Michael(a) and Brandon are Engaged

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44 comments:

Melissa said...

A front hug!!

Stella said...

The couple is not know for side hugs. Congrats to them. The series comes back in June for 13 episodes a wedding might be part of it and two births.

70'schild said...

I love that the Bates are so NORMAL yes Frontal Hugs! Gil & Kelly reasonable, common sense people. Limited restrictions with their kids. I hope Jim Bob & Michelle watched this frontal hug & I hope it upset them. Jim Bob & Michelle Will Never Control the behavior & actions of the Bates Family!

mandeerose said...

So happy for them! I really enjoy this family. So much better than the Duggars they seem like robots in comparison.

Rosie Banks said...

Shes gorgeous! Lovely ring too. Congrats! See how a.front hug doesnt immediately turn you into a porn star?

Leslie said...

Yup...While they're all cut from the same cloth, the Bateses (Ugh! *LOL* None of them seem to know how to pluralize that name and it drives me nuts!) are much more tolerable to watch than the Duggars. I can actually watch their show without becoming infuriated every time! Congrats to them!

Justme said...

Congrats to the two. I like this family. They set guidelines on what they expect from their kids. Yet they still seemed to be grounded on what reality is. I think they realized, especially with the older children( who knew life before Gothard), that they will follow their own path and rules to having a Christian life.

Stella said...

How long have they been courting? I thought more than 2 yrs or so.

Bobbi said...

Justine, I too like the Bates family. Unlike the Duggars they are down to earth, not pretentious, have an honest sense of humor that isn't forced. Kelly spends time with all of her children. Gil isn't consumed by making off color jokes. They are just decent people.

CatMom said...

Bates courtships seem to be more "normal" than Duggar courtships, with the couple allowed to have more contact. I think that is a good thing!

Syndee said...

Two ways this could go. Either the Bates show will be JB's undoing because it exposes so much hypocracy, or the Bates family will be so normal that it will get kind of boring. I will be the first to admit that I watch the Duggars because their lives are like a train wreck and you can't look away. The Bateses might not draw so much attention in the long run

pumpkin_pie said...

Michael(a) looks SO MUCH prettier than she did when they had a guest appearance on the Duggar's show. She's stunning now - some of us just need a little extra time to blossom. I wish them all the best.

Londonbridges said...

Gil and Kelly Bates do not talk about sex and babies non-stop. He has never humped his wife, on a golf course, in front of his own daughter and her fiancé. At least the viewing public hasn't seen and heard this. This makes them easier to watch. However, I am aware that he sits on the Gothard board. I really wonder how he reconciles the goings-on with Gothard. JMHO.

Boo's Mom said...

Yay! Like others have said, the Bates are more "real" and down to earth. Happy for these two!

mom in texas said...

So glad for Michael! I thought the poor girl would burst from anticipation over her impending engagement to Brandon. I like that this couple truly courted for years and took time to get to know one another. I also like how Michael and Brandon deviated from the script with the courtship rules but still kept it clean. I think this helped as they waited. It's not the "rush to alter" just so they can front hug. They have already crossed that bridge. Michael always seemed like such a sweet spirit. Congrats to her.

Stella said...

I agree both families drink and preach the same Gothard principles so in that repeat cautious of their approach. If given the choice I find the Bates as reasonable as they can be with their principles and much more approachable. The kids are not cookie cutter and seem at ease. Even their courtships seem more relaxed for their guidelines. I wonder how Alyssa wearing pants now landed with th family. The fat only her parents visited her and her husband after the birth is a big deal. Back to Michel(a) and Brandon they seem very set to continue the Gothard principles but also very approachable couple.

Helen Crump said...

The Bates family believes just as the Duggars do...Gil WORKS for the outfit, remember? They may have more jovial personalities, but that's where the differences end...Michaela is "bursting" from her engagement because they all are totally sexually and emotionally repressed when it comes to the opposite sex. They are all that way. It's hard to tell if you really love the person when you don't have any experience in that area at all..it's all lust for them. Duggars and Bates....Coke and Pepsi.

GJJ's mom said...

I like the Bates more than the Duggars---at least they are portrayed better and appear to really like their siblings and their parents.

Rudy Tecat said...

Please remember: the last time I checked, Gil Bates was on the board of directors of the Gothard organization! He's more culpable than JimBob when it comes to the Gothard Cult.

Stella said...

