Tuesday, March 31, 2015, 8:00 PM, Jessa's Wedding

The big day is finally here! The family comes together to marry off another Duggar daughter, Jessa, to Ben Seewald. But with gloomy weather predictions, a huge bridal party and a list of non-traditional requests, can they pull it all off?

120 minutes

2.259 M viewers and a .73 rating.

199 comments:

Sharon M said...

Since we all have seen pictures of the wedding, it seems odd for TLC to say in their advertisement of this episode- "But with gloomy weather predictions, a huge bridal party and a list of non-traditional requests, can they pull it all off?" We already know the answer to that question.

No ni said...

TLC & the Duggars again insulting the intelligence of the viewing audience. Hey Dim Bulb are you surprised that I am successful to write a response?

Sara said...

As we all know they got married, surely building suspense is slightly pointless? Personally, I'm just looking forward to Jim Boob and J'Michelle trying to justify that they knew Jessa and Ben weren't going to share their first kiss with 1000 of their nearest and dearest acquaintances...

simba said...

They really dragged this out way too long..

Sikamikanico said...

Dragging it out too long? Pshaw! Who isn't looking forward to another 16 suspenseful seasons of "With only weeks to go, will [Next-in-line-to-the-altar-Duggar] and [toothy young Duggar-obsessed finace] possibly pull off their hotdog-and-orange drink-wedding?" when we know they did cause IRL the second pregnancy's just been announced. Also let's not forget the scintillating second story line "Jim Bob debates parting hair on other side"

Stephanie said...

I am looking forward to how they break the non ceremony kiss to Jimbob. He has visions of TV ratings and no first kiss on camera is NOT going to make him happy.

But the thing I most look forward too? MICHELLE'S mother of the bride dress. How will she ever top the dress she wore to Jill's wedding?

Jimbob was even speechless and muttered out "now that is a modest dress if I ever saw one". In other words "thats the ugliest dress I have seen in awhile. I am so happy that you made yourself as unattractive as possible. I'm so proud Michelle"

Bertha said...

I can't wait to see Michelle's dress either. The one she wore to Jill's wedding was made out of tin foil. She looked like a baked potato.

Syndee said...

"Jimbob was even speechless and muttered out "now that is a modest dress if I ever saw one".

That was one of the funniest lines I've heard. Here he's pushing all this modesty stuff to her and to the daughters, and now he seems dismayed to see the consequences. The poster boy of, be careful what you wish for...

Carol said...

TLC has a freakin countdown clock to Jessa's wedding. Smh.

Used Shoes Shelly said...

I'm just looking forward to all the Jill content. I wonder if there will be a special announcement near the end of the show.

simba said...

TLC is showing Jills wedding today, those bridesmaid dresses are hidious! Love the baked potato post, she really does! I saw a preview of Jessa's wedding, why on earth are the groomsmen not wearing coats, they look rediculous. I am also looking forward to seeing Michelle's dress..

Rosie Banks said...

No embarassing first kiss but will we be subjected to endless.smooching instead?!? When josh and anna wed they kissed so often it was so unnatural. Creeps.me.out.

simba said...

They should have had the man who helped Derrick write that song sing it at the wedding instead of that crazy way too fast piano! Im thinking Jill told her to play it as fast as she could so they could run out of the church and hide

simba said...

Lol, Jill's face was priceless after Michelle said she bought her mother of the bride dress on the clearance rack and her girls helped. I think Jill thought it was pretty bad too.

Stephanie said...

Jimbob is wearing the same cheap suit he wore to Jill's wedding. Of course they could rent tuxedos however if the women are required to wear $50 internet dresses, why should the men be better dressed? They all look terrible except for Jessa. The more I see Jill's dress the frumpier it looks to me. Jessa's dress even fits her almost perfectly and Jill's dress was too big on her.

As ugly as Michelle's dress was on the show, it photographed even worse. The baked potato look really shines in the still photos. The fabric I assume she added on her bustling looked like sofa appolstery. Heavy thick fabric and it doesn't fit and then the jacket. It was awesome.

stupididiotshutup said...

Okay so obviously was bored to the gourd this morning because I watched the All About Jill episode on purpose. They were showing an old clip of Michelle "homeschooling" and she was hear telling the little kids they were going to learn about bankruptcy laws. Hahahaha! Yeah because that's precisely what a 6 years needs to know.

I'm wondering what staged "folly" will happen tonight during Jessa Blessa's wedding special? Remember the fake root beer float drama or how they made it look like Jordyn was crying because Jilly Muffster was moving out of the house? I've seen those little girls talk enough to know that kid has no clue what's going on. She was probably crying because Michelle's dress scared her.

Quiana said...

Wonder if Michelle and Jim Bob waited to kiss until their wedding day? lol

Captain Crunch said...

Please tell me Erin Bates Paine wont be banging on the ivory keys again! Please!!!

Bobbi said...

Why piano vs organ at Jessa & Jill's weddings? Organ music or a small wind ensemble is lovely. But not piano. Do Bsptist churches not have an organ?

Captain Crunch said...

She represented the Tin Mans Frumpy Momma well with that get-up.

Jill L said...

What's funny about the silver fish scale dress Michele wore is that Kelly Bates wore the same one for one of her kid's wedding. It could have been borrowed. Kelly is taller and that dress was too big for Michele.

Anonymous said...

Precious, precious, precious. Can't they think of another word to describe their experiences and each other? The homeschool millage must have omitted vocabulary lessons.

Syndee said...

I'm watching the part where the girls are lined up and Jessa is still sitting on a chair. She gives some kind of hand signal to one of the girls but it looked like the heavy metal sign where you have two fingers up. Someone tell me what she did. I don't have dvr so I can't rewind

Captain Crunch said...

Why does the minister keep calling BenSeewald 'Bengerman'?

McKimberley said...

Congratulations to Jessa & BENJERMIN!

Too funny that the minister couldn't get the groom's name right!

Anonymous said...

Watching the wedding episode now, and I have some observations: Jessa seems truly embarrassed by her father. I noticed this especially during the rehearsal dinner. Also, is Ben really as unintelligent as he sounds? His talking heads segments made him sound positively vacant. And finally, Ben's vows... He is going to "encourage you, to inspire you..." Does anyone else think that sounded egotistical? He did say he would empower to do what she wants to do in life. It would be nice if that were truly the case.

flowerchild said...

Very beautiful ceremony and Michelle's dress was very pretty.

Jill L said...

I have to say that except for the angry piano playing, I really liked the fact they got council from someone other than her parents. I was a heartfelt and meaningful ceremony. The pastor was awesome.

They handled the first kiss the way they wanted, not how JB wanted. Jessa doesn't need her dad to give permission. They are man and wife now.

Seeing how Jill and Derrick are older you would expect the maturity, but Ben and Jessa were more so.

Jewels said...

I wondered why their pastor kept pronouncing Benjamin "Ben-Jer-min". I have never heard it pronounced that way. It annoyed me a little. However, I did enjoy this wedding much more than Jill's. I liked the vows, I like how they have their own goofy style.

Special Ed Lady said...

Sydnee the hand sigh was American Sign for "I love you"

Tanya T said...

Well, because of time zone differences not everyone has seen tonight's show yet. I have just finished watching it here in the central time zone. I thought the ceremony was very sweet, I enjoyed the reading of their own vows. I think they only thing that bugged me was the way the preacher pronounced Ben's name,it sounded like her was saying Bengerman! I think A few of Ben's groomsmen were pretty cute,especially the best man!

stupididiotshutup said...

Was that Grandma Ruark next to Grandma Duggar? Thank God Joshy made it. Whew. Congratulations Ben-Jer-min and Jessa!

Tanya T said...

I really thought it was just wrong of Jill to bring Derrick into the girl's dressing room so he could paint her toenails. That is not appropriate or modest in my opinion, what if one of the Bridesmaids were still getting dressed? She knew she would be in a wedding that day, did she not have time the day before to have Derrick polish her toes?

PickleHater said...

C'mon guys....no comments on DerickDillard intercepting Jill as they ran off stage and "dipping her"...how JoshDuggarish was that? I really did think Derick had some level of maturity over the Duggars...until the toe nail polish intrusion and now pulling this to grab him and JillyPuke some more attention!

lancastergal said...

The hand gesture Jessa gives to her bridesmaids is sign language for "I love you".

