Tues, October 13, Duggar at the Doctor

When your mother-in-law has 18 kids, you will learn from the best! Watch as Michelle helps Anna prepare for baby with a doctor's appointment and a trip to the consignment shop.

40 comments:

Unwanted Advice Not Needed Here said...

"When your mother-in-law has 18 kids, you will learn from the best! "

Why does Anna need her mother-in-law to teach her how to be a mom ? Why doesn't Anna have confidence enough in her own abilities?

Just because Mrs. Duggar has 18 children does not make her a Super Mom. Super-Fertile, yes, but a Super Mom, well, that's up for debate.

Diane said...

The consignment shop AGAIN! I've seen that guy at checkout so many times he probably has a contract with TLC himself.

Joanna said...

Aw, ever new mother, no matter what age they are, don't know "HOW" to be a Mom. Every new Mom needs guidence and since Anna's Mom is in FL, who better to help her then Michelle.

Midwest Mom said...

I can't imagine anything worse than having your mother-in-law hanging around telling you how to raise your child.

VillageMom said...

If MY mother-in-law had raised a ton of children who were turning out as well as the Duggars, I'd want to know her secrets!

In fact, I don't even know Mrs. Duggar and I'm still interested in knowing her secrets. That's why I've enjoyed their book.

Anonymous said...

Midwest Mom, I agree. No matter how well-intentioned the MIL, there are some things a New Mom just wants to handle her own way.

No doubt there are many things that Anna's own mom did that Michelle does not, and I can imagine it may be very difficult for Anna to assert herself in this situation, especially when surrounded by the rest of the Duggar clan telling her how things "should" be done.

Cassandra said...

Midwest Mom said...
I can't imagine anything worse than having your mother-in-law hanging around telling you how to raise your child.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If I could fill the page with exclamation marks, I would. That is the last thing any new mother needs. A lot of times it's a hard enough pill to swallow when it's your own mother.

Cindy said...

Anonymous Midwest Mom said...

I can't imagine anything worse than having your mother-in-law hanging around telling you how to raise your child.

AMEN and AMEN....Advice maybe, secrets definitely, but telling me how to raise MY child... please save me.

I would love to know more of Michelle's secrets but even if she was my m-i-l I still wouldn't want her TELLING me what to do, how to do it, when to do it, and where to do it. Some how that would make me feel as if I were the child instead of a parent to my own child.

Just sign me = experienced with the M-I-L telling me how to raise the grandchildren.

keoieid said...

VillageMom,

We shouldn't be asking Michelle how the kids are so well behaved, etc.

We should be asking the older Duggar girls. Since all Momma Michelle does is birth and feed them. Once they're off the boob - they're passed along to an older sibling.

So - the older girls would know. Not Michelle!

Becca said...

Oh, I bet Michelle is really graceful about it. It's probably just done for the show and then I'm sure she'll let Josh and Anna have their space.

Anonymous said...

Ok, just a thought...someone working at TLC wrote the caption for the show...the words are not those of Michelle or Anna or any of the Duggars. We don't even know if Michelle has been giving unsolicited advice...lets wait a few months and see it play out. Maybe Anna asked Michelle to do those things with her not because she thinks she is a "super mom" but simply because her own Mother is not there for her to enjoy those things with. Maybe Anna and her Mom have a strained relationship that we don't know about. Just conjecturing here...

Hopefully this episode will reveal more and answer some of these questions we all have.

Hopewell said...

Anybody else wonder if Anna doesn't get along with her own Mother?

VillageMom said...

Keoidid, if the older girls have turned out so well that they are raising well behaved younger siblings, then that credit goes to Michelle.

Someone raised the first crop of Duggars to be polite, hard working and helpful. Michelle may have a lot of help now in the physical work of caring for children, but the character training is done by her and her husband.

Andrea said...

Village Mom -- you are so right! I have never felt bad for the older Duggar girls for "taking care" of the younger ones. They seem so happy and eager to help out. None of them have a chip on their shoulder, like most of the teenagers these days. The fact that JB&M raised those children to be so gracious is saying a lot! I have 2 kids and can barely keep the peace in my house.

MomOfThree said...

Andrea said...

Village Mom -- you are so right! I have never felt bad for the older Duggar girls for "taking care" of the younger ones. They seem so happy and eager to help out. None of them have a chip on their shoulder, like most of the teenagers these days. The fact that JB&M raised those children to be so gracious is saying a lot! I have 2 kids and can barely keep the peace in my house.