Agreed with Gil Bates on the board the Gothard principles are strong in that family. Just from the what is shown on TV the family just appears more approachable. Their Gothard are loud and proud in both families!
Interesting to see if the Bates family will turn all Duggar like with the media. Both families know how to work this system. One is just years ahead!

sandi said...

Congrats to them,and I hope they get to be married this year.it sounds like it's coming soon.I know Michaela said they were tired of waiting.Brandon is really cute and seems very sweet.I think they will be very happy.
That said,I just wanted to point out that Kelly changed courting to 'dating with a purpose' after Zach's failed courtship,and now it seems they've gone back to calling it courtship again.A rose by any other name,agree.

Sybil B. said...

Kelly made it clear that the courting/"dating with a purpose" couple sets most of the standards. The only rule they gave Michaella & Brandon during his visit was that they couldn't/shouldn't be in a room alone. I think hugs while saying hello & goodbye are totally normal and natural for a young couple in love. These two are well-grounded Christian people with their heads screwed on straight. A refreshing change from the Duggars. Wish I was able to see the Bateses' episodes online. I saw the first 5 or 6 before they were deleted from Youtube.

Seems like Alyssa wears pants now and I got the impression from Kelly's post that she & Gil respect their married kids' decisions on how they live their lives in their own homes but that certain things are expected of them during visits. For the longest time, I lived in a legalistic, strict system where ladies' pants & jeans were verboten. There are some instances (like physical activities) when pants are more modest & appropriate than skirts.

sandi said...

So Kelly is saying Alyssa can wear pants in her own home,but she must not wear them in hers? That sounds like a really petty thing to tell your adult daughter with her own family now.

Stella said...

When did Kelly Jo post that their children can have their own rules but their home they must follow theirs again?

Helen Crump said...

I don't think the "can't be alone in a room" rule at the Bates house isn't the only one... I'm sure they aren't allowed to kiss, hug one another, or have a private conversation..they really aren't much different than the Duggars, they may be a more relaxed group, not as up tight as the Duggars, but they are the same brand, they wouldn't be friends with each other if they didn't think alike...remember the Duggars DON"T associate with anyone who thinks differently than they do. The don't want to know you, or be your friend.

Checkerboard said...

What I have observed in the Bateses show and in her comments on the blog post, is that even though the couple are chaperoned they give them some time and space to actually talk to each other alone. Like at dinner they may sit at a different table in the restaurant or when they were out on a walk they let them walk ahead of them a little ways. It just surprises me when you see the Duggars tag along on their kid's dates, they sit at the table with them or they interact with them, rather than monitor off to the side. Or it is a chance for free babysitting when they bring a younger sibling along. How do you allow the couple to get to know each other "and ask those tough questions" (we recently heard about the list Jill created and passed along to Josiah) so they know the person they are intending to marry. Instead the Duggars are setting up their kids for a marriage in which they're going to have to interact with the person by themselves, and see what they are really like when mommy and daddy (or their little brother) aren't around.

celestrialangie said...

I have to agree that the Duggars are a train wreck. I can't turn away from. I think one of those children are going to escape and write a tell all book!!! I am going to be the first in line!!!
As for the Bates I love the show; It seems like a regular house full of people!! I love how they court or date. And I am so Happy for Michael and Brandon. Those two have waited for along time.

mom in texas said...

Michael and Brandon have always hugged, even before their engagment. Also Zach and Whitney admitted to kissing before their wedding, which means they must have had some alone time or they were being chaperoned by a sibiling who dropped the ball.

Girlsrule said...

Yeah! Way to go Zach & Whitney. Very pleased there was some semblence of real dating during your courtship. Michaela & Brandon keep on frontal Hugging & kiss before your wedding!!

morganw323 said...

I know this thread is to discuss Michael and Brandon--and yes I am very happy for them. But, I am also curious as to why Lawson Bates seems to have spent a lot of time with the Duggars lately. His last two Instagram posts have been of him holding baby Dilly and then what seems to be the view from the Duggar's front yard (he tagged them in that pic too). Doesn't seem like any of his siblings are with him either. I know the families are friends and he could be visiting or passing through for any number of reasons...but...if he was starting a courtship with a Duggar daughter (Jana or Jinger being the most likely candidates) I think Jim Bob and the PR team would have a field day. This is what everyone has been speculating about since that big bus rolled into the Bates' driveway and they started "blessing" them with a massive construction project ;) Anyone else think another courtship might be on the horizon?

Stella said...