Stephanie said...

Sydney Jessa was doing "I Love You" in sign language. I do that with my daughter. I was so disappointed in Michelle's dress, it was nice and appropriate and fit her well, darn it.

Jessa seemed very teary, and sad and for someone who's entire family said she isn't very emotional, she was very emotional. Jill seemed happy and in love during her wedding and Jessa seemed kinda sad or maybe scared or nervous for what comes next. I doubt we will ever know the truth.

Their kissing was AWKWARD to say the least. I really thought they had cheated and kissed before the wedding but from what was on camera they were definitely not used to kissing each other. They just smashed their mouths together and stood there. They dont really pucker up. Something strange there. How do you go from awkward kissing to full on sex in just a matter of hours? Its like medieval times or something.

Stephanie said...

Jewels I noticed Benjamin being pronounced wrong. My sons name is Ben so I heard it too.

Lancastergal said...

The angry piano playing sounds very much like Erin Bates style of playing....I was watching the Bates show on demand and Mrs. Bates said that some of the older kids were at a wedding....this was in the fall, and I imagine this was the wedding being referred to by Mrs. Bates?? I believe that Erin played for Jill and Derek's wedding.

Stephanie said...

When the wedding happened Jimbob and Michelle kissed on cue. Thank you TLC for leaving that out today.

Also we have talked about Derick being a dummy for letting Jill trick him into the bridal suite to paint her nails. But he also feel for the "im going to walk my wife out the church". He did the dip and kiss in the aisle just like Josh did at the Waller wedding.

P. S. I think Jill has just given up on wearing any make up. She looked terrible. Maybe Derick should start doing her hair and make up too.

Tater Tot said...

Observations:

The pop-ups drive my hubby crazy, so he came up with his own --
"If all the Duggars farted at once, it would rip a hole in the ozone layer."

Memorable quote from JB: "Two families are becoming one." Ummmm -- that means, Seewalds, "We're ALLLLLL Duggars now....!!"

Jinger breaking down, so touching. It was good to see some real, raw emotion in this show. It's going to be hard on all of them when the older ones who've done so much for the younger ones begin to leave.

Is anyone else relieved there's no more dog 'n pony show "reenactments" of proposals, first dates, etc.. ???

I like Sierra. She's funny and fun. And she does great crazy-eyes. :)

And one more and I'll stop... I was SO happy the pastor told Benessa "Kissing is not a sin, and nowhere in the Bible does it say you can't kiss.". Well, shew. What a relief.

griffin said...

in the "all about jessa" episode, she said twice that the proposal was "so romantic". if she can't watch movies or read books or watch anything on tv but andy griffith, how does she know what is romantic?? hhmmm. . .makes me wonder if those rules are fake and phony (ya think?) a few episodes ago, she or jill said "it wasn't a hollywood ending". oh really, how did she know what that was?

Lesleigh said...

It is hard to use the words "classy" and "Duggar" in the same sentence.....BUT, I found Jessa's wedding to far outclass Jill's.

Jessa looked beautiful and she looked really shocked when she saw her ring. Their vows were lovely and pretty upbeat for a fundie wedding!

The "hand signal" that Jessa displayed for her sisters was American Sign Language for I LOVE YOU....no heavy metal connotations.

The sand ceremony was lovely. We did the same thing at our wedding, and the combined sand now rests in our curio cabinet.

After all the hoopla over the KISS; after seeing that part of the ceremony, it was PLANNED that they were not going to have their kiss in front of their guests. If you look back at the rehearsal portion, you will see that they never practiced the "you may kiss your bride". SO, after much speculation, I am pretty certain that they never intended to have that kiss during the ceremony. Feel free to correct me if I am wrong.

All in all, I felt that Jessa's wedding WAS by far, more well planned than Jill's and prettier. If I had to be critical of anything, it would be the playing of the Bridal March. That piece of music is supposed to be slow and stately and ethereal....not full-out, loud and distracting. It is the bride's moment to shine, not a sprint to the finish line!

Captain Crunch said...

Hey, did ya'll know that 'ice cream is moist' according to BengermanBenSeewald? See the precious things we learn from this show? :)

Snowflakes said...

Michelle's mother, "Grandma Raurk," has been dead for many years before the show/ministry even started. I imagine that might have been a grandma or special aunt on Ben's side, sitting beside Grandma Duggar. Josh did the grab my girl thing at Jill's wedding, along with Ben. Ben grabbed Jessa & Josh gabbed Anna. Anna & Jessa were not in the Waller wedding.

Snowflakes said...

Sorry I was mistaken. Anna was in the Waller wedding but Jessa was not & the grab my girl was done at Jill's wedding.

Mindi said...

Absolutely ridiculous that Jill needed to have her nails painted by Derick. I can't believe what these people come up with. You don't wait until the day of the wedding to check the weather & start looking around for heaters. Jim Bob needing to bring the ring to Ben. It was so important & special that Ben went to the trouble to design it but then forgot to bring it. Also Josh almost not making the wedding due to an important "business meeting." My last comment. Jim Bob, Michelle did not look liked Jessa's sister.

Lor said...

What bothered me the most was when JB saw Jessa in her dress for the first time. It was such an emotional moment and he side hugged her! I would be so upset if my dad didn't fruntal hug me at that moment. I know they don't usual front hug their kids but this is his daughters wedding day.

Furious said...

Furious that Jill deliberately held her bouquet to the side the entire time to show her belly bump.

Ginger said...

Wow! Couldn't believe how short Michelle's dress was & first time I've ever seen her without those black stockings, but why doesn't she at least run comb through her hair. Tired of Jim Bob's crocodile tears! Please Jim Bob, Michelle may have looked nice to you, but she did not look like Jessa's sister. Jessa has sisters that look like her. Also Ben's dad looked more formal than Jim Bob did.

capslock said...

Hypothetically, if Ben called the whole thing off, would Jessa's heart be any less "protected" because they didn't kiss during their courtship?!?

Stella said...

Did Jessa at least wear flats or heels for the ceremony-- any kind of shoes?

Beth Anne said...

I also liked that the pastor reiterated that kissing was not a sin...and I, too, also actually felt a little more emotion from Jinger and even Michelle'

pretty girl said...

seems jessa resheal dinner is nicer then the wedding?

roddma said...

Re:Grandma Ruark Sitting By Grandma Duggar
Grandma Duggar is the only living grandparent in the Duggar family. It may have been one of Ben's relatives.

PickleHater said...

I have no doubt that JillyMuffin and DerickDillard rejoiced over the fact that BenJERman and Jessa's wedding finally aired so the focus could NOW turn back on them and their family. They probably will call this there Attentionaversary day!

simba said...

Michelle's dress was nice but her shoes and hair were awful. Ben's moms dress was pretty ugly. Interesting that they didnt show Anna at all, or did I miss something? She was in the family photo wearing a black dress and very high heals that surprised me. I agree with another post that Jessa gets embarrassed by Jimbob, Im glad they had marriage counsel by someone else. Funny that they didnt go off on them about making babies, wonder if Jessa told them not to? Ben is very immature, needs to grow up, Alot!

Katie's Mom said...

I was so sick of hearing Sierra,the wedding planner say there was no way they could pull off a wedding like Jessa's without the volunteers. Yes there is..how about actually hiring people the way the average family does. I'm also tired of hearing how difficult it was to have two wedding so close together. My friends had a daughter married in June & another in September, same year. Also for the person that asked if Jim Bob & Michelle kissed before marriage. All they have said is that they "went too far before their wedding but they were both still virgins." So you can guess at that.

AnneK said...

"Syndee said...
I'm watching the part where the girls are lined up and Jessa is still sitting on a chair. She gives some kind of hand signal to one of the girls but it looked like the heavy metal sign where you have two fingers up. Someone tell me what she did. I don't have dvr so I can't rewind
3/31/2015 6:34 PM"

It's the sign for love in the American Sign Language!
https://www.google.com/search?q=internet+abbrevations+smh&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8#q=sign+language+love

Ryan'sMom said...

To me, one of the most beautiful parts of a wedding is the recessional. You get to see the happy couple for the first time as man and wife. Why do the Duggar girls run out of the church like their pants are on fire? Do they need to release their libido that badly? And the awful loud piano during the processional was so bad I muted the sound on my TV. At least Michelle looked better this time around. JimBob's suit was so tight in the mid section he looked pregnant.

