally agree. I like a romatic man but he is just too flowery. When her brother made Ben work instead of hanging around the kitchen it infuriated me. If he wants to help let him.

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I have to agree there! When Joseph came into the kitchen and pulled Ben away, I couldn't believe how rude he was about it! I'd have had no problem if he had come in and said something like, "Hey, Ben, we really need some more help out there with the stage. Would you mind coming and giving us a hand?" But no...All that, "C'mon...She'll still be here later," stuff infuriated me! If my little brother ever talked to a boyfriend of mine that way, he'd be knocked clear into next week!

Anonymous said...

Ben just turned 19 yrs old. If anything, I can see Jessa manipulating him into doing "her" work for her. Yes, he's needy, but he's just a kid; she, although totally inexperienced in this area also, has a sly mind. She can manipulate; she knows she's pretty. So not Christian of her. Ben should give her a "kick" and run the other way. No one should fault the guy for being the age he is; even with his very militant Roe vs Wade stance, he still needs years to grow up a little. Jessa needs someone who takes charge and doesn't put up with her "prima donna" persona, and who is a little older.

Allison said...

No, I got the sense that Ben knew that he was there to help the boys (he had been doing that earlier in the afternoon) but was slacking off and just gawking at Jessa. I would be pissed off too. Ben and Jessa might be courting, but they'd been together for months and this was going to be for a couple of hours. He's going to be Jessa for the rest of his life... He was definitely a one-track mind teenager. I could tell Joe was really trying to hold it in about how Ben wasn't doing what he probably agreed to do. Ben was doing the whole "I love watching you cook..." puppy-eyed gazing. ::eye roll::

Judy said...

I feel bad for Ben. He's in way over his head. In another few months, at 20, with no experience at all in the wowrld, he's going to be married with a baby (the first of many) on the way.

Anonymous said...

Yuck. Last thing any of these girls need is another man to "take charge" of them. No, she is a grown woman with a mind of her own. If she loves ben and he loves her, the rest will fall into place. A man like Ben is what some of these girls need after all the mind control JB has done on them.

Anonymous said...

I still think Jessa could do better. She doesn't have to settle for the first baby boy to ask her out.

Anonymous said...

There is a lot of scripting and cueing for Ben. He is not like what you see on the episodes. Their relationship is not like what you see. She is told things that make her make those faces and likewise for him.

Anonymous said...

If there is, indeed, scripted face making between Jessa and Ben, don't the producers get it that it doesn't work? I realize these are already taped, but they edited Erin Bates' wedding to cut Mr. Gothard and his birthday cake out of the aired version, didn't they?

Anonymous said...

Ben has been put in situations from the beginning by producers & Jim Bob that were clearly not authentic. He finally showed more personality last episode, so it maybe just took him a while to be able to navigate through it. The last episode was the first one where you could see a genuine spark & connection between him & Jessa, and they seemed to care about each other.

Just because they don't show their love like Jill & Derick doesn't mean they are doomed to fail. In a way I feel like they might even have a better shot...

Shoka's Understudy said...

Just saw the mini golf scenes. WHAT THE HECK WAS THAT??

JB could not keep his lips, face, hands off Michelle inches away from Jessa and Ben!!!

Then JB said, Does this turn you on? Then Michelle giggles like a 13 year old.

On the preview for tonight's season finale, Ben is talking about Jessa to JB and JB just stares at him and looks over to the side! HOW CRUEL!

JB you and Michelle are so ignorant, cruel beyond belief. I saw the short clip about when Ben and Jessa and Michelle were having to get in his small truck and Michelle said, I have to sit in the middle!!

But, Michelle! What would JB say about that? You were so smashed up to Ben that he could barely drive. Did that cause Michelle to lust after Ben? Did Ben lust after Michelle. Hmmmm.

Michelle, you should of just got in the back of the truck and just held on!

Damage control is on now, Michelle is playing chess with Jeremiah. Why can't he join a chess club where they have tournaments? Oh, he might have to play against someone who has green hair.

Anonymous said...

Shoka's Understudy: Worse yet, Jer might have to play chess opposite a female, or even a NON Christian! Can't do that! Ben should have brought a vehicle that could properly seat 3 people to the airport, his family had some parked at home when they arrived. Not thinking ahead there, was he, but he's 19.

Anonymous said...