I highly doubt Micchala and Brandon will go beyond their hugging and holding hands. She is very set in the practices the family follows. As for Zach and Whitney, the couple eventually came forth and told Zach's parents. It appeared from the episode his parents were okay yet disappointed. In all everyone moved on. The Bates episode about courtship was the second episode of Bringing up Bates.

Sharla said...

Please take any further Lawson discussion to Bringing Up Bates. Thanks!

Patrice said...

I like the Bateses better too, but it seems unnatural that the parents still have so much control. Isn't Michaella about 25 years old? Who is still told what to do at that age? "Mom and Dad said we can't be alone in a room, so, um, I guess we can't!" And the parents have to be in the restaurant when the "kids"-25 year old adults- go out on dates? This is sick...how do these people manage to run their own lives once they finally escape the madness? I hope Alyssa shows up at the front door in her jeans and if she is not allowed in, cuts the apron strings for once and for all. Would Gil and Kelly really risk the chance of never seeing their daughter and grandchildren again over a pair of jeans??? Really insane in more ways than one.

70'schild said...

Morganw, not sure if another courtship is in the wings. If a Bates guy is interested in Jana or Jinger it will be another hands off train wreck. I am just stunned as to the obsession Jim Bob & Michelle have with sex. For a family that touts Christianity 24/7, it's just creepy & not natural. I hope & soon one if the older Duggar kids violates every rule of unnatural courtship.

Girlsrule said...

Why won't the Duggar & Bates kids rebel? I mean come on! Are these kids so brainwashed to the point of extreme fear? Fear if being shunned by the parents or God only knows worse. At some time in ones life, most teens go through a rebellious stage. I just don't understand these two families. Has Gothard so put he fear into everyone of his followers that they fear for their lives if any infraction of courtship or another scenario could occur? Gothard needs to go away & perhaps to the place where Warren Jeffs of the FLDS is housed. They could become bunk mates. LOL.

KK said...

In re: to why won't the Duggar and Bates kids rebel - I suppose one big reason, beyond the emotional / spiritual brainwashing and fear etc, is MONEY. The ones who are not yet married have no skills or education. The ones who are married seem to be still "provided" for some by the parents - houses, TV money that comes from the show that "started" with JB and Michelle, etc. Now I tell ya, I would LOVE to watch a show, read a tell all book, all about Jana and her getting out of the cult etc, as would many, but it may be a scary thought to leave all that you know and flail out in the world with no support.

Syndee said...

It's just got to be so intimidating to leave that compound. It's all they know, and all they see. No reading of traveling, no college friends going off to Europe for the summer, no library or internet to try to help get up the guts. And if they have reasonably good relationships with some of their siblings then it is tolerable living there, and you've been told all your live how horrible it is everywhere else. I can kind of see why they don't leave. Especially when you know how it will hurt the rest of the family and the show. The rebellion would be so public, maybe it's just too overwhelming to think about it. Plus, if they're not happy it's really their own fault, they should work on their contentment or whatever Jinger said when they discouraged her from going to NY.

Willow said...

My opinion on why the cults encourage early and continuous birthing is because they want to keep that woman busy. No children and no working would give her time to read, watch t.v., have a hobby, have a job, etc. i.e., hear other opinions about things. The sooner she has dependent children and no education/job, the sooner she is forever tied to her dear, dear, sweet hubby.

Cammie said...

I have a feeling that Michael(la) will have a billion babies... one after the other, the first being within the first year of marriage.

April Bell said...

In Victorian England in wealthy families unmarried women never went out without a chaperone and they lived at home until marriage even if they were 30 (an unmarried 30 year old woman was very uncommon though). The Bates and Duggars follow a very antiquated system in terms of romance but it's not a new system.

sunny side up said...

Maybe they don't think that their life is so bad. Maybe they stay out of love, not fear. We may not understand it because we weren't all raised that way, but maybe they're happy with their lifestyle.

Stella said...

Good point Sunny-- The Bates children all seem very adjusted and their personalities still intact with no taking away of who they are because of their principals that appear restricting.

val kyrie said...

When do the bates come on please? I have heard of them. Is that the family the duggars went to a wedding of a beautiful young woman? (Pink cottage). Thanks

Willow said...

Val kyrie: Yes, the Bates family are good friends of the Duggars. They have been on the Duggar show many times. They attended several Bates family weddings. The pink cottage is probably Erin Bates Paine's house. She has a little cottage-type house that did have a pink bedroom. Their show is on Thursdays at 9 p.m. Eastern on the UP channel.