Leigh Ann said...

I just saw a Yahoo story that said they toasted with water. Did they not have anything to drink at their reception? If you don't have alcohol, you usually toast with punch.

I thought it was Jill and Derrick who went off-stage for their first kiss. With two weddings close together and so much leaking out before the show it's hard to keep it all straight. I think your first kiss ought to be private and special. Especially when nothing else has been private.

First Time blogger said...

I think Ben's mom is very attractive, but why don't these women wear their hair in a nice style especially for a son or daughter's wedding. I thought Guinn looked lovely except for the hair. As far as Michelle that's the best I've ever seen her as far as her dress & shoes & no black stockings but when is Jim Bob going to loosen up the wallet & buy her a brush & comb.. what a mess her hair was. Also noticed the helpers that were making the brownies were smoothing out the batter in the pans with their bare hands. Guess all that's to be expected. Good thing Josh was able to rush in from DC & just make the wedding since he was going to be the master of ceremonies again as he was at Jill's wedding. Too bad he had scheduled a very important business meeting & couldn't change it. So many people think that Sierra is a great wedding planner but why didn't she look into heaters before that day since they knew it was going to be cold?

Mindi said...

I don't think the part about leaving the stage & going off for a private kiss has ever been done with regard to the Duggar weddings. That was a first.

simba said...

Thinking about the counseling before the wedding, glad it wasn't Jimbob doing it. I found it very interesting that the man kept telling them kissing before marriage is not a sin, he was really trying to get that through to them. I wonder if he was from Ben's family church and didnt like the crazy duggar rules

Dee said...

The wedding itself: rather sweet.
Jim Bob doing his usual 'This is how you kiss' schtick: nauseating.
The thing that really irked me about this very long episode was the Duggar's wedding planner.
There for a while I thought I was watching The Sierra 'Look At Me, Aren't I Cute?' Show.
She just really thought she was star material.
I hope as the Duggars continue to record their milestones that they don't keep showing her.

Duggarhugger said...

What kind of wedding planner would wait until the DAY OF THE WEDDING to try and rent space heaters for an outdoor reception in November. That is the dumbest thing I have ever seen. Also, are there no catering companies in Arkansas. Who puts on an event for 1000 plus people and doesn't hire a caterer. Even if you're not serving that much food, there is no reason that volunteers who may not even know Jessa are being roped in to making brownies and scooping ice cream. If I had had volunteers for my wedding, I would have saved a ton of money. We all would have. Who does that? It's not a charity event or a fundraiser. It's a wedding of a family that should at least have the common sense to hire a caterer.

Judy said...

Jessa is really very beautiful. She was a beautiful bride.

Captain Crunch said...

Yes, I saw that..I think DerickDillard needed some attention. .maybe JillyMuffin put him up to it...along with the toenail painting in the bridal suite. She was what, 4 months along and couldn't paint her toenails? Yea right. ..'look at me, Im expecting a Dilly Jilly Muffin'..anything to focus on her and not the bride.

Judy said...

It is bizarre to me that people thought a 19 year old boy getting married was a good idea. I realize it is their culture, but he is just so very young and every time anyone said Mr and Mrs. Ben Seewald I just was like I can't believe this. He doesn't even have an actual job. But his parents actually seemed to think this was a great idea.

Judy said...

Josh sure needs a lot of attention, doesn't he?

I hope Jessa and Ben have improved kissing methods since then. . .and snore on showing us the honeymoon footage later in the season. I was glad we didn't see any of Jill and Derrick's honeymoon footage because I found Josh and Anna's so boring.

InVA said...

Yes! No proposal reenactment! I wonder if it was done and just not shown or not done at all.

Why is Josh the MC at the so-called receptions of his sisters? He is so annoying!

InVA said...

Does anyone know what Ben's dad does for a living?

Iks said...

I actually thought that Jessa's wedding was quite beautiful in a fundie sort of way. The way Jessa went about her whole wedding planning and wedding day puts Jill to shame. Jill being older than Jessa, she acts like a 12 year old girl with her first crush. I think Jessa and Ben are a more "real" couple, and although they will face hardships like any other couple, I think that they will have a good, happy and strong marriage. I agree that the rehearsal dinner seemed more like a wedding than the actual wedding. We all knew there wouldn't be a formal reception, alcohol or dancing so with that in mind, I think the wedding and "reception" were still quite nice. I like that Jessa isn't afraid to change things up, i.e. no cake, pink wedding dress, see the groom on the day of the wedding...etc. I also noted that she had a lot of friends in her bridal party which is nice to see. Correct me if I'm wrong but I think Anna and Jill only had their sisters. One more thing...I noticed, much to my surprise that Annoying Amy wasn't in this episode? Odd....

Sam's momma said...

I thought it was a lovely wedding. The pastor seemed to have somewhat of an accent. Irish? I am southern, and Benjermin isn't something we say in the South. I loved their vows and how both sets of parents came up and prayed over them. And bravo for saving their kiss for private. The song that they exited to was the Arkansas Razorback fight song. Cute!

Wheez said...

I thought Jessa's wedding was nice and her hair and dress were pretty..all way nicer than Jill's. The Seewald parents seem nice. Glad jb was seated in the audience not on stage making the ceremony about himself. Would've loved to see a shocked JB when they didn't kiss..wonder if he knew bc Ben's Mom said she didn't know. It irks me that Jill tried incessantly to steal the show at Jessa's wedding and in all Jessa's photos

funtally said...

Why did they exit to the University of Arkansas fight song? Just because they happen to LIVE in Arkansas? Cause, heaven knows, not a single ONE of them has ever actually ATTENDED the University of Arkansas or any other university for that matter!

funtally said...

I really thought the bridesmaids' dresses looked like the $49 dresses that they were! When the bride wears a formal gown, she shouldn't put her bridesmaids in a $49 dress that can be worn shopping! And it creeps me out how JB and Michelle call each other "Daddy" and "Mama." Just Ewwwww!
And the RUNNING down the aisle after the wedding is seriously tacky and disrespectful. These people are just well paid hillbillies!

funtally said...

I agree with an earlier poster who questioned the jacketless groomsmen. Really, what was that about? If you're not going to wear your suit jacket when you're in a wedding, WHEN are you going to wear it? it's not like it was too hot either.

GJJ's mom said...

Funtally

thank you for writing what I was thinking. I think what bugged me the most was the running out of the ceremony. I find that quite immature. A new bride and groom should relish that first walk as a married couple. Running out...childish IMHO.

Please no more banging on the piano of "Here Comes the Bride."

What the HECK is up with Michelle's BABY TALK to Josie at the rehearsal dinner..."that's Grandpa Duggar." Josie is too old for baby talk, as is Michelle.

And CHILI the night before a wedding? You've got to be kidding me!!!!!

katieann said...

I have to say there were some touching details in last night's wedding episode: Guinn's display in memory of the bride and groom's grandfathers; Michelle making sure Jessa had a snack with some protein in it before the wedding (possibly preventing one of those fainting bride videos seen on You Tube); and Jim Bob's tearful reaction when he saw Jessa in her dress. I do believe those tears were genuine, not forced for the cameras, and I think for all his cringe-worthy social gaffes, Jim Bob does love his daughters. (Though the repeated emphasis on "giving another daughter away" was a little too fundie for me--I half expected to see a dowry change hands during the rehearsal dinner.)Having said that, the whole episode could have been edited down to an hour. There were far too many "gosh-the-big-day-is-finally-here-and-I'm-feeling nervous/excited/calm/bittersweet" talking head shots. I also could have done without the James (or was it Josiah) camera interviews.

Allison said...

I've heard Ben-german as a pronounciation. Also the jacketless groomsman is quite trendy especially for rustic weddings. I got married in 2011 and saw them all over the blogs.

Jessica said...

The one part I really loved during this wedding was when Benjermin winked at Jessa and she winked right back. It seemed really simple, but I thought it was so sweet and genuine.

I also liked how emotional Jinger was during the rehearsal dinner. I was curious, since the Duggar family are probably not allowed to show any negative emotion, what kind of hard times Jinger has gone through to mention that Jessa was always there for her? I know we're all human and go through difficult times, but the Duggars seem like a family that would disown you if you showed the slightest bit of a depressed feeling.

