Tuesday, September 9, 2014, 9:31 PM, Duggar-sized Wedding Planning

Less than three months away, Jill and Derick are making some big decisions! From cake tasting to touring venues, will they hit the sweet spot for their Duggar-sized dream wedding? Over in DC, Anna has her hands full with her little ones.

30 minutes

Ratings:  2.682 M viewers and a 1.1 rating.

101 comments:

Anonymous said...

Someone needs to rescue Anna from having more "little ones." She always looks drawn and tired, and I'm worried for her.

Anonymous said...

I know she does. She needs a break. I hope she is not going to try to keep up with Michelle, especially now it may become a contest with Jill having babies and soon probably Jessa. She needs to realize her body is different than Michelle's and may not be able to handle a lot of babies. Three little ones are plenty this day and age. I wonder if that is why Jana was there this summer to help baby sit. also I wonder if Jana moved in permanently with them and if that's Josh and Anna's upcoming decision regarding their expanding family. Plus, the way everyone says Jana is a slave it would show everybody she's not. I wish Jana could escape them all and have a life of her own. She has to be tired of raising kids. She has done it since she was 7 or so. She needs a break.

Anonymous said...

Jana is very much still a slave if she is being loaned out to Josh.

Wednesday said...

Anna needs to rescue herself from having more little ones. She is a grown up. And yes, having babies in the Duggar family is a competitive sport.

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately if Jana moved in with Josh and Anna, she still would be a slave. The only thing that would change for that poor girl is the place she lives. She would be doing all of what Anna doesn't want or can't do. She wouldn't have a life of her own, she's be indebted to them now. I wish it would be different but what can that girl do? She isn't trained to do anything besides help out at home and comfort a laboring mother, unofficially, of course, as she hasn't completed any training as a "doula".
Jana really needs some help from her father. He needs to take a heads up and find her the best hubby of them all.. sorry Derick didn't turn out for HER...

puddin' said...

I agree with those of you who think Jana needs a break. I to wish a super nice guy would just swoop her up and away. She seems like such a sweet heart. *FREE JANA*

Anonymous said...

someone posted on another board that Jessa might be pegrent by christmas. I would think that would be sad. normally I would not care but she has no job and he is only 19 they have no way to support a family. I was also wondering if anyone knows if they kids do get some money from doing the show.

no name said...

I want to know what online college Ben attends and why he switched his major from business to political science. Also who pays for the chaperones food when couples go on dates? I also don't get the whole chaperone thing. I know a lot of people that have saved the physical for after marriage and they didn't need chaperones.

sandi said...

I'm pretty sure Jessa and Ben will get their own check once they are married.That's why Josh and or and Anna show up for cetain events..they need to make an appearance to get paid.
Ben may get his own check now,seeing as he is not a Duggar.He did get Jessa the ring,although idk if he had any help from Jim Bob in paying for it.
In any case,being close by ensures he is able to be there for the show now,which is prob. the real reason they moved him to onto property.jmo

leecy said...

For sure Jessa will be pregnant by xmas.....that couple's future marriage is going to be ALL about sex because they are deprived of it now. Didnt Ben's father (in his blog) basically say that young people should get married just because they want to have sex? Never mind having common interests, a strong bond, emotional maturity......it's all about sex. For a family that claims to be so pure, all this family thinks about is sex.

Haley Herring said...

Anna always has her "hands full with the little ones." Poor girl.

Anonymous said...

It must be so hard to have your hands full with little ones when you have all sorts of family helping you out. You would think that no one else has kids in America except these people.

Anonymous said...

It is refreshing to watch a show where everyone isn't swearing and showing ALL their physical features for the whole world to see. Thank you Duggar family.

capslock said...

Does anyone happen to know what Derick and Ben's last names are?!?




Kidding...

Can't they just say Derick and Ben? We don't need to hear their last names 5 times per episode - not to mention I Love You every other scene. What's up with that?

BLB said...

I am embarrassed for Michelle. What a cluck! They have to figure how many wedding guests they will have based on their 19 kids' friends? (Per Michelle, we figure out how many friends and multiply by 19). Huh? How many pals are Jordyn and Josie inviting? No mention of the grooms family's guest list. Wedding is about and for Derick and Jill, not the JB Duggar family! She cannot individulize her children or think about them becoming part of another family.

taurus0385 said...

It makes me so sad that these people rush into marriage to have sex. It also makes me sad that Jana john joy Josiah and jordyn all look so lost and forgotten unless work needs done.

Judy said...