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It is one thing for older siblings to "help out" and "take care" of younger ones, but these older girls are far, far beyond this.

The eldest two are young adults (legally), for goodness sake. They should be making their own way in the world...earning their own money or pursuing an education in a field that excites them, not raising their parents' children. Jana and Jill (and Jessa and Jinger) are being counted on each and every day to keep house and tend children. Aside from being an odd way of life, it is just wrong for these girls to be depended on to such a degree.

I feel very sorry for them and shame on Michelle and Jim Bob for not encouraging these beautiful, vibrant young women to live up to their full potential...at least while they are single. They will eventually spend plenty of time being homemakers and mothers.

VillageMom said...

So if a young woman chooses to continue living at home, being sheltered by her devoted parents, helping out with her extended family, pursuing her outside interests in her own way, doing things the way that she feels God wants for her, it is okay for others to call it "wrong".

But if I comment that leaving the parental home at the tender age of 18, making major life decisions without the guidance of parents or God is unwise... or "wrong", then I would be accused of being narrow minded and judgemental.

I never cease to be amazed that those who preach tolerance to various lifestyles are eager to judge a traditional lifestyle as "wrong".

KyKris said...

Anyone else bothered by the part where the girls have to get everything 'ready' for Jim Bob to take care of the kids? And, his choice of words....that he is 'the official babysitter today'? Wow. If that doesn't tell it all...

Enough with the Multiples said...

These things are standing out pretty quickly:

1. Josh better get used to getting up early and running on little sleep--real fast.
2. What is up with Michele and Anna wearing the same maternity shirt? Does Michele ever wear normal shirts, afterall she is only 9 weeks.
3. If Jim Bob can father 19 kids, then he should be able to take care of half of them for the day.
4. Yuk on having to hear anything about how/when baby #19 was conceived.
5. Why can't Josh let Anna speak for herself when they are at the doctor? He treats her like a little girl sometimes.

Anonymous said...

Is Anna going to turn into a nut case like her mother in law Michelle..? Does anyone know her future? Hope not, but she did get prego pretty fast, or maybe it's just me...I keep thinking those two got married last year.

AmyKB said...

Yahoo messed up their description of the episode and called Anna "Amy"!!!!!
JimBob actually said that he feels helpless without the older girls (similarly, I was kinda surprised that ALL of the older girls got to go on the outing, I assumed they'd leave 1 or 2 at home!).
Is this the first time we saw a shot of the "home church" that is held at the Duggar's house? I thought it was interesting that both the Bradley instructor and Josh himself address his weight... since this board has been noticing it a while, LoL.
And has Anna changed the way she's doing her eyebrows? They look kinda thinner than I remember.

chocolatebee said...

I loved this episode as I do many of them. I think a lot of people comment before they completely watch the episodes and that's kind of unfair.Seeing Jim Bob at home with the kids reminded me of how my dad used to be with us kids when my mom had to go places.As aloof as he is sometimes, I think Jim Bob is a good father and husband.
The women looked like they had a really good time at the thrift warehouse sale. I wished I could have caught a sale like that. I admire that Anna is surrounded with love and helping hands from Michelle and the rest of the Duggar family.

roddma said...

villagemom if she does NOT choose either lfestyle then it is wrong all the way around That is the point some try to make I dont know if Amy still lives at home or not but if she is she chooses it and thats fine. now if someone were making her stay there hmmmmm And if Amy lives at home unlike her cousins has the freedom of going and coming where she pleases.

On the flip side, no one should be pressured into being an overachiever. I feel just as badly fo rthose pressured about college , playing sports, or winning contests. either way can backfire

Turned It Off said...

Anna & Michelle wearing the same shirt to the thrift sale is just creepy.

Anna & her own mother had on the same shirts the day Josh proposed to Anna at the restaurant in Florida. Just creepy.

Anna was about to be a mother, yet it seems like she wants to copy what everyone else is wearing? Just creepy.

Anna sitting on Josh's lap in the exam room at the doctor's office.....seems really immature.

When JimBob was making "lunch" (tuna with BBQ sauce), the little Duggar boy sitting up on the countertop (very dangerous) was taking huge bites and chewing with his mouth open, just plain gross.

I had to turn the television off after half an hour. These people annoy me.

Beth said...