I also loved when Jessa and Joy did the ASL "I love you" gesture to each other! All in all I wanted to cry while watching the ceremony (it was a million times better and more real than Jill's) but the thought of me crying over this family disturbed me. But Jessa looked beautiful and the ceremony was nice.

Bobbi said...

I thought Jessa's dress was gorgeous & elegant & she looked very pretty. Jill looked horrible. The bridesmaid dresses just awful. I was surprised Michelle didn't wear the foil dress because JB wore the suit he wore at Jill's wedding. Apart from the ice cream bar, Jessa & Ben's wedding was ok.

Bobbi said...

I was thankful there was no yet another boring reinactment. Yawn!

Ruth Anne said...

"Well paid hillbillies". Priceless!

chip said...

I agree with finally comments about the dresses. I also thought those dresses were the wrong season for a November wedding.

Bobbi said...

Just have to state that frankly Jill is just not a pretty person. Beauty come from within & Time after Time Jill has shoe the world that she's self absorbed, disruptive, lacks dignity & just not a nice person. Her parents believe Jill is sweet. I just don't see sweetness from Jill just not part of her persona.

over it said...

Jacketless groomsmen and those awful oversized bowties! And Ben looked unclean.
Jill has to make everything about her doesn't she? She's going to be another Michelle, pregnant just for the attention. I'm surprised she didn't throw her back out sticking her gut out so much, trying to make her bump super noticeable. We get it, you're pregnant.

Leigh Ann said...

I knew I wasn't losing my mind. Jill and Derick did have their fist kiss in private. They dashed off-stage in the middle of the ceremony and while they were gone the preacher had Jim Bob and Michelle "come up and show us what a Duggar kiss looks like". Ben and Jessa did it right by skipping that part entirely and doing it afterward. I loved when the preacher said "if I can have your attention for about three hours".

I don't know if I missed it, they didn't show it or they didn't do it but I didn't hear anything about "as many kids as God gives you".

It was a really nice ceremony. I thought the bridesmaids dresses were really pretty but the groomsmen looked like they were on their way to a barn-raising. Who was the little dark-haired boy who was a ring bearer? He was so cute, he looked like Alfalfa from Our Gang.

sandi said...

I think Guinn is a very pretty lady.She has a quiet kind of beauty about her like Meryl Streep,imo.And Jessa has stunning features which remind me of Julia Roberts.
Jana is also a quiet beauty.She reminds me of Gwyneth Paltrow.
I think all 3 of these stunning ladies should pack up and head for Hollywood.Run ladies run! :)

puddin said...

I enjoyed Jessa and Benjermans wedding much more than JillyMuffs. I thought Jessa looked pretty in her wedding dress. Kind of disappointed in the bridesmaid dresses..but with all the coverage we knew that was going to be the case..they were a pretty color. I wish them well...hopefully Ben can get learn a trade or something. As when the TLC gravy train leaves the station...What will they do? I feel bad for all the Duggar kids and the lack of education...just hanging out at The Duggar Compound raising their siblings......Time for jboob and me me Michelle to take care of there own off spring. I dont get these people .....passing them off to the buddys. And please Mechelle stop with the Baby Talk..its not real and its annoying..your ALMOST 50years old..talk like a grown woman. Oh and Jimbooob leave the sex outta your mouth *verbal garbage u think is cute...WE R GROSSED OUT* Boob sure thinks he can say anything. Ughhhhhhhhhhh...

funtally said...

Yes, but this wasn't what I would consider a "rustic" wedding, it wasn't outside, or in a barn, it was in a very nice church. The groomsmen, as well as the bridesmaids needed to "dress up" for the occasion.

funtally said...

I agree, that piano was being seriously abused! It was horrible! And I thought the same thing about chili at the rehearsal dinner! That could cause some stomach issues! Ben was talking about the onions, but I wasn't sure if he was concerned about a breath issue or stomach! We had a family wedding where bar-be-que was served at the rehearsal dinner. Let's just say it wasn't the best idea!

funtally said...

We're those homemade bowties? They looked it.

Sharla said...

My daughter got married on a cliff over the beach and the wedding party was more dressed up than Jessa's people were. The attendants even wore real shoes although they were flats because it was on grass.

funtally said...

I must say, I LOVE this blog! So glad to find others like me - I think the Duggars are basically a train wreck, and JB & Michelle are awful parents. Just pop em out and let the older kids raise em.

I'm also a Southern Baptist and have NEVER seen people like this. Their rules on dating, childbearing, subjugation of women, education, are SO far removed from the faith I know. The fact that they dont even go to church, but have their own "church" is not consistent with the Baptist belief. And their former adulation of that Gothard man was clearly not supported by any religion that i know. This is the gospel according to JimBob!

Yet I watch it, not all the time, but often enough. You don't have to watch every episode to keep up. And it is like a train wreck, awful, but you just have to look!

Abbynormal said...

I just Googled "Kelly Bates, mother-of-the-bride". The image I found showed her wearing the EXACT same dress as the one Michelle wore to Jilly's wedding.......except it was mid-calf length ! Seems as if one of them borrowed the other's dress..........

Lancastergal said...

Everyone keeps saying the bridesmaids dresses were cheap looking.....on the contrary, I think that they looked fine and the color was proper for fall.
When my best friend got married 15 years ago, I was a bridesmaid in her wedding and she found us all dresses for $50 out of a catalog. They were 3/4 length and worked out very well. Goes to prove that one does not need to spend $$$ outfitting a bridal party.

Captain Crunch said...

Sierra the wedding coordinator referred to Jessas wedding style/theme as 'shabby chic'.

Captain Crunch said...

No JillyMuffin and DerickDillard did not have their first kiss in private. DerickDillard dipped JillyMuffin on stage after the vows and planted one on her. Its Jessa and BengermanBenSeewald who had their first kiss in private.

Wheez said...

Bobbi, you hit the nail on the head. Jill is rivaling cousin Amy for most annoying most obnoxious Duggar. And what's with her demonstrating in every photo how wide she can open her mouth??

Stella said...

"Kelly Bates, mother-of-the-bride"dress was worn at Zach's wedding so if someone did borrow the dress- Michelle borrowed it from Kelly since Zach was the second to be married on the Bates side before Jill's nuptials.

no1 said...

I need someone to educate me on a point . . . I grew up in the Midwest plains, and have lived in Chicago, Detroit, and Washington DC before moving to Seattle. I have never seen bridal attendants in double digits. I this a sort of "badge of pride" in the South? The purpose is lost on me. These ATI families seem to think they're being inducted into royalty. If memory serves, Kate Middleton only had a couple attendants.

Westcoast said...

Re: Ben-ger-men.

My best friend is from England, and with her accent she pronounces names with an 'a' in them the same way the pastor did, with an 'er' sound. She has been living in the states for over 20 years and has lost most of her accent, but some of it comes up and this is something that she can't seem to shake off! I find it quite endearing now.

Stephanie said...

Regarding the University of Arkansas fight song after the wedding. Jimbob is constantly wearing Hogs jackets and symbols. It is a pet peeve of mine that people are fans of a college and they never took the first class (I live near Va Tech and see this all the time) bit the Duggars are so outspoken about how evil public schools are why would they advertise this? Ben and Jessa should be STUDENTS going to class and the games on Saturday not planning a wedding at 19 years old. They dont even have a TV to watch the football games.

Its a cute idea to use the song if a couple met while they were in college but these two have no personal ties to the university.

Snowlakes said...

RE: Captain Crunch's comment about Sierra referring to the wedding as shabby/chic. That's all they talked about with Jill's wedding too. Everything was shabby/chic, according to both Jill & Sierra. Just where did this Sierra come from? She kept saying she helped the Duggars with many projects but Jill's wedding was the first time I saw her. Way to go for a wedding planner Sierra..wait for the day of the wedding to start looking around for heaters when you yourself have said all along how it could be very cold. If memory servers, the ladies from the church when they first went there to plan for the wedding, said it could be a major problem with the weather the 1st of Nov.& that they could not accommodate that many people inside their church hall. There are also "Fire Laws," regarding that number of people, so they knew it would need to be outside. Guess that's just shabby/chic for you.

Root Beer Float said...