What I am trying to understand is how the Duggars are able to explain to themselves all the fake set ups on the show, for example, looking at fancy wedding venues when they know they're going to get married in a church and have a very modest reception, and saying this is "real life" and "honest."

nightmeri said...

Re: the chaperone thing.
Without constant chaperone's people would make speculations, such as that Jill and Derick "had" to get married. I am saying this as a woman who married when pregnant with her second child, so I am not implying personal judgement, just explaining their rationale--chaperones certify purity.

emm said...

With the weddings and babies this is a smart way to keep the ratings coming in and the gravy train rolling! I do feel bad though for all the children. I wish that someday one or more of them will find the courage to break free!

Anonymous said...

I too would like to know if the kids and young adult children get money from the show. the Gosselin kids never did until a public fuss was made and I don't understand why nothing is ever said about these kids deserving an income from the show too. Hasn't the show been on for many years? Surely they deserve something!!

Susan

Anonymous said...

No sympathy from me for Anna. Her wedding vows stated she would live under the authority of her husband and produce as many children as God gives them.....which means NO birth control.

Stupid is as stupid does.

CannedSoup said...

Why did they build derby cars in the house when they have roomy out-buildings?

Why did Jill wear sandals to hike in a clearly rocky, uneven area? I'm surprised Derick didn't suggest that she wear suitable footwear.

Why is Michelle dictating her children WILL be chaperoned like a prison matron talking to inmates? Her tone of voice was downright scary---and so inappropriate when speaking of her ADULT children.

zebracrossing said...

Jill is wearing Chacos...amazing hiking sandals...I love mine and they are excellent for hiking, actually...

http://www.chacos.com/US/en

Anonymous said...

I can't believe how these engaged adults are treated. Seriously, a 23 year old woman and 25 year old man need a child along with them to ensure they don't "sweet fellowship" their brains out. What a sick, twisted, sex obsessed family.

Anonymous said...

Judy
You made a very valid point. I think Jill knew from the onset of her wedding planning that she would marry in the same exact church as her parents. No way would an ultra fundie couple marry outside-that would be viewed as "too pagan". Nor would they spend the money and get married in a fancy country club type setting. With family friends helping to plan the wedding, making the cheap looking cake-there is no way they would have a professional wedding venue. The trips to see the wedding venues was simply filler for the show, IMO.

Anonymous said...

emm, I can't believe that the public really wants to see, episode after episode of weddings & pregnancies. It seems to me that the whole show is getting old. I really believe that's why JB finally had to let at least one of the girls go. Truthfully, & I hate to say this, but JB saw the potential & has turned those girls into "cash cows!"

Anonymous said...

Re: Canned Soup comments. You hit the nail on the head about Michelle acting like a prison matron. One minute she's talking about how her children set their own guidelines for courtship & engagement, but the next she's dictating that they can only hold hands & have chaperones. It doesn't make sense to me that a family that's all over TV & national magazines, is still trying to keep their kids in the dark ages. They are always talking about how they "purposed" for their children to do this & that as adults, & now they won't let them be adults.

Anonymous said...

Yes, I agree that the courtship standards being the couple's choice is bull-loney. Just like the covering her knees if Michelle's own standard for herself. I sure can see it in the little girls wearing leggings below their knees under a dress or skirt. Sure, that is a 4 year old's own choice...yeah, right. It's put upon them and they know no different. When they "grow up a little" they can choose no other as it isn't comfortable for them already instilled by Michelle. Also, it would be so much better to put those little girls in comfortable short sets for the summer as they wouldn't be exposing their "bottoms" when playing around. Just no common sense there.

Allison said...

Why did Jill wear sandals to hike in a clearly rocky, uneven area? I'm surprised Derick didn't suggest that she wear suitable footwear.

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It looks like she was wearing Teva sandals (possibly this one: http://www.6pm.com/teva-terra-fi-lite-maat-multi) or something similar. They are actually pretty sturdy.

Anonymous said...

I really believe that they don't even check the size of a potential wedding venue before visiting it. That makes totally sense if you are planning a 1000-person-wedding *headdesk*

CannedSoup said...

The sandals may be "sturdy" but having open-toe, open-heels in wilderness areas is still not particularly safe--stubbed toes, cuts, possible critter bites, etc.

And, further, on Michelle's, "they WILL have chaperones," ---I know it isn't particularly fair to say you are starting to dislike someone you've never met, and I did not dislike Michelle to that point---but, her tone of voice was so dictatorial, so angry-like, that it really changed my view of her to the negative. Since I am also a Christian, this bothers me that I have those negative feelings towards a fellow believer---but I really hope she and JB lighten up, take a step back, and reconsider how almost mean they are sounding towards the activities of their adult children and those children's friends and/or boyfriends/girlfriends. I am finding it scary...not loving.