I think what a lot of us are bothered by with the girls caring for the kids, living at home as adults, and not pursuing their own goals and lives, is that maybe it really isn't their decision to do so. If they were raised in a family where it wasn't considered to be God's plan for them to do so, would they make the same choices? Also, they know that their parents depend on them helping out. That makes it a lot harder for them to decide to walk away and leave their sisters to do even more work. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a wife and mother, but to feel like it's your duty assigned to you by God and your training for it is caring for your parents' kids and that to complain or protest is to align yourself with the devil, that severely limits what you think your available options are. If these girls knew that it was possible for God to have other plans for them like a career (outside of a family business) and there is nothing wrong with that, they might make other choices.

Anonymous said...

I have been reading this site for a while now without posting - I have to say I am so surprised at all the negative comments about the Duggars. I love watching them and wish I could be more like her. I don't have nearly the patience she does and I only have 3 kids.
On the comment about JimBob needing things ready for him to take care of the kids - my hubby is the same way and like I said we only have 3. My oldest is 10 yrs and does a lot to help out. She considers my 3 yr old "her baby". She jumps at the chance to help out with her and begs us to have more. I had too many complications with the last one to risk it. I think those girls choose to stay there - I don't in any way think they are forced against their will.
I don't find any of what they do "creepy" and I watched the birthing eppisode and they don't show anything questionable.
We don't see anywhere close to their entire lives and soooo much is edited that we really have no idea how much work Michelle actually does.
sign me - A huge Duggar supporter.

nccalgal said...

I think it's a typical male mindset to call it "babysitting" when they are in charge. I've heard plenty of other fathers use that term when their wives are gone for a period of time, especially in the more traditional households where Dad works and Mom tend to the children and the home. He certainly seemed to enjoy being with the kids and didn't just send them out to play so he could watch TV or do his "thing".
I have gone to plenty of consignment sales, and most do sell used car seats, but like other posters, that is one item that I would rather spend more $ on and know that my child or grandchild was safe. Even though there is a risk that you are buying something that had been in an accident, the greater risk is that it had been recalled. With the huge number of carseats that were at that sale, it's a safe bet that no one had time to verify that they were not on a recall list somewhere.

SuSuseriffic said...

"They should be making their own way in the world...earning their own money or pursuing an education in a field that excites them, not raising their parents' children."

That is funny...at that age I was raising someone else's children for pay (Nanny of 4)....but really what is the big difference. I want them to be educated and follow their dreams too but do you really think they have any dreams besides getting married and following the way of god? They don't seem to be exposed to enough options to long for anything. I don't know what they would do with 'money' they would make on their own? Put it away for their marriage? I am sure they feel helping with the family is a much better way to live. I know they are afraid of being in contact with loose women and godless people. The girls can't work as a waitress or something and be exposed to that. They would make good childcare workers but that is needed at home...why go out of your way for that?

Brianna said...

I think it's fine how Michelle gives Anna advice about how to be a good mother and what to buy after having raised 18 kids. If I was in Anna's position I would definitely want some advice about that kind of stuff.

The first post on this board says that Anna doesn't have enough confidence in her own abilities, but I disagree. She has a quiet confidence. She knows when to talk and when to let others talk, so she doesn't always hog the spotlight. However, that doesn't mean she isn't confident.

The thing that I could have gone without (I think it was this episode) was knowing the exact date that the Duggar's 19th baby was conceived. Do they really have to tell the whole world that they did it on Father's Day. TMI.

But, having said that, I think that the relationship between Anna and Michelle is good and them keeping communication lines open by Michelle giving advice is a good way to keep the two Duggar families close.

Anonymous said...

Reality Check, PLEASE!!

Josh and Anna have contracts to be a part of this show. That means, like it or not, they have to be included with the whole Duggar brood, Michelle included. TLC isn’t just filming spur of the moment activities, they are creating filming opportunities. There is nothing wrong with them going shopping together. This show is all about having kids, so why shouldn’t they go shopping for baby items together? Or, for that matter, discuss techniques about raising children?

Besides that, Anna seems perfectly fine with it and that’s all that matters. Michelle is an angel compared to my mother in law.

Beedageeda said...

This may be a state-by-state law or maybe just protective parenting that's making me think this, but...
I had an issue with JB and M just sitting Jordyn's carseat/carrier in the Josh and Anna's backseat without having a base to lock the carseat into. JB was just holding it! What's the point of even putting her into the carseat/carrier if you're not going to lock it in place? In a crash, all it will be is a carseat-shaped projectile! Oh, between that and M feeding Jordyn practically upside down, I worry for her babies. Thank God they all seem safe and healthy!

imaamy said...