No Jill & Derick did not have their first kiss in private. Derrick grabbed Jill & dipped her almost to the floor for the first big kiss. Just saw a repeat of Jill's wedding this week & that's what it showed. Apparently TLC opted not to show Jim Bob & Michelle showing what a first Duggar kiss should be. It was awhile ago as the time frame for these weddings has been all over the place. Apparently Jim Bob & Michelle were shocked when there was no first kiss between Jessa & Ben & that's when the Duggars performed a first kiss. Couldn't disappoint all those guests could they?

Stephanie said...

No1
I think officially the number of attendants is suppose to be determined by the number of guests. I think I heard that years ago. I am in the south and the biggest bridal party I havr seen is ten girls ten boys. It was a big wedding over twenty eight years ago and theu are still apply married.

Kate Middleton only had her sister with her and them children who were realities. Princess Diana had zero bridesmaids. All kids and one 14 year old. I think having Pippa in the wedding was more modern. Diana had two sisters and they were sitting in the pews.

funtally said...

The only good thing about those bridesmaids dresses is that they could go anywhere they wanted to after the wedding, i.e., shopping, restaurant, bowling (lol), and they wouldn't have to change clothes! Those dresses would have been fine in a small home wedding if the bride was wearing a short dress, but not here!

funtally said...

I thought Ben was in college. I remember he was studying in one episode.

funtally said...

My money's on MEshelle being the borrower.

funtally said...

15 years ago, $50 bought more than it does today. Can't compare a $50 dress from 15 years ago with a $50 dress today!

Teacher mommy said...

I not sure its a southern thing to have such large bridal parties. I'm southern, and I had 3 attendants in my wedding. But my sister had 9, and our weddings were about the same in regards to the number of guests. I think it mainly depends on the preferences of the bride. Typically, I think a younger bride has more school friends, and wants to include them. My sister was 21 when she married. I was 30, and already in a career, and most of my close friends wouldn't care anything about being a bridesmaid. Of course, the Duggars don't go to school, so...

Leigh Ann said...

OK, this was on a fan blog and must be what I remember:

There was no kiss at the altar. The newlyweds ran out of the sanctuary in Bentonville, Arkansas, to have their first kiss in private. Pastor Schadt then proceeded to tell the crowd that Jessa and Ben had made that decision on their own, based on counsel they received from Schadt.

Pastor Schadt encouraged Jim Bob and Michelle to demonstrate a "Duggar kiss," and they obliged.

But they didn't show JB and Michelle demonstrating a Duggar kiss. Either the blogger was misinformed or they cut it for the show.

Leigh Ann said...

When the pastor was talking to Jessa and Ben about saving your first kiss being a personal choice and not biblical, I got the idea he was trying to make that clear to the TV audience. Whoever his intended audience was, I'm glad he said something. And if it was his idea for them to save it for private, I think that was great advice.

Bobbi said...

Why wasn't the ORGAN played for the brides entrance? Piano is nice but please no banging the keys. The ORGAN is much more refined & dignifie. But alas dignity & the Duggars are not related.

Mindi said...

I've been wondering just how pleased Jim Bob & Michele were with Jessa choice of Pastor Schadt.

Bobbi said...

Re shoes.. Why do the Duggar women always wear flats or flip flops? Is wearing high heels a sun? I noticed Anna Duggar wire high heels to Jessa's wedding. Will St Jim Bob shun her because of this choice in footwear. Good grief the Duggars rules are just nuts, contradictory, not honest & hypocritical. This is why their show is losing ground. Perhaps if Jim Bob & Michelle were removed from the show it would be more interesting with just the Duggar kids? Jim Bob I mean his name just smacks of a hillbilly.

Bobbi said...

Does Michelle have a relationship with her sisters? Or is that against St Jim Bob's absurd. & moronic rules?

Bobbi said...

I just read the Duggar Family Rules.. The rules are very sugary & no one could honestly maintain the rules because we are all human & imperfect. After reading the sugar coated rules, I thought I should contact my Doctor to arrange a blood test to determine if my blood sugar was normal.

Susie said...

Uneducated Hillbilly Hicks planning a wedding and walking through it. Banging piano music from someone who does not know how to play, terrible choices in clothing, running in church, no cake, tasteless remarks, hiding your first kiss and all of those women and children trying to please their patriarchy....sick.

Carol said...

Re the U of Arkansas fascination - this is entirely normal in the south and rural areas. They don't have professional sports teams so it gives them a way to show pride in their state and some entertainment.

funtally said...

I feel EXACTLY the same about pseudo fans. It's one thing if your child or someone in your family attended or you have SOME contact with the university, but this was ridiculous, especially from the Duggars who don't have any use for higher edication. I see the same thing at my alma mater and it ticks me off!

funtally said...

I agree, it's more a function of age of the bride than where you live. I'm Southern, and I've seen both. Usually 6 bridesmaids is about as large as you will see. I think most women in their late 20s have "been there,done that" and are over being bridesmaids. I was a bridesmaid in 3 weddings and that was enough!

funtally said...

Regarding shoes- At one of the wedding, maybe Jill's, the bridesmaids wore some ugly brown wedges, fairly high.

Wheez said...

Re Stephanie's comment "it is a pet peeve of mine that people are fans of a college and never attended the first class." I couldn't attend the college I root for bc parents said no and bc of the cost. That being said I wouldn't use the fight song in my wedding..

Bobbi said...

Fact: Although younger, Jessa & Ben courted for a little over a year before becoming engaged. Jill & Derick's very brief courtship was mainly through email, Skype & cell phone then quickly they became engaged, married & now expecting 1st child. I have always believed of the five older Duggar daughters, Jill was the least mature as each week when she's on camera, she demonstrates this fact. Now this immature child will become a Mom raising a child or perhaps she will quickly become bored & expect or demand Jana, Jinger or Joy become the "buddy" of her son. Jill is just reprehensible.

Bobbi said...

So far & hopefully NO announcements if pregnancy from Jessa & Ben. I truly believe Jessa is blessed with a modicum of common sense. What will all knowing self absorbed I need the camera in my face Jim Bob do if Jessa does not post haste become pregnant? Will he Shun her, place her on a guilt trip, chastise her, constantly bombard her about be fruitful & multiply? I hope Jessa & Ben wait to have children. Hopefully they will just take things slowly enjoying each other & being married without a of the baggage JB & M may inflict upon them. I still believe The reason Jill immediately became pregnant was to seek/ gain approval from St Jim Bob. Not necessarily from Michelle. I believe Michelle now suffers from baby envy of her daughter & Anna.

simba said...

I wonder how Michelle managed to get all the little kids dressed for the wedding, Jessa had made a comment that Michelle was home getting them ready, that must have been 'tough' she hasnt had to dress her kids herself in years. Maybe that's why Anna wasnt shown, she had to dress all of them.

Ginger said...

I thought the girls all wore simple flat shoes at Jessa's wedding. I thought the color was a beige & don't think they all wore the same shoe, but they were similar & in much better taste than Jill's wedding. Jessa also had on flats, but I don't know what color they were.

Mindi said...

I also don't care for double digits bridesmaids, but I suppose you can't leave out a sister if you have a large family. I have always loved how the Royal Family (of England not AR) have a maid of honor & then the young girls usually around 10,11,12 or so, definitely not babies wheeled down the aisle in a wagon. Tacky.

Missy said...

Don't ever worry about Michelle being overworked i.e. dressing the little ones at home. We know there must have been more friends that "volunteered" to help the poor woman.

funtally said...

What is really sad to me is that neither couple, Jill and Derrick or Ben and Jessa, really know each other yet because of JB's stupid rules. It's not just the lack of physical contact, hugging, handholding, and,even (gasp), kissing, it's the lack of intimacy that couples establish by talking to each other, confiding in each other that these couples haven't done because they have never been allowed to be alone! And, as I understand, even their texts, emails and phone calls were monitored! So in ONE day, they go from these ridiculous rules to finally being able to be alone together, to talk privately, to touch, to kiss, to having sex, that's quite a life change. They need to adjust to these huge changes in their relationship before they become parents. Too late for J and D, but hopefully, Ben and Jessa will take their time.

Andrea said...

I believe that I read the Jim Bob's father attended the U of A. If I'm remembering correctly it was written in his obituary, but I can't seem to find it online anymore . I found it odd, that Jim Bob's father would have attended the school but Jim Bob has no higher education. I also think it's sad that the Duggar children seem to be huge fans of the school yet have absolutely not chance of every attending.

Anonymous said...