Anonymous said...

I am already really disappointed in this season! 4 episodes in and it is even more boring than endless trips to the dentist episodes. The conversations between the courting couples are so bland and vanilla. Where's the chemistry? I wish TLC would end this show!

Here's to hoping! said...

Poor Jill and her morning sickness.
I hope they don't film her during that time.
She is pretty ill I hear.
If she is as sick as I was for all 5 of my pregnancies, the last thing she will need to is to be plopped in front of a camera.

I, too, like the idea of "FREE JANA"

I wish I had a single brother to send her way. :)

Wouldn't that make a great show...an elopement?

I think Jessa's idea of an ice cream only reception is awesome.
We had pork chops for our rehearsal dinner and it was fab.

I hope Jessa does something totally unorthodox for her wedding. AND, I hope she and Ben launch into at least ONE kiss before the wedding...on film! :)
What would the chaperone do? Stand there and watch and then what? Tattle? To whom? Mommy? Daddy? Ben's parents would probably pat him on the back and say, "Finally!" and Jessa's parents would... what? Ground her? After all, these are JESSA's and BEN's rules for courtship.

So...I'll keep my fingers crossed that at least one of the Duggar children will at least KISS before the wedding.

I dated plenty of young men who were horrible kissers...and it only took one kiss for me to realize that I just wasn't that into them. :) Glad I found someone who knows how to plant one on me. lol!

Anonymous said...

I have read the girls' book, Growing Up Duggar, has sold over 500,000 copies. I know authors get about 15% of the cover price per book, no matter what the book actually sells for, i.e., discounts don't effect the author's income.

The list price for the book is $21.99, so 15% would be about $3.30 per book, rounding up. At 500,000 books, that's $1.65 million, divided by the four young ladies, minus the agent's cut, which is 10%.

has anyone else heard any sales figures for the book? I think there's a lot more money in Duggar land than people think. I also hope that their parents haven't screwed them out of their rightful money!!

Joan

Anonymous said...

I have sympathy for Anna. marrying that young, she had no idea what she was getting herself into. I think she comes from a small family. People mature and change, especially when they marry so young. Clearly, Josh won't be maturing with Anna, but I do feel sorry for her.

Anonymous said...

Jill and "Derick Dillard" make me want to vomit. Having not been brought up in Duggarland I thought he would be a refreshing dose of maturity and normalcy. Since they can never have a private moment there seems to be no depth to their relationship. If I have to listen to Jill say "Awww you're so sweet ::giggle::" every time Derick says or does anything at all one more time I'm going to toss my Stella through the TV. Are they even allowed to hold hands more discreetly? When meeting with the cake lady I noticed they always have their hands so prominently displayed above the table like "hey look at us". Wouldnt it be more natural to have your hands hanging by your side?? I had flashbacks of the Josh and Anna "hand sexing" fiasco immediately preceding their engagement.
And what's with the facial hair on these guys? When DD was in Nepal I thought he had that look going because he was kind of roughing it over there, but now he just looks homily. And don't even get me started on Ben. He would be quite handsome if he shaved and got that Jim Bob helmet under control.

Speaking of Jessa and Ben, I've had to hear this whole "giving pieces of your hear away" nonsense for years! Now they are making it so evident that they are just hypocrites. How is going on about marriage and engagement "guarding your heart". I had more mature relationships in Junior High.

Now on to Anna. Besides from all of her pro-life propaganda on Instagram, I think she is likeable and genuine. I think she is a great mom and her kids are adorable and seem well behaved.I don't know if she has it in her to compete with Michelle and her number of "blessings" and I hope she doesn't try. I agree with others who have said that she needs to focus her time on the one's she has. Here is my question. If Anna and Josh decide to not have any more blessings and go against the leaving it to God thing...and the pill is equal to abortion, then are they sinning if they continue to have intercourse? Im just confused by all these beliefs and rules.

One last thing. It's obvious to me that these potential wedding venues were never in the running. The country club and Magnolia Gardens or whatever probably paid for a little publicity. God forbid they have a wedding anywhere other than some ginormous evangelical auditorium with no decorations or character. Anyone could have seen that from a mile away. I can't name 5 people that I know who would attend a wedding with no open bar, apparently these people know a thousand.

Anonymous said...