My kids are a little older now but their carseats could be strapped into the seat belt without a base.

aimee said...

I don't get the impression that Michelle is overbearing with advice. It looks to me like she takes her lead from Anna.
I don't think Anna is as weak as some may think. She seems pretty bright to me. Maybe not the best taste in guys! But not many pick a winner at 19! Lol!

SuSuseriffic said...

Yes, you can strap most infant carseats with the belt alone (without the base)
Anna does have the oddest chin. Josh is pretty annoying. I look forward to another kid getting married. I am tired of the Josh/Anna thing. They aren't that interesting!

Lily said...

Beedageeda:

They have a graco snugride, it can be belted in without a base..and I'm guessing that's what they did

Mrs P said...

My carseat is 3 yrs old, but it can be strapped in without a base. We don't even *own* the base.

Mrs P

MomOfThree said...

VillageMom....

I did not mean for the older girls to just pack up and hit the road. I am simply saying that it is wrong for parents to have children and then depend 100% on their oldest children to care for the little ones on a regular, daily basis...which the Duggars do.

The older girls run the home and raise the youngest kids. Michelle, herself, admitted that she knew less about the laundry room and it's operation than Jessa and Jinger did. The girls do the cooking (they even involve the little boys to keep them out the way while the girls cook and clean up, as stated in their book); they do the laundry and packing; they dress, brush teeth and hair of siblings; change diapers; hold the heads of sick little over toilets; and comfort those who are scared (Jackson in the airport, when he got lost) or hurt. They also home school their siblings.

I don't see them pursuing any of their own outside interests. If they did, TLC would more than likely show it.

There is nothing wrong with living at home with your family beyond the age of adulthood. I lived at home until I was in my late 20's, BUT I held a job since the time I finished high school. I paid my own way in the world, took classes that interested me, chose friends with common interests and learned alot about people, life and the world beyond the front door of my parents home. Certainly, I helped with household chores but my parents firmly believed that it was their responsibilty to be in charge of their own household just as someday my home would be mine to run.

That is what makes me sad for the Duggar girls. I hope that any choices they make in life, be their own choices, made after they have seen life beyond their own "world". If they choose to be wives and mothers, that's great. I did. If they choose a different path, that's great too.

Michelle and Jim Bob grew up in the secular world. They saw all "sides" of life and chose the best path for themselves. They should let their children do the same and love and accept them for whoever they turn out to be. JB's parents accepted the different choices made by JB and his sister. Deanna did not turn out bad...and neither did Amy.

PR in PA said...

I love the Duggars unfortunately I plan on blocking the channel out now because of TLCs most recently actions..ok..kind of digressing.

Just wanted to comment on some things.
- I see what some people have been saying about Josh always talking and never letting Anna speak for herself. Example..the doctor's appt. He was telling the dr. how Anna was feeling. Huh??? Anna speak up!! That kind of irritated me.
- Josh again...that boy is in for a rude awaking with a newborn in the house. Not a morning person huh?? You will be now! I hope Anna doesn't feel she has to do it all and let Josh get lazy and sleep in because he can't get up.

Anonymous said...

I see there are several comments about the older kids moving out and getting a job, interests, etc... You know what? They have a job! They are all on TV probably making more money than I do at my full-time job! The payment they receive from this TV gig will last them a long time if they manage their money well. Also, everytime I hear that they are "debt free" and "manage real estate" to fund their simple life I just shake my head. Come on, they are making a fortune on this show and now the books, etc...!

Sherp said...

I'm not sure where the idea comes from that the TLC reality families make a fortune begins. For season three, the Gosselins as a family of ten were paid less than $25,000 an episode. TLC is not known for paying generously for their productions. The Gosselins had much higher ratings than the Duggars so we can guess that what the Gosselins received is the top mark of what TLC will pay. So do you really think they're individually getting rich off this show? I don't.

Willow #1 said...

Anonymous 10/20/09 - 10:58 - They have been "debt free" and "managing real estate" for MANY, MANY years - long before TLC. Of course, NOW they have a lot more money, but before TLC, they made a decent income from managing real estate, so they have said. JB and Michelle worked together for 4 years before they started having their family. The kids, however, yes, they all are profiting from TLC NOW, as are the parents. JB and Michelle were doing o.k. before TLC. No question. I don't think they are saying they are still poor.