Andrea, you are correct. JimBob's father attended the University of Arkansas. Here's a link to his obituary: http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GRid=33774692

celestrialangie said...

I really enjoyed Jessa and Ben's wedding. I like the fact that Jessa knew what she wanted and I love the horse and carriage they left in. Also going to Europe for the honeymoon, Nice. I think Jessa knows what she wants and she will be able to get Ben to do what she wants. I don't think Jessa is into pleasing her parents as she is into pleasing herself.

Ashlea b said...

What will they do if one of their children have a fertility issue? 1 is bound to down the line. I feel like theres something missing from jessa and ben wanting to adopt. Why would they go right into adoption? I know its a nice thing to do and people do it a lot but i was curious as to why they are wanting to adopt so fast?

funtally said...

I noticed that the obit said he "attended" U of Arkansas, which is usually what is said when the person did not graduate. Still, the connection to the school based on the fact that your grandfather attended is tenuous, at best. And I doubt that Jim Bob was smart enough to be admitted!

Willow said...

Jessa's bridesmaids wore beige shoes of very similar color. Some were high heels and some were not. They were pretty and more appropriate than what the girls wore in Jill's wedding. Just my opinion though.

admissions committee said...

Regarding JB's not going to U of Arkansas...he probably couldn't get in because he couldn't pass the verbal part of the SAT or ACT!! Simple as that!

Rosie Banks said...

Didnt she say she bought the dress on sale? So... thats a weird chance no? Or shes lying?hmmmmm.

NoDuggarRespectHere said...

What a farce. I actually felt sorry for Jessa, the look on her face looked like she was being sacrificed when her father was talking to her before the wedding. Josh needing attention? It was all to have TLC film some clips that could be used in his upcoming political campaign. What MOTHER wears a clashing color to her daughter's wedding and then has her husband wear a clashing tie? One who is helping create video for her son's upcoming Congressional campaign. JimBob is so cheap, volunteers? Ice cream? No seats for people at the reception? Outside in November? If the norm that the wedding gift from guests should at least be equal to the amount spent on dinner, well, they would have received 1000 $5 cards (that's being generous) from WalMart.

Just my thoughts said...

Since Erin Bates Paine had issues-not really fertility since she was able to get pregnant 4 times before anniversary-problems being able to maintain pregancy-the Duggars should be aware that there may be issues in their family. I think Jessa and Ben are talking about adoption
because they had not long ago been on the mission trip to Central America where they visit orphanages were children are so need of adoption. Older children don't get adopted and are probably out on the streets when they become of age.

SMH said...

In response to the question on why JimBoob doesn't hire a caterer...there is only one simple reason...he is cheap to a fault. For someone whose net worth is more than my family or I COMBINED will EVER see in our lifetimes, he is INCREDIBLY cheap. Occasions such as a wedding demand that money is spent. But not in Duggarland! It's all about how he can marry off the girls in the least expensive way possible with as many witnesses as possible. Honestly, if I were invited to a wedding and not fed actual food at the reception, I would've been EXTREMELY insulted. Especially if I gave a gift (in my area, gifts range from $50-200). Having a wedding with 1,500 people is pretentious and unnecessary to start with. And not feeding their guests? I would've been embarrassed to be a Duggar that day and insulted to be a guest. Just my opinion.

sandi said...

IIRC,I don't think the ACT test was generally allowed at most 4 year colleges back then.I know around here in the early 80's,we just had the SAT and if you weren't well-educated and well-prepared,it could be difficult to achieve a high score on it,or at least a score well enough to be admitted to a 4 year college.

Elspeth said...

ACT has been around since at least the 60s.

scores said...

Regarding SAT vs. ACT, it kind of depends of where you live. Some state schools required SAT over ACT. SAT was considered more prestigious. Now many schools accept either test.

Leigh Ann said...

The ACT has been around since 1959. My high school offered both in the '80s.

I have no problem with not having a meal at a wedding (most of the weddings I've been to haven't had meals). But did they have anything but ice cream sundaes? It didn't look like it. Seeing as Ben and Jessa toasted with water it didn't look like they even had drinks. They should have hired a caterer and had lots of stations with various hors d'oeuvres (that word ought to be taken out and shot). And drinks -- coffee, tea and punch at least.

TallGirl said...

This!!! Obviously it was planned and rehearsed between them. How did that conversation go? "So after my sister and her new husband walk up the aisle, I'm going to stop and you dip me and kiss me in front of everyone." Sooooo selfish!

Snowlakes said...

It will be interesting to see if Jessa & Ben are serious about adopting. Jim Bob & Michelle have been praying about adopting for quite some time now, or at least that's what they say. Apparently they have received no answers to these prayers. Sadly I don't believe for one minute that an adopted child will be accepted in the Duggar fold. I remember the very large family that visited the Duggars & had many adopted children with special needs. Jim Bob had no idea how to act around those children he couldn't even hold a conversation with those children.. So sad.

GF Baker said...

I thought that it was very sweet to have the remembrance table at the wedding. They made a big tado over honoring Grandpa Duggar and Grandpa Raurk, but there was no mention about Grandma Raurk. What is the back story there?

no1 said...

Dear Next Duggar Bride, For the love of God, just invite family and have one attendant. That way you should be able to at least offer guests a sandwich. Your wedding will be intimate, meaningful, and tender instead of a gift-grabbing shabby circus complete with hair-sprayed clown.

katieann said...

Leigh Ann, re: drinks served at the wedding, there was a brief clip during the set-up for the reception where one of the 'volunteers' was explaining to Sierra-the-wedding-coordinator that it was too windy to put cups out at the beverage stations. I think he said they were going to serve water and coffee. You could see the wind blowing the black tablecloth on a small, round table in the parking lot.

simba said...

I agree No 1, it was sad that Jessa loved the little glass church, but knew she had to invite the world and couldn't be married there. Why do they feel they have to invite so many people? Gifts?

Leigh Ann said...

Oh, I believe it was windy. They really needed a couple of those big tents with the sides you can roll up and down. They could at least have had the food and drinks in those. I'm glad they had something hot to drink but it just seems strange not to have some kind of punch or something. That could a blurb, how many gallons of punch will the Duggars have gone through by the time they all get married.

They figured it out said...

I think all of the older Duggar kids are truly embarrassed by their Dad. I've heard comments in the background not knowing which of the girls it was but, I think both Joy & Jana (the boys are clueless) have said : "that's enough." in regard to all the kissing, on more than one occasion.I remember that especially at the back of the beautiful chapel where Ben proposed. If it were me I would have eloped & saved the embarrassment of having Jim Bob trying to be the center of attention at my wedding. I'm surprised he was only weeping & not outright wailing.

sandi said...

Yes,I would love to see a small,intimate wedding for one of the Duggar brides.Just a few close family members,no huge gift grab,and minus the items they get paid for to put on their registries (IMO).Just reasonable things like the rest of society puts on theirs.
What I find rather disingenuous about the whole thing, is the Duggars have behaved as if the guest list is Hollywood style,inviting over 1000+ ppl they barely know,yet have treated the occasions as if they are nothing but small town weddings,with cheap treats for the guests at best.It just doesn't add up,esp. considering the items the ladies put on their registires and expect their guests to purchase.JMO

Leigh Ann said...

Sierra doesn't seem to be much on contingency planning. It's November, the weather can go either way, let's put some heaters on hold just in case. It might be windy, let's plan for two tents -- one for the food and one for people to get in out of the wind if they want. A "real" event planner would have thought of these things.

mom in texas said...

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard the following word(s) or phrases during this episode:

1. kiss
2. "most beautiful bride"
3. "30 yrs ago when I married Michelle..."
4."this is really happening"
5."I can't believe I am giving away another daughter"

And last, although not a word or phrase but anytime Jill inserted herself into the center of attention. Such as the rehearsal line up when Jill pretends that she needs to "waddle" to walk (get over yourself Jill, you're like 4 months along), the toe painting incident, the dip and kiss during the wedding processional, etc. I could go on but the point is Jill could not allow Jessa to have her moment.

The attention starved behavior is a serious issue with these folks.

Susie said...

Baking brownies from scratch that were crumbled up as an ice cream topping? Just buy some brownies. Sierra is clueless.

hello said...