I am not impressed with Derick at all. He's along for the money train too. No maturity or independence in him and he doesn't strike me as very bright. Regarding his "accounting" degree, if he had really succeeded in his accounting studies he'd hold a CPA license. He does not. Now that would be a real ticket out of there. For now, though, at least he has a job (although I'd be surprised if it's really full-time). In that sense, he has a leg up over anyone else around there; however, deep down he's just another puppet for the Duggars, controlled by Jill. Mark my words, it won't be long and he'll quit whatever job he has because it'll be too much like work.

Anonymous said...

Jill & Derrick pick the church where JB & Michelle got married.
What a shocker! I'm sure there was NO parental pressure (eyes roll with sarcasm). The parking lot was so much prettier than the golf course and the garden.

In a couple different places, Jessa looked like she was feeling the "third wheel" syndrome, trailing along after the lovebirds. I also feel she looked uncomfortable when Jill hinted that she'd be next to get married when they were visiting the cake lady's house. Jessa smiles but seems resigned to the fact that she will marry Ben whether she wants to or not. They might be confusing teenaged hormones with true love.

Anonymous said...

what I don't understand about the dress code for the girls, is that Dresses make a woman more likely to be exposed. Especially active kids like the Duggars. Pants would provide more modesty when they are running/playing, working, etc. If anything, dresses are a more sexual way of dressing. In a dress, a woman is more readily available for a quickie, than when wearing pants.

In many episodes, the kids do seem pretty happy, and they do seem loving and reasonably bright. But so many of the rules are so dumb and based on extremely false logic.

I agree that Michelle is the crazier one, between she and JimBob. At least Jim Bob seems to enjoy being around all of his kids. And I think he has taught the kids a fair number of useful skills.

Michelle on the other hand has taught the girls to use a can opener.

Anonymous said...

Duggars do the opposite of what they say. People do not believe them any longer.

Anonymous said...

Re: the dress code

My personal opinion is that the whole dress code is Bill Gothard's sexual fantasy. Yes, dresses make it easier for a quickie and are more likely to expose a woman's legs or whatever. Also, I think Bill Gothard has a foot fetish. Thus, the flip flops or sandals. The Duggars don't mind showing their feet, which some men find sexual. The whole modesty thing is just a guise to get women to dress to suit a sexual fantasy, including the long wavy hair. JMO

Jeannine Guidry said...

The voices that both Jill and Jessa use when they are talking to their respective partners is downright irritating. Not to mention the way that they are constantly staring at them when they are around them. It really drills in the fact that they have no idea about relationships and are so emotionally stunted. No normal girl in her 20's should act like that.
Don't even get me started on this wedding. I am happy for both of them and all, but who needs over 1,000 people there?

Anonymous said...

Jim Boob plays with his kids. He also pushes them out of the way, hogs the spotlight and makes every decision. They are required to obey him in all things. I do not see him as a good parent.

Anonymous said...

When they started looking at the wedding venues, michelle jumped in to shake hands first and then started saying "I'm the mother of the bride" over the venue owners congratulating jill and derick. Way to steal jill's thunder.

Anonymous said...

Regarding his "accounting" degree, if he had really succeeded in his accounting studies he'd hold a CPA license.

That is a completely untrue. I was CPA and worked in a CPA firm for 7 years, I made more money and worked less once I got out of public accounting. And I know plenty of people that are CPA's that are idiots. Having your CPA does not indicate the level of success you will have in life.

geistmadl said...

some authors only get 10-15% of the wholesale price which is 55 to 60% less than the cover price.

Anonymous said...

As an accountant, just as with other trade professions like law and medicine, holding a CPA license certainly makes a difference. He will be much more limited in his career options without the CPA credential. Most likely, he couldn't pass the CPA exam.

pretty girl said...

do the kids get paid to be on the show? I think they need to address this issue. because if it is true then ben can support Jessa. but he is still way to inmature to get married from what I can see from the show. I still cannot understand why derrick would agree to be on the show. I would think my now he would take jill and move far away. seem like a smart guy and very mature maybe because of his mother. is in that area.

Anonymous said...

I don't think Jim Bob considers letting the "kids" get paid until they get married and establish their own homes. Perhaps Derick loves Jill and she feels parental pressure to keep up the family business so he goes along.

Eostara said...

How old is Derick? Maybe he hasn't got his CPA license yet, because he spent two years in Nepal?

Also I don't understand all the speculation that Derick would be less fundie than the Duggars. He contacted Jim Bob and asked him to become his prayer partner. There are only two possibilities why he did this. Either he really just wanted to have Jim Bob as a prayer partner, in that case, one can assume that he knows the Duggars from church and / or TV and is well acquainted with their opinions and way of life.
Or he used that as a pretext to become a possible partner for one of the daughters. And going through all that "trouble" means, that he is on the same page as the Duggars.