I know everyone has a different story, a different journey, etc., in life... That being said, if MY 18- or 19-year-old son was wanting to get married, I personally would be extremely upset. There is no reason to rush things. Ben (and Jessa too) is very, very young and needs to get an education and get his footing stable in life before being a married man... who would absolutely be a Daddy within the first year of marriage. If I were his mother, I would be very concerned. Maybe if Ben and Jessa were allowed to hold hands and give a peck on the cheek here and there, they wouldn't be as obsessed with marriage?? Sometimes I think these kids focus on marriage so intensely because it is a means to an end... finally physical affection. And then, the result is young "kids" who are immature and suddenly married with no birth control, no education, no perspective... and then they're usually parents right off the bat. Again, if my teenage son (and that's exactly what Ben is... a teenager) wanted to get married, I would be beyond upset. I don't get these people... and I'm sure the only reason Ben's parents are NOT upset (at least don't "seem" to be?) is because he is marrying a DUGGAR... so there's money waiting for him... fame... it's just exciting stuff, folks.

Anonymous said...

It may be that Dim Bulb and Mullet have decided to stall the courtship of Ben and Jessa until he can show that he has a good paying job. They do not value college so I don't think they care about that but money is important to them. Ben may have asked and they asked him to wait or save up more money...just a thought.

Anonymous said...

Re: The parents holding back Ben and Jessa's courtship until he's able to establish himself with work...They knew that going in with him that he was only 18 and just starting college working part time. This should have not been a "surprise" to them. Why entangle Jessa in something like this when she is older and "ready" to marry-up?

Judy said...

Some Christain sects, indeed, use sex as a reason to marry early. Since you can't have sex outside of marriage, you might as well get married so you can at least have it.

Allison said...

Apparently a "source" close to the family says Jessa and Ben are still courting, despite the Twitter handle.

I imagine they are waiting though to announce anything until after Jill's wedding, to maximize the attention on the family. They probably won't announce anything until the beginning of the next season. They tend to time all announcements with the beginning of a season.

tater tot' said...

Jimboob and Mean Michelle playing goofy golf----that was just downright ungodly of Dimbulb to to swoop in behind Mean Michelle and to the rock n' roll to and fro---You cant do this but we can. What a couple of sickos--talking and acting like that in front of your daughter and her beau. How Freaking embarrasing--i would of grabbed ahold of Ben--and layed a big ole' smooch on him if i was Jessa.

Anonymous said...

Jill, take Derick's mother wedding dress shopping with you. This woman will help you pick out a beautifully tasteful wedding gown which says, "bridal", not "stripper runway". There is a difference between the two, but the Duggar standard of "bridal" isn't even in the dictionary.

Anonymous said...

Anyone notice how Jessa and Ben have been put out to pasture lately? They were the decoy couple for sure. No one really cares about what's going on with them..I think JB is allowing photos of the boys on instagram because he's advertising his boys for some lucky girl out there...but no one is "commin' to call"....

Anonymous said...

I have a feeling the boys are going to have a hard time finding young women to marry. Very few girls want to be baby machines. I know I would not want my daughter marrying one of them.
Probably much easier for the girls to find more mainstream young men (as we have seen with Jill).

Allison said...

There are dozens upon dozens of "stay at home daughter" blogs that I've found. There are plenty of conservative Christian women with this Gothard type of upbringing that they could marry. I'm sure they will have no problem finding a wife, I'm honestly not sure why they haven't.

Anonymous said...

Re: Why haven't the boys gotten courtin' calls...

Hmm...John-David has a temperament that's similar to Jana's. So maybe he's a bit reserved in finding someone to marry.

And also, Jim Bob would want to have a say in what kind of girl he'd want in his family, since the Duggar clan subscribes to the marriage tradition to "give away a daughter"--note how Jill was "given" whereas Anna was "added." I'm sure Jim Bob is also protective of the Duggar cash, and the boys are definitely the ones who will be inheriting that money.

I also speculate that their tradition is probably having the fathers of potential girls to marry have to approach the family, and maybe Jim Bob is wary of having his sons choose appropriately, considering again, the money/fame/matching faith and beliefs. I'm sure they can find a good stay-at-home-daughter with matching beliefs, it's just a matter of finding them to their liking. Anna did well because she was easily submissive with a family that was willing to profit--I mean, comply to the cameras.

coleen said...

Article regarding a possible soon Ben and Jessa engagement.

http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/clues-jessa-duggar-engaged-ben-seewald/story?id=24264554

Anonymous said...

Now we know that Jim Bob is going to financially support Ben and move him to their property. With no education and no job, I don't think the Duggars are doing their kids any favors. I don't care what they do with their lives, but don't appreciate their lifestyle being shoved in my face if I turn on the TV. The TV show can negatively impact many young viewers.