These people just don't know how to act. Did Derickdillard really need to grab Jillymuffin and plant a kiss on her before she went running down the aisle? Josh did the same thing at their wedding. Ben made a big deal at Jill's wedding about somebody walking with Jessa into the wedding but that he would he the one to walk her out. Are these guys so insecure that they have to make sure everyone knows who the women belong to?
Jill seemed mad at the rehearsal dinner that she wasn't the center of attention. I guess that is why she felt the need to push her stomach out as far as she could in case anyone forgot she was pregnant. Was it really necessary for Derrick to be in the bridal room to paint her toenails? She comes across as very immature and needy. I can imagine her freaking out when she starts having contractions.
Ben is way too immature to be be married. He is working ad Jboob's gopher and is in no way prepared to support a bunch of kids. I can see Jessa wearing the pants in that relationship, if she was allowed to wear pants. She doesn't seem to really want a bunch of kids, even though she says she does. She has been trained since birth to believe her only goal in life was to get married and have as many kids as possible.

Susie said...

Jessa was in charge of homeschooling her brothers and sisters and herself????? no wonder they are so far behind and ignorant. She does not like children. This is very evident no matter what she says.....

Bobbi said...

Perhaps Jessa says she wants kids so not to rock the boat with Dim Bulb Michy Mouse. Jessa placating her parents will hopefully continue to work for her.

Bobbi said...

Dumbs my husband & I once visited the Thorn Crown church. It's breathtaking especially in the moonlight. It would have been a wonderful intimate & cozy venue for Jessa & Ben's wedding.

Ari23 said...

A few random thoughts in random order:

1. Ben didn't act as immature, lovey-dovey or excited as I thought he would act. For that, I was impressed. Actually, Jessa acted the way I thought Ben would, and vice versa.

2. The ice cream looked melted and nasty.

3. Jessa's dress was pretty, but her hair needed more curl or something.

4. Michelle is using some serious self-tanner.

5. Guinn Seewald seems like a classy, genuine person. Doesn't seem like she's an attention-seeker or looking for fame at all. Can't necessarily say the same for Michael Seewald. His smile just creeps me out, and he seems totally enthralled with being linked to the Duggars.

6. I feel sorry for Jinger. And Jana. I could go into this in great detail but will save it for another time.

7. Michelle is becoming more and more crazy-sounding and crazy-eyed. She is also more obsessed with anything intimate before marriage; for example, when she even remotely mentions the notion of not kissing before marriage, she gets a super-serious, wild-eyed, somewhat mean look in her eyes.

8. Ben and Jessa are not anywhere NEAR ready to be parents of a newborn. If they get pregnant and have a baby any time soon, they'll fake being perfect, ready parents in front of the cameras. But they are not ready in reality, and I feel bad for them if they jump into such responsibility so fast.

9. Speaking of point #8, I know people have asked this before but: WHAT in the world do Ben and Jessa do to make a living? Is Ben SERIOUSLY going to be JimBob's handy-man forever? Are they planning on TLC money forever? People need JOBS before having babies. It is not sinful to understand this reality. If you cannot afford a baby (or babies), then you should avoid conception. God gave us brains. This too is not sinful. I feel bad for these young couples if they thing it's sinful to make sure they're ready, both financially and emotionally.

10. Jessa seems to be both vain and down to earth. I realize she is definitely a pretty gal, but when she takes those selfies, man, you can see it written all over her face "I am so amazingly beautiful"... sometimes I even get the feeling that she's not really that nice of a gal.

11. In the talking heads, the right side of Ben's mustache was hanging down his lip and into his mouth. He REALLY needs to fix this. Eek.

12. JimBob might be a nice guy and a genuine guy, who knows... but he seems to really be putting on a show... I feel that he's really fake sometimes, and I also can definitely tell he adores the attention.

13. Josh acts like he's SO experienced in everything: kids, big-time job, husband. You name it, he has some great wisdom to impart (insert sarcasm).

14. I don't care if they kissed in private or not, but if they're gonna suck face a million times in front of their guests and the camera immediately afterward anyway, then I don't even see the point of kissing that first time in private. I feel this was all publicity and attention too.

15. The kisses they gave each other at the reception were awkward. Jessa seemed way more into it than Ben. He seemed like he was kissing like a dead fish. Hopefully it was better behind closed doors, for Jessa's sake.

Sharla said...

Remember I said we weren't going to go wild on the food at the reception issue? I've rejected a lot of comments that simply don't accept that the Duggars will never have a huge fancy reception. If you want to talk the inappropriateness of ice cream outdoors in November, made from scratch brownies then crumbled, etc., then have at it. The Duggars are within their societal norms. They may not be yours or mine, but endless complaining about it is useless.

wampascat said...

Michelle keeps shrinking. All those kids sucked every bit of bone density out of her along with her brains. Yikes!

Wheez said...

Haven't seen anybody mention the (yawn) wedding ring fumble that happens in their weddings (bengerman "forgot" the ring and jb came to the staged rescue). I'm surprised they didn't make more of the episode about that.

j-anon said...

Jessa and Ben are working on a television show. They should be able to afford a honeymoon in Europe. I certainly hope (but doubt) that all of the regular cast members have savings and paychecks. This is not a documentary. The cast reads scripted words and performs on cue.

Chela said...

Apparently, TLC went along on the European honeymoon. Good for them! But I really hope Ben gets a REAL job soon.

Marti said...

Did anyone hear Michelle at the rehearsal dinner telling Josie about the pic of Grandpa Duggar". How about her squeaky voice saying his name?? It went right through me!! Yikes!

Bobbi said...

Marti, yes I heard Michelle in her Minnie Mouse voice provide the explanation to Josie. Once M began talking quickly, I muted the sound until she was off screen. It's a good habit to consider when Michelle is on screen, just press MUTE.

Willow said...

Yes, I heard Michelle talking to Josie about Grandpa's picture. It was insulting, even to Josie. Now that her youngest is 5 years old, Michelle needs to drop the baby voice. We are adults and she is not the teacher of our nursery school.

Sarah said...

Being that Mike Schadt knows Jessa and Benjermin personally, why couldn't he get their names right? I would be so embarrassed if I heard my name being mispronounced on my wedding day.

Totally said...

FYI: Ben and Jessa have jobs. I don't understand why people don't realize that they are employed by TLC. I'm sure they get their own check from TLC now that they are married and they get a check from people magazine every time they sell pictures or stories.Yes,it would be nice if Ben had an education and a job that provided a steady income but until the TLC gravy train stops he doesn't need it.

Beth Anne said...

Re: Yes,it would be nice if Ben had an education and a job that provided a steady income but until the TLC gravy train stops he doesn't need it.

I see the point being made here, but I think we've seen too many "reality stars" fall victim to the mindset that they can just keep being reality stars, thus putting their further adult development on hold. Since Ben has nothing beyond a high school degree and no truly impressive work credentials to put out there to a future employer, he is putting himself at a disadvantage for the future. He will have a lot of catching up to do, and it seems smarter for him to finish up his education and/or take on some non-JimBob-lackey vocational tasks now, so they are not in a bind when the train stops - and it will stop at some point.

Ari23 said...

My husband doesn't watch 19 Kids but he knows a lot about them because I watch it and I talk about it to him. My husband is a very practical, smart man, and he has said many times these two things:

"There's no way our daughter will be allowed to marry a 19-year-old unemployed kid, no matter who he is and what he means to our daughter. He is too young and it's not smart to marry before you're ready financially or from a maturity standpoint. I don't care who you are - reality 'star' or not - it's not a wise decision."

"The thing is, the show WILL come to an end. That is a fact. And it seems like those Duggar parents would want their daughters to be with an educated man who can provide well. The only one so far with a hope without the Duggar Paycheck is Jill because her husband is an Accountant. But that other girl with the teenage boy husband is in trouble unless things change for him before the show comes to an end. And it will end. All shows end."

I agree with him wholeheartedly. Even though we both think the Duggars are probably very nice and well-meaning folks for the most part, it is sad to see the decisions being made. I know some people make marriages work when they're super young and uneducated, but let's face it- it's not likely.

My husband said, "Why in the world did they let their daughter marry that teenager with no job?" I replied, "Honestly, probably two reasons: one, Jessa fell for him and they could see she wasn't backing down... and two, PUBLICITY... they needed a courtship going on, and Ben's a cute guy who, coupled with Jessa, attracted attention to the show. Jim Bob isn't dumb."

Julia said...