Anonymous said...

Yes they are TV celebrities...a highly paid profession here in the US. They are probably set for life. So even if Ben is "acting" like he is working for Jim Bob making a hired hand's wage, in all reality he is making oodles from starring on TLC. He will make even more when he marries Jessa, no doubt. Her share will become His.

Anonymous said...

I have as much respect as I can for Anna though she's married to Josh. I also think she's a great mother

Anonymous said...

This season is so staged it is laughable! Like, Jill was EVER going to choose that country club or outside wedding venue. Totally TLC's idea with those, since they have success with Four Weddings on there network. We the viewers know there was Noway she would choose anything other than a church! Maybe, if they would have considered their own compound, I might have bought it. Especially since they consider that their church.
This season has been plain filler so far and lots of boring, boring, boring staged junk. Even the Mother's Day dinner was a snoozefest. Since the whole storyline revolved around Jessa burning remade rolls, why not have her put her all into making them from scratch and getting her future in laws reaction to her attempt at real cooking?
I can't believe how nothing happened in the last two episodes other than Jessa and Ben going to the shooting range.How captivating-Not!
And the other episode Derrick makes lunch-hummus and chick peas. If this is the most exciting plots the writers could come up until the wedding airs...zzzzzz.snoozefest for sure!

pretty girl said...

i would really be up to jim bod since jill and the others are over 19 and should be getting seperate checks from the show. I really wonder about that. I would think it is sad that they would just fork over all the money to their father.

Anonymous said...

My DIL earned a masters degree in accounting and then had to study for and take several exams to earn her CPA. It's definitely NOT easy!

Anonymous said...

RE: Anonymous9/14 @1:17am.You are absolutely correct. Just because Derick studied to be an accountant, unless he's taken the exam & passed he's not a Certified Public Accountant. You can go through 4 years of nursing school & graduate, but if you don't take the licensure exam you will not be a registered nurse, you'll be working as a nurses aide. I have a friend that's been an accountant for 30 yrs. but he has never taken the exam to become a CPA, he calls himself an accountant, because that's what he studied in college. His son , studied at the same college but took the exam & is a CPA. That made a huge difference in his career. Some workplaces refer to any accountant working for them as a CPA. Having your, CPA may not make you a genius, but it will probably get you in the door for a job. Let's face it there are geniuses & idiots in every profession. Lets just hope Josiah gets his chance to become an accountant. Seems like that's what he's wanted to do for sometime.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to disagree with so many that think Jim Bob is actively involved with the kids. It has always seemed "fake," to me. Several time 3 or 4 of the little ones were climbing on him & he acted like he didn't know what to do with them & was really pushing them away. It doesn't seem as natural as what other dads do playing with their kids. I think it's all for the camera & he didn't interact with the kids when they were toddlers, so now it doesn't come naturally to him. I don't believe in letting the kids win at ever challenge he presents to them, but he's just brutal for a man his age, when he has to win at everything.

Anonymous said...

Re: Anonymous comment 9/11 @11:08op I really hope Anna & Josh don't keep having kids every couple of yrs. The have 3 beautiful children & she is just starting to homeschool Mac, wait until she has 3 at the table at the same time. If they decide not to have a baby every yr. or so, I don't think they will ever use the, "birth control pill." I believe they may decided to go with something like the rhythm method, if they even know what that is. I know their children are beautiful, but so are Jim Bob & Michelle's. Just because they are beautiful to look at doesn't mean you should have one after another. I will always remember wishing JB or Michelle would pick up Jordyn when she was just starting to walk & really cuddle her & kiss her. How often do we see themkiss their kids.

Wednesday said...

Eostara.."Also I don't understand all the speculation that Derick would be less fundie than the Duggars."
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I agree. He isn't the hero in the story who is going to save Jill from this lifestyle and ride off into the sunset. He was not hired to be there, he is there because he is part of this lifestyle. He is a fundie. He doesn't look like the Duggars but he is there because he is a fundie or Jimbo wouldn't let him anywhere near the family. He isn't going to have a beer, take Jill dancing, or teach her about birth control. She wouldn't want him if he did.

Anonymous said...

Regardless of what Jim Bob's desires are regarding their paychecks, TLC is a corporation doing business with them and their "18 and over aged" children in which the producers and television network have to follow the law regarding pay to the adult children who appear on the show. If the law says they must receive separate checks in their names, they must do so. Jim Bob doesn't call the shots on everything as he has to follow the legal law, too. I'm very sure his lawyers advise him to do so. Now, what the single adult kids do with their checks, even if it be "sign the back" and turn it over to Jim Bob's Family Trust Account, well, that would be between the family....and I'm sure Daddy Dearest doesn't lose a dime in the process....as he has authority over his kids and they will do what he says. I doubt that they even realize they have a legal choice in the matter, which is the sad part about these people.
Something as simple as Michelle stating on a rerun recently about she and the girls wearing pants, she stated that that was HER conviction to wear skirts and pants, and , "yes" the girls "have a choice in the matter", but she then goes on to say that wearing skirts and dresses are that they have known, which means to me, that HER will was imposed on them from childhood, as the never put a pair of shorts, capris, or pants on her daughters from birth, which, IMO, would be more modest when they rolled over and played as kids, and more comfortable, and cooler than wearing those stupid over the knee leggings under a skirt, which is a double layer of clothing and so hot in the Arkansas summer....So, what choice did these girls have, No choice at all..just come out and admit it, Michelle, it's obvious to us all.
Also, Jim Bob and Michelle answered the "dancing question" and their answers didn't jive. She said it's "just a family conviction to not dance", Jim Bob made a sexual reference to it as watching a female "move" would stir up "those desires". Another contradiction is about the number of kids they have...she says she leaves it up to God, he says he leaves it up to Michelle.. which when I last checked, Michelle was NOT God. They also are never asked to explain their responses by the producer asking the questions, no follow up ones based on their preliminary response. Very irritating.

Anonymous said...

Oops..meant their network not there
And premade rolls not remade

Melanie said...

I agree! I have an accounting degree (no CPA license) and I earn a 6-figure salary.

Quiana said...

UGH! Does anyone else think once Josh got married to Anna he became controlling and sexually demanding behind the scenes? Like Josh started watching lots of porn and forces Anna do to the things he watches. I totally see that when I look at them! lol

Anywoo I haven't seen the shed Ben is living in any pictures? Also I too think it's so messed up that these kids rush into marriage so they can kiss, mess around and bone. Also how can anyone know if they really like someone if you can never even have a private personal conversations with them. Really really sad :/

Anonymous said...

Just chiming in with those that have accounting degrees. I've been an accountant for 28 years making low six figures. Never aspired to become a CPA. Just because you have an accounting degree doesn't mean you have to have a CPA license.

taurus0385 said...

I just think that it's sad that they liked the other locations but they just had to pick cross church. I call bull that it's the only place that would hold all their guests. Further more why isn't any of Derek's family helping with the wedding planning? I know his mom is sick but they should still include her with some things. And doesn't his brother have a girlfriend that I'm sure is close with the family?

no name said...

I don't understand if there motto is to buy used and save the difference why they don't have real dishes and silverwear. They would save so much money this way. Also wanted to point out that derick may not be that fundie. His brother is dating a girl, they never said they were courting. Also I don't think derick knew anything about it. Most people don't because it isn't practiced much in this day and age.

Willow said...

The long time tradition is that the bride's family is responsible for (and pays for) the wedding and the groom's family is responsible (and pays for) for the rehearsal dinner. Of course, the families with class always find ways to make the other family feel a part of things, asking for suggestions, requests, etc. Of course, sometimes the couple handles some or all of the plans and/or pays for things. I have seen couples who live together for a length of time go ahead and pay for the wedding themselves and have a smaller one with less showers/gifts, etc. Things can vary when there are extenuating circumstances. I really hope Derick's mom got to have a request or input, if she was up to it at all. I'm sure she was sad to miss out.

Mary said...

Oh please duggar men do not do house work

taurus0385 said...

What would happen if one of the kids decided they didn't want to be chaperoned during courtship/engagement. Would the parents honor it since the kids are supposed to make their own relationship rules?

Anonymous said...

Re: "what would happen if one of the kids decided not to partake of the courting rules?" I'll tell you what would happen,,, they wouldn't be allowed to "date" the person..or they would be shunned and excommunicated..they have NO choice in the matter contradictory to what they spew.

Wednesday said...

Children are individuals who may follow different paths. Derick's brother may be dating and his mother may have a mainstream hairstyle but that does not mean that mainstream is what Derick has chosen for his future. He has proclaimed through his wedding vows that he will have as many children as God gives him. Jim Bob approved him to court Jill. To me that says that at some point Derick has arrived at the Duggar brand of religion. The mission that Derick was on was probably sponsored by a church. Did they ever say which organization it was?