Here's a question: Would the Seewalds have allowed Benjermin to marry at 19 years old if he wanted to marry a regular gal down the street whose family had a modest income ... but she was a real sweet, Christian gal just like Jessa ... Would they have let Ben move into this regular, non-famous, middle-class gal's dad's garage to work for him too? Or were the Seewalds swayed by Duggar Fame and Fortune? Hmmmm......... Very good question indeed.

And if the Seewalds answers to the first two questions above were to be "NO" ... then shame on the Seewalds.

Boo's Mom said...

It was very refreshing to hear Jessa and Ben being told that kissing was not a sin, even before marriage. And then of course Michelle had to have the talking head segment about "waiting to kiss until marriage" Makes me wonder how much of these courtship rules are really a "choice"

The entire episode just seemed ho hum to me.

Wheez said...

Eeeewww!! Josh was flicking his tongue like a lizard before kidding Anna during the group kissing photo at the end of Jessa's wedding episode. Gross! I'm starting to feel sorry for Anna!

Syndee said...

Group kissing photo?? I have never ever heard of that. My family certainly never did anything close to that, nor anyone I know.

Checkerboard said...

I wasn't too impressed with the wedding episode. There wasn't anything noteworthy except for BenjerminSeewald's name, and luckily it wasn't "so surreal" like Jill's nuptials. When the pastor counseling them (thankfully not only J&M) stated that NOWHERE in the Bible does it say that kissing is a sin and not permissible before marriage, I may have shouted AMEN!

However, I give mad props to Guinn Seewald for decorating and setting up a nice rehearsal dinner. I am happy to see that she has a great vocabulary to describe Jessa, rather than pretty and beautiful. She had more emotion and happiness for Ben and her new daughter-in-law than Michelle had for her own daughter. Poor Michelle, she seemed like she rather be on the elliptical at the gym with her friend Cindy.

I wonder if Jill or Jessa will regret having the big, impersonal wedding where they invited every fundie they were in the same room with. Hope Jana and the rest of the girls realize that a TLC wedding is not about: how many people they can feed ice cream and rootbeer floats to, kissing their spouse down the isle to draw attention, or how fast they can run barefoot down the isle. Instead, a wedding is special day and they need to make it a memorable, especially since they place a high value on marriage.

SadieJane said...

Did anyone notice how Michelle's skin color is now the same gross color as her talking head background....It annoyed me

Bobbi said...

Boo's Mom, the rules of courtship for the Duggar kids was NEVER their choice. JB & M made a big deal stating the rules were the choice of the kids courting when we all know as it's continually proven
that JB & M misrepresent the truth aka lying. JB & M have no filter, the contradict everything they aren't clever enough to remember what they've said to the viewing audience. They are just not very bright. Back to courting... If any of the Duggar kids broke the rules of courtship & the Duggar parents learned of this info, the one who violated the courtship would probably be shunned, ostracized or completely cut off. JB is all about BLIND OBEDIRNCE. with no questions asked. He's not a nice man or Dad. Same applies to Michelle. I believe if JB had gone beyond HS & worked toward a degree, being among college students or his peers may have opened his mind to more liberal thought or with extended education, he may have not been so gullable as to buy into the insanity of the Gothard cult.

Wendy A, said...

Is it just me, or has anyone else noticed that when Ben speaks he sounds like his nose is stuffed up? Maybe he has a deviated septum or something.

Willow said...

I wanted to get in a comment about the wedding. My comment is that I am just curious about the wedding planner/friend Sierra. Is she a new cast member now? Seems like we have enough Duggars without her. She sure got a LOT of air time over the two wedding episodes. I am not a fan. She seems very impressed with herself and I don't think she did that great of a job with the wedding planning. JMO (sorry). I really don't know how else to say it. I wonder if the Duggars pushed for her air time or if the TLC folks did. I would rather have seen a little more of the wedding itself (Amy, the music, etc) than so much of Sierra and Jim Bob. Jim Bob talking to Jessa while they waited to walk in was just a repeat of Jill's wedding, but much more awkward.

Erin said...

I am not a Sierra fan, either. A wedding coordinator? Another fake fundie title like concert pianist? She failed in many areas to coordinate things to make sure it all ran smoothly... Heaters for example .

Helen Crump said...

I don't care much for Sierra, the "wedding planner" either. A real, professional simply does NOT get frazzled over planning a wedding nor do they panic over handling unexpected situations. Yes, I agree that she is a "wanna be" planner and is only a "friend" who helps out. What I want to know is how is it that she is allowed to "work" being from a fundy family herself? Who is it that takes care of her now (5?) children under 6 when she is "playing professional working woman"? They really need to "lose her" and either do it themselves or hire a real professional for the job. She looked , IMO, quite silly being so utterly pregnant for Jill's ceremony and running around like she did with those tight clothes on; just unflattering and oh, so "un-modest" of her...

Wheez said...

Very surprised that Jessa and Ben were apparently eating Ben and Jerry's ice cream at the wedding in light of the opposing political views

Beth Anne said...

Regarding Jessa and BenjerminSeewald eating Ben and Jerry's ice cream....

I am a registered Republican who LOVES Ben and Jerry's! Yum! My stomach wins out. Seriously, though, I appreciate the passion those two have and admire anyone who talks the talk, so to speak.

Unfortunately, I think the Duggars are so insular and uneducated in many things that they may not even be aware of things like Ben and Jerry's political leanings. The only things they really "know" are what came out of the Gothard/ATI homeschooling curriculum and JimBob's mouth. Even the adult kids seem so clueless about the world around them (though I think they have been taught to see that as a badge of honor - i.e., we are not worldly, so our naivety is holy!).

Wednesday said...

It didn't help Sierra's image that TLC played her over and over and over and over in the promo's. I may scream if I ever see her one more time do the little attention grabber where she is saying that basically it's the calm before the storm and everything will just blow up and then she does the google eyes and mimes an explosion. OMG, burned into my mind forever.

Bobbi said...

Yes Suerra looked silly & definitely clueless. Hey Sierra, in November, order portable heaters & Tents! Not a difficult decision but one of common sense.

Syndee said...

Ouch, now that Sierra google eyes explosion is stuck in my head..... :)

How does she "work" as coordinator? As a volunteer, I'm sure. That seems to be allowed. In fact that seems to be the only way women are allowed to do anything different.

I kind of feel for her, she probably was dying to do something important outside of the house, and jumped all over this. If she's one of them, this would be probably the best opportunity to come along for her to test out her organizational skills, etc. other than running a household

Heart in Florida said...

A professional wedding planner has a plan for potential "explosions" in a wedding already in place, thus avoiding the panic and/or potential explosions in the first place. That's one of the reasons real planners are hired...Sierra needs to go home and take care of her growing number of children.Who takes care of them when she is playing with her clipboard?

Wheez said...

Having been to tons of big southern weddings like this ( jillion bridesmaids, only cake/ punch /nuts served at reception, no dancing, etc), the "wedding coordinator" is almost always the cousin or friend perceived as having the best organizational skill and who is taking the role as a favor to the bride. That seems to be the case here.

Erin said...

Oh, good grief. Drama queen Sierra is back. What is with her bugging her eyes out?


2nd question

Jill Duggar will you Marry me? Yes, totally.

What the hey does
that mean? She would totally marry him..... as opposed to what? Not totally marrying him?

And she is talking in that 12 year old child voice!

ellen said...

Sierra's eyes are scary, I think she totally drank the Duggar kool-aid. Interesting to hear Michelle say all Jills sisters stepped up, thats not true at all, Jana was the only one doing anything, her and the volunteers.

Wheez said...

Speaking of drinking the kool aid, I was sort of surprised (but yet, notsomuch) when Jana was asked what was next for Ben & Jessa and her response was "hopefully have kids!!" Poor girl drowning in the kool aid

Stella said...

It's never a good thing to compare ceremonies but just re-watched the Little People, Big World Wedding of Jeremy and Audrey Roloff. I see hints of their influence in Jessa and Ben's wedding. They are little things common themes. If you haven't watched that episode it was a very sweet and endearing wedding ceremony. Nothing seemed staged. Looking forward in seeing Zach and Tori's wedding.

Mary said...

Ok we have see the 2 girls get married. They said they sent out over a thousand invites. They did not have a thousand people at either wedding maybe a hundred. such lies. Ice in a small cop.


MaryG