Anonymous said...

I just wonder if they fight like real couples do or do the ladies just give in a smile at there husbands like Ann and Michelle looks at Josh, and Jimbob just smile and nod. there are time i get so mad at my husband , you know even after you 1st get married that when you real get to know people , or do they rise there girls to think the husband is always right

Anonymous said...

Part of an Article that was on facebook a bit ago: Dr Pepper....really!?!?! How tacky!

We tried to think practical since we don't know what we are having yet. I know people are trying to guess, but we don't even know. I came from a large family and my mom used to think – when I'm buying, do I want to go with one theme or be more practical? We are trying to think of gender neutral stuff, trying to think longterm."

The stars of TLC's hit reality show 19 Kids & Counting, airing Tuesdays at 9 p.m., also made news when they selected cereals on their wedding registry.

Back at home, Jill says now that she is into her pregnancy's second trimester, she's feeling much better and enjoying making dinner (sloppy Joes) and plans for the new baby's room.

"We are planning on keeping the baby with us the first few weeks," she says. "We are still trying to decide about whether or not we'll do sleep training, but we will transition the baby into their own room eventually."

Anonymous said...

I have a thought on this "as many children as God allows stuff".
That vow doesn't mean that they will avoid conception. It means, to me, if you want to split hairs, that if their wife were to conceive, they wouldn't abort. To me, that's an "out" for them in the wording. It also doesn't mean that they would "seek to conceive" every possible cycle.
Soooo, I wonder what really is in Derick's mind and in Jessa's mind as to what those words actually can mean.

Anonymous said...

What is "sleep training"?

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said yes they have asked for dr pepper on a baby Registry yes dr pepper and orange soda for late nights really she has helped rise all the little one she is cluess and baby snacks for when they have little teeth bay not even here yet really very sad group of pepole , i thought that would buy used to save what do i know

Katie's Mom said...

Will someone please tell me what "sleep training is? I have never heard that expression before from anyone of the Duggars. I am guessing it is something akin to "blanket training," but I could be wrong.

Beth Anne said...

"Sleep training" may mean different things to different people, and given the Duggar family's involvement in ATI, there may be specific rules they are "encouraged" to follow regarding newborn care. In general, I would assume it's akin to establishing a sleeping/feeding schedule, whereby the baby is scheduled for feeding time during the night instead of feeding on demand, and/or allowing a certain amount of time for baby to cry during the night prior to coming into the nursery and picking the baby up for feeding, comfort, etc. Not all sleep training methods are attached to religious groups or beliefs, but I can't imagine in Duggar land that it would be any other way than what their religious sect has taught is proper sleep training.

Anonymous said...

It seems like Bessa's registery is not as active as Dill's. When the Dills were getting married items were flying off that registry daily, not so much with the Bessa list.

Anonymous said...

I would never use the words "sleep training," with regard to an infant. I might say the baby was on a schedule, but there is something that's not right about the word, "training" in reference to anything about an infant.It's an infant not a puppy. You train a puppy & perhaps schedule an infant.

Anonymous said...

I would never use the word "training," in reference to an infant. It's a baby not a puppy. Perhaps I might say the baby is on a schedule. You train a puppy not an infant.

Anonymous said...

Since Jill is going to breast feed, as formula doesn't seem to meet their belief system, why oh why is she asking for caffeinated beverages? Everyone knows that when you're nursing your diet is a high priority. Mothers should not drink caffeine when nursing, silly girl!
Also, when Jessa suggested that Mr. Jim can sub as their chaperone, he said "that was a role he was NOT going to fulfill". I don't blame him for one moment wanting to stay out of that nonsense.

Wampascat said...

The same people are probably being invited to Jessa's wedding that just shelled out money for a gift for Jill. Folks are probably sick of being hit up by the Duggars for "favors". I wonder when the last time was that Michelle baked 48 cupcakes for someone's wedding or Jim Bob headed down to the mall and plopped down $500 bucks for a Dyson? I'd guess...oh, never!

Lauren Gors said...

I like Jana. She does seem so sweet and I think she is so pretty. I hope she breaks away

Lauren Gors said...

I noticed that too! Her voice was scary at that part!

Lauren Gors said...

To me, whenever Jim Bob or Michelle talk to their kids, it seems like they just met or something. So forced and awkward.

sandi said...

I'm already tired of hearing Michelle talk about Jill's baby as being a new 'GrandDuggar'.
Sorry Michelle,but this baby will be a GrandDILLARD.Think for a change.

hello said...

Michelle only thinks about her family and not any other families involved. When Jill and Derrick got engaged Michelle was babbling about how she was gaining another son. Derrick's mom said she was gaining a daughter and was going to spoil her. Michelle put on the bug eyed look and said-Oh that's right. I am curious about how she is going to feel when Jill has the baby and Derrick's family will most likely want to see the baby a lot since they live nearby. She didn't have that issue to deal with when Anna had babies since her parents live in Florida. Not that Michelle really bonds with her grandchildren as she doesn't even seem to bond with her own kids.

Anonymous said...

Has anyone noticed that Josh and Anna 's children talk strangely? They need to see a speech therapist.

Anonymous said...

Re: Jill's pregnancy. I know that Jill is just over the moon about her pregnancy, but I would really want to have a least sometime alone time with my new husband. All the things newlyweds do; including get-away weekends, preparing for 1st holidays, etc. Unless the circumstances were, that I was pregnant when I married, & I'm not saying that about Jill for even one minute. I would just want that once in a lifetime time, alone time with my new spouse. At least one year of just the two of, us without morning sickness creeping into our lives, & spending all our time in preparation to become parents. They are still very young & there's a lot to be enjoyed as a newlywed. Too bad they been programed to see how quickly they can get a positive pregnancy test.

Anonymous said...

Of course Josh & Anna's children need a speech therapist, but so do a lot of the younger Duggars including, Jennifer, Jordyn,& Josie. I don't think they will ever have them evaluated for anything. There could never be anything wrong with the Duggar children. It was a shock to me to see that little Jenny even got the glasses she apparently needed so badly, if she was suffering from headaches. Wonder who finally convinced Michelle to look into that problem her child had?

Anonymous said...

Of course Josh & Anna's children need a speech therapist, but so do a lot of the younger Duggars including, Jennifer, Jordyn,& Josie. I don't think they will ever have them evaluated for anything. There could never be anything wrong with the Duggar children. It was a shock to me to see that little Jenny even got the glasses she apparently needed so badly, if she was suffering from headaches. Wonder who finally convinced Michelle to look into that problem her child had?

Elspeth said...

Josie is in speech therapy. That's why she can say her "r"s better than Mackynzie.

Anonymous said...

Wonder who finally convinced Michelle to look into that problem her child had?
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Perhaps one of the sister-moms told Michelle about her complaining of headaches. Binocular vision usually kicks in around age 2 so little Jennifer has probably been suffering for several years without the proper vocabulary skills to alert a sister-mom (not her bio mom) that there is a problem. Michelle has popped out 19 babies and then her job as a "parent" is over. She can wander freely around the house, spend time exercising, having long phonecalls with old highschool friends and (of course) a season of sweet fellowship with her horny hubby - such a joy! I don't think I've seen any of the kids (except maybe Josie) run to Michelle in a crisis. The sister-moms are a lot more competent and reassuring in a troubling situation.

Anonymous said...

When was it mentioned that Josie was in speech therapy? I have never heard that or read it in Michelle's "Parentables Articles." I am happy to hear that this is happening, but how can they overlook the others that also need speech therapy? Perhaps it's because Josie was a micro premie that she's entitled to "free therapy"

Sharla said...

Another kindly reminder to not use profanity or vulgarity in your comments. Several have been rejected last night and this morning due to one poorly chosen word. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Thank you Sharla for this. That is why I love this site..you can express your opinion but not in a trashy way. I like how you keep it classy.

Elspeth said...

I'm not sure that Michelle has ever mentioned in Parentables. She has discussed it with locals.

Pam said...

I am glad Josie is getting speech therapy, but many of the other younger kids need it. Josh and Anna's kids do as well. My son is 8 and has been in speech for a long time and probably will be for some time to come.

Anonymous said...

Two out of three of Anna's kids already need speech therapy asap. Many of the Duggar children need it desperately too. I don't know why they don't address these issues for their children. It will/could hinder their lives in the future and those kids already have educational barriers ahead of them and limits their options severely.

Anonymous said...

I also have noticed that all the younger kids, including 2 of Josh's 3 kids all need speech therapy in depth. One can hardly understand any of them and it's already "not cute" speech. Yes, it will hinder them even more in their adult lives. I feel for Michael because he listens to Mackynzie and she's his only peer outlet. Duggars, give your kids what they really need....a real education and the opportunity it will bring. It's a shame that these kids can't attend a real college/community college classroom and see who they can be. It has nothing to do with your religious beliefs, as you can maintain your faith in God while being educated. Doesn't Michelle see "Christian doctors and dentists? So they